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I started college a year ago and at first things seemed nice, but now I don't like it anymore.
It's way too expensive, my parents didn't save up any money for it so I've already taken out like 12k in federal loans (on top of scholarships). Every semester the tuition is raised more and more and I don't know much longer I'll be able to afford it because I also have a car loan out and have to pay for insurance, groceries, ect.
I'm living on campus and I hate it. All of my roommates have been very rude and act like the space is all theirs to do with as they please, invite people over until crazy hours in the morning, and hog the kitchen. You can't really report them to an RA because then they get revenge on you.
No good jobs will work with my college hours so I keep winding up with crappy minimum wage jobs and I never have any money. I'm constantly sick to death with fear as I see my bank account hit double digits all too much. I haven't been able to afford any new clothes or anything at all so I feel terrible about myself.
Then I constantly hear people say that college degrees don't mean squat anymore, especially not a bachelors. That you have to get at least a Masters and there's NO way I can afford to go to school for 6 years. I don't even know how I'm going to afford next year.
The stress of everything is making me hate the entire experience. I would rather move off campus, work full-time, and take classes at night while trying to work up the ladder.
I don't know how to go about doing this though...I don't have any money saved up and I can never save up enough money to get a place off campus. All my money immediately goes to bills. I can't work and go to school full time because nobody will work with my class schedule. I also can't drop below full-time status as a student without getting kicked off campus.
I don't know a single person looking for a roommate off campus because everybody else has their parents paying for everything. I also can't move back in with my parents.
Help! What do I do?
I understand your problem though dropping out of college is not something I can recommend. In today's job market it is hard to get a decent job without a college degree. While it is easier now for college graduates to find jobs in their field of study, it was only a few years ago college graduates were taking entry level jobs once reserved for high school graduates. That little piece of paper will open many more doors to higher earning jobs then without it.
As for the roommate problem. This is not as uncommon as you may think. The school just lumps people together. They either mesh or they don't. You're going to an RA won't always help. What you can do is go to the housing office and ask to be placed in a new room for the next semester. They may give you 100 reasons why they can't do this or they may just do it for you when you tell them you and your roommates don't mesh. You tell them they are party students and you can't get any studying done.
Remember two things when talking to the housing office. You are now an adult and you are also the customer. Yes you are the one paying for their service and while it is up to you to take advantage academically it is up to them to satisfy you with the other services they provide you that you are paying for. In this case you need a room where you can study so it is either move you or split up your roommates.
We covered the BS about a college degree being meaningless. You did not say why you cannot move back in with your parents. Is it pride or will they not let you. I would find it hard to believe that any parent would not help a child better themselves in any way they could. So they can't help you with college tuition but living with them and helping you with food and shelter is something I believe any parent would always do for their children. If its pride stopping you, swallow your pride and move back in with your parents, it happens to be they way of the world these days.
Dropping out of school and going part-time in the evening is an option. You might lose your scholarships something to talk to student aid about if and when you chose this course of action. How you g about this is go to your student counselor or financial aid or registrar's office and tell them what you wish to do. They will help you with the paperwork needed for the transition and as long as you are carrying a half of a full load of credits any Federal students loans will be held in abatement.
I also suggest you talk to your parents. I'm fairly certain there are things they are willing to do to help you if you ask them. I understand you are an adult know and feel you should not be leaning on your parents. Frankly that is a lot of BS. Like every other phase in your life you have had to crawl before you learned to walk. This is just one more phase in life where you have to learn how to live and survive in an adult world.
My son is 40 years old you would think he doesn't need much from the old man any more. Not true he and his wife call me often asking for suggestions and advice. Why? Simple I'm 30 years older than they are and have seen much more in life than they have and I make a good sounding board for things they may want to do but are unsure of. It is just another phase in life that parents play in the life of their children.
Talk to the school administrators about you roommate problem, about possibly going to school at night. Talk to your parents about living at home while you get your feet firmly planted on the ground. But DON'T drop out of school all together. It is easy to give up on things and it is a cowardly way out of a problem. It is far better to work through a problem and resolve it. You will be better for it and you will feel better about yourself for doing so.
I am 40 years old boy. I love to a other cast widow lady. She has a daughter and I marry to him. But my mother does not want and she is on bed, in bad sing. Please give me advice that what should be do me
It appears English is not your first language. Please take your time and tell us exactly what you would like us to help with. From what you have written I cannot tell what you are asking us for.
I'm not sure what a "cast widow is." This sentence makes no sense, "She has a daughter and I marry to him."
In order for us to offer advice we need to understand your problem. Again take your time and make sure your problem is defined in your question.
my school just got a lacrosse team and but i throw in track since freshmen year and i am going in to my 3rd year of high school. i like throwing but i want something new. i have never played lacrosse but the team is new so they will teach me. if i do lacrosse i feel like i wasted two years doing throwing in track. most of my fellow throwers are doing lacrosse. but i don't know if it is my thing. Help! please.
Is it possible to do both to see which you like. Where I live Track is a Fall sport and Lacrosse is a Spring sport. IF this is true where you live you could try out for the Lacrosse Team to see if you like it. IF you so it may be possible to do both as when you finish with Lacrosse it will be time to start training for Track.
Just a reminder and something to think about. Lacrosse is a very physical sport. It is 60 minutes of running, shoving, pushing and being jabbed with the Lacrosse stick. Are you sure this is what you want and are you up to this?
I caught my step brother what do I do !?
Okay so I lived with my Dad, because my mom didn't want anything to do with me. So he started dating this women, and she had 2 kids. Finally they got married and I was forced to move in with them. I had to leave all my friends, family...etc. Anyways I already have step brothers that live with me. A couple of months ago my dad sadly passed away and I was still forced to live with my step mom because like I said my mom didn't want any thing to do with me. So her 2 kids names are Van(16 yrs old) and Tayler ( 15 yrs old). We have a big family because I have other step siblings so I was forced to share a room with Van and Tayler. So heres what happened. Last night Van snuck out to a party and to meet his girlfriend. I didn't want to have anything to do with it so if he got caught I wasn't covering for his ass. So around 3 am they both came in. btw I share a bed with Van. I think they thought I was asleep but I wasn't. I could tell they had been drinking but anyway he came in and she sat down on my bed. then he came up and they started making out ew gross. So I decided to try to go to bed. I fell asleep for a little bit but when I woke up they were having sex right beside me on MY BED ! it was the most disgusting thing I ever saw I was freaking out inside. Finally I got up and said can you guys do that somewhere else. Yet they proceded with having sex. The next morning she left and I was getting breakfast and Van was down there and was staring at me with a bad look. I said What? then he said Your Dead. He chased me all the way up the stairs and I locked the door and hid in my closet. I can still hear him banging on the door and I'm scared. Should I call my step mom and work and tell her about last night and about what he is doing or what? what should I do!?
First: Even if you and your stepbrother are of the same sex you should not be sharing a bed. Depending on your age difference it may not be right for you two to be sharing a room either.
It was wrong for Van was wrong to sneak out of the house. Children under 18 should not leave the house without parental permission and never after parents have gone to bed. Parents need to know where their children are as they are legally responsible for them and can be help legally responsible for their actions. Van compounded this wrong by bringing someone into the house at that hour without permission , then having sex with her in a bed occupied by you even though it was also his bed.
You can do two things. Yes you should tell your stepmother and if school is still open you should tell a trusted teacher or a principle about your living conditions. Specifically that you must share a bed with your stepbrother. By law the they are required to notify the proper authorities and have Child Protective Services investigate. (CPS)
CPS can force your mother to take you out of that situation. They can also ask any another family member to take you in if there is no other resolution to the situation or you are in any danger from your stepbrother(s).
Also remember if you are ever afraid or in danger you can dial 911 and police will come to your home to keep you safe. You can also go to any Police or Fire Station and ask for help as they are safe havens for children.
I have been struggling with skipping breakfast, lunch and trying to eat as small of a dinner as possible for almost two years. I lost 20 pounds got praise and felt great but now people have realized how I've done it and are concerned they want me to eat but i'm afraid I'll gain back the weight that made me chubby again and I have no idea what to do!
You may not like what I am about to tell you but you have to hear it before you do any more harm to yourself. You have developed an eating disorder and that disorder is very close to anorexia nervosa.
Definition
Anorexia nervosa is a psychiatric disorder characterized by an unrealistic fear of weight gain, self-starvation, The disorder may be fatal. The name comes from two Latin words that mean nervous inability to eat.
The body needs a certain amount of calories a day to maintain itself. Think of your body as a car. Your heart is the engine and your brain is the computer control system. The primary function of your body is to maintain the brain. Body fat is the reserve fuel the body calls on when you do not take in enough calories or if you over exercise past your intake on any given day.
If there is no body fat the body starts to shut down different systems. Depending on your age the body starts with the least needed system and moves on from their. In young women it can stop puberty. Breast stop growing, periods are missed. She will have kidney problems. Eventually at its extreme the lungs will shut down, then the heart and finally the brain and you die.
I urge you to start eating three nutritious meals a day. See your doctor or a nutritionist for help on how many calories a day you need to maintain a proper body weight.
You also need to have a full physical including an exam by your GYN. Eating as you have been for as long as you have may have already done harm to you that you are not aware off but still may be rectified. PLEASE UNDERSTAND I AM NOT TRYING TO SCARE YOU, THOUGH THIS IS LIFE AND DEATH SERIOUS. DO NOT WAIT UNTIL YOU GET BEYOND THE POINT OF MEDICAL INTERVENTION.
If you cannot force yourself to eat three GOOD meals a day then you are in need of help for an eating disorder. This help comes from specialist trained in this area and are Certified by the Board of Psychiatrists in this disorder. You will also need the help of a psychologist for talk therapy. ONCE AGAIN PLEASE DO NOT WAIT. SEE YOUR DOCTOR ASAP.
I need a list of jobs that don't require working around a lot of people.
Dragonflymagic is correct in telling you that rather than settle for a job that lets you anxiety control you. You should try and get control of your anxiety But for something like this you cannot do it because we and maybe other people are telling you to do it. You have to want to do it for yourself for all the right reasons.
My brother in-law is a 25+ recovering alcoholic. In aa they tell you a person needs to hit bottom before they will seek help. Another way of putting it is you can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink.
There are plenty of jobs out there for people that don't want to interact with other people and some of them are even good paying jobs. Problem is in getting the good paying jobs you need to be able to interact well at least in the interview.
These jobs would be the route sales jobs of those people that deliver and stock the shelves at supermarkets. They would be the Soda, beer, wine, potato chip and bread vendors. You go inventory your space go out to the truck and bring in fresh stock. It is hard physical work though it pays very well.
If you are still living at home you may be covered under a parent's EAP program from work. This program will pay for a certain amount of visits with a psychologist to work with to help you with your social anxiety. If you are under 26 under certain conditions after the EAP program stops paying your parents health insurance will cover a portions of your therapy visits.
Please consider getting help for this problem as there is a whole wide beautiful world out there than you will be missing if you don't.
If your the breadwinner of a relationship of 4years and the other mate leaves to stay somewhere else because they stressed about not having a job or being able to do more and not tell you where they staying, and they haven't had a stable job in 4years, Do you stay with them or leave?
This is one of those questions that we are damned if we do and damned if we don't. If we tell you to leave and you find out you can't live without the other then we gave you bad advice. If we tell you to find the other person and get them to come back and stay with them. Then you you're miserable we are again wrong and have given you bad advice.
You need to sit down and have a conversation with yourself and decide what this person means to you. First put aside this person not having a job as this is very much a part of this day and age.
Now think about what this person means to you. for years is a long time for two people to stay together. Do you love this person? Do you see yourself spending the rest of your life with this person? What has your relationship[ been like over the last four years? Has it been a loving stable relationship or has it been a rocky argumentative relationship?
Not having a stable job is something that can be corrected if you can understand the reason why For some people it is a lack of education or training. This is correctable either by returning to school or enrolling in a trade school. Lack of self-esteem may also be an issue both in your relationship and in the ability to hold a steady job. This too is correctable. Do you want to help this person correct these issues if so can you.
For the self-esteem issues you have a steady job that if it offers health insurance it may also offer an Employee Assistance Program(EAP). These EAP programs are generally available to anyone living with you in your home. IF yours has this coverage I would suggest counseling with a psychologist to get help with this issue. Most programs pay for a certain amount of visits in full. After that you would need to pay out of pocket if this person is not covered by insurance.
You did not say why this person has trouble keeping a job. If it is for a lack of education or training then going back to school or going to a trade school is the answer. Sometimes we have skills and training for which jobs are just not available. As much as we want to work in a certain career field we need to be realistic and find another field we could work in and go get the required education and training for that field.
For my soon his dream job was to be a firefighter. While there are plenty of openings there are thousands of applicants for every opening, it's a numbers game. While any firefighters job would do he was more specific in wanting an airport firefighter position.
After many several years of applying to many departments he got the dream job he wanted because he had the qualifications they wanted. While he waited he became a paramedic and the airport wanted paramedic/firefighters. Most paramedics do not want to be firefighters. This was a job requirement and of the dozen that applied he scored the highest on the tests and had all the firefighting qualifications even though he would have to go through the training academy.
I've told you this story because dream jobs can be had. It's a waiting game and a numbers game. While you wait you continue to build your resume with qualifications to make you stand out when you continue to apply for openings.
IF this person has issues with self-esteem they need to be fixed as they can and do come out in interviews. Now take all of what I have written into consideration and decide if you stay or leave.
I hope this helps.
I am 29 my partner is 33, we been friends with benifits/dating for three years now. We both have one daughter each both are 5. We live in separate places see each other as much as possible. We are always sexuly busy when near each other. He's not one for doing for play even tho I enjoy it very much he just likes to go right at it. I need to orgasm with him he is starting to get faster at ed with this problem as am I. If I can just orgasm with him our relationship will start to get on track again. PLZ HELP AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE
The first part of any advice I give when sex is a problem or there is any form of sexual dysfunction is to communicate. Sex like anything else in any type of relationship requires all parties to communicate with each other.
As well as I know my wife and we have been married 45 years next month, I haven't learned to read her mind. I might be able to tell something is wrong sexually or otherwise but just what that is she needs to tell me or I can't fix it. The same is true for me with her. Be it 45 years or 3 years you cannot have a successful relationship without communication.
You want foreplay, then tell him and show him what you need. Yes my wife had to show me what she liked for it turns out she is more clitoral than vaginal. Something I was not aware of. We could not have had as good a sexual relationship had she not told me no matter how much foreplay I did. So talk with him and tell him you need foreplay to climax. Sex is 50/50 you have to enjoy it and climax too.
You mentioned he has some erectile dysfunction. Sometimes this is caused from to much stress and snowballs because no man likes not being able to perform in bed. He is also at an age when ED strikes. In today's world ED is nothing to be embarrassed about. You can't watch TV at night without seeing a commercial for Viagra or other ED help medication.
Once again communication is key. Talk to him, be supportive and understanding. Ask him if you can go with him to his doctor. Most ED problems can be helped with Viagra or the other medications on the market and can give you both several hours of pleasure without worry.
MY advice is to talk to him but not in the bedroom. Curl up with him on the couch, after the children are in bed. Have a glass of wine and talk to him. There should be no reason to adults should not be able to talk to each other about a shared sex life. Be they friends with benefits or lovers in a long term relationship.
I have smallest breast
I will start by assuming you are female since you did not say your sex and we get the most mail from women on breast size. At your present age the size of you breast are what you will have probably for the rest of your life. It is possible that after pregnancy and breast feeding you will retain a larger breast size but there is no guarantee of this.
With this is mind there are only two options for you to have a bigger bust line. The first and most inexpensive way is to purchase padded bras. The second is to have plastic surgery for breast enhancement. To have this surgery done right you want to find a Board Certified Plastic Surgeon. As this is a doctor who has under gone additional training in plastics and received certification from the college of Plastic surgeons.
A good breast enhancement can run anywhere from $10,000 dollars and up for these implants are place under the muscle and is a more intricate surgery than the lesser costing ones. The surgery's' that cost less especially those in the $5.000 range just push the implant in under through the nipple and you will be able to see a telltale ring nipple against your chest wall which shouts enhancement.
Speaking for many men me included if you are not completely flat chest and have say an "A" cup which is proportionate to your petite body. I would not recommend doing anything other than getting a good non padded bra. There are many of us who like small breasted proportionate women.
In case your male and you have breast tissue see your doctor. If your doctor agrees this is breast tissue than you have a medical condition which your insurance will cover and you can see a plastic surgeon plastic or general to have the tissue removed.
Okay im 17 years old and theres this guy. We arent together but we have had sex multiple times . We have always used comdoms because i always like to me safe . So one day he txted me saying he wanted to cum in me ?? .it took me by suprise. This is because we dont date and we really dont talk rather than having sex . I told him i was not on birth control but he said soo ... i followed up by saying im not trying to get pregnant. And said that me or him isnt ready for a child . Then i asked what if i het pregnant. He said that he would take kare of it. .. now im scared to have sex with him wat should i do ? . Ps he is sooooo handsome and have very pretty blue eyes
Call me old fashion but what your saying is this guy is basically a friend with benefits. I think you are far to young to have that type of sexual relationship. Yes your 17 coming on 18 and soon will be entitled to an adult sexual relationship. That relationship though should be with someone you have a loving interest in not someone just for recreational sex.
Since you are having and active sex life then you can and should be on birth control. Since you were 14 you by law were able to ask any doctor or clinic for birth control without parental permission or knowledge. The law is called HIPPA and it gives anyone over the age of 14 the absolute privacy over their reproductive system. Your parents and anyone else cannot see the medical records of any doctor or hospital visit where there was an examination of your reproductive system without your written consent.
Of course as soon as you turn 18 your parents no longer have control over your medical needs even if you are still on their insurance. Until then the HIPPA law insures you have the right to see a doctor anytime you have a question or problem concerning your reproductive system. Which is why you can ask your doctor or any doctor or clinic for birth control. Which you should do ASAP just mention the HIPPA Law.
Even on birth control you should not allow guy to have sex with you without using a condom. The condom makes birth control 99.999% effect as well as protecting you from many STDS and the HIV/AIDS virus.
I am 14 yrs old and my parents are pretty strict about me dating and have said that i cannot date till i am a sophomore(even though my older brother dated a girl in eighth grade). I am in eighth grade and we have a semiformal and a boy asked me and i said yes and now I don't know how to tell my parents and I am scared to even tell them. How should i tell them and what do i do if they say no?
I think you are worried over nothing. This is not the type of dating your parents may be forbidding. This is a date where you will be well Chaperoned by teachers and school administrators. Either your parents or his will pick you up and take you to the dance and bring you home. There will not be a time when you and the boy will not be under the watchful eyes of an adult.
This is dating with training wheels so to speak. It allows you to have a date with a boy and see what dating is like. It gives both of you a chance to learn the proper elements of dating (Call this parent talk). As you get older and develop more into a women boys will become all hands trying to get you to do things you shouldn't or don't want to do. This happens when you are on un-chaperoned dates such as going to the movies or bowling. Things like that.
There is a double standard when it comes dating. As parents we want our daughters to be older and more mature before we allow them to date. After all they and not our sons are the ones that can get pregnant. That is why your brother was allowed to date in the eighth grade. I'm also sure your dad and possibly your mom had a talk with your brother as I had with my son on his first date as to where to keep his hand and other parts of him while he was out with his girl friend.
To answer your question: Just tell mom a boy has asked you to a school dance. I think she will be thrilled. Have the boys phone number handy as mom may want to call and talk with his mom if she doesn't know the boy. That's just something parents do and nothing to be embarrassed about. You will do the same when you have a daughter and she is invited to a school dance. Trust me on this for my sister said she would never do it but she did for her two girls.
Hey im 13 year old and female
this will be short. I like this dude at my church. And he likes younger girls.(he is 17)IDK how to get him to like me tho. plz help i at least need some advice on how to get his to kiss me
It is okay to have a crush on him, you will have more than this one crush in your lifetime. In this instance it is not okay to act upon this crush as he is much to old for you.
Right now a 4 year age difference is to big of a difference for the two of you to be anything more than Church acquaintances. You have just entered you teens and he is about to become an adult. He is way to worldly in many ways and he should be seeing and dating girls his own age. In a few months when he turns 18 dating someone your age could put him in jail.
When your older and an adult a 4 year age difference is not a much of a big deal as it is now. For now stay within your own age group of 13 & 14 year olds.
Im 15 and I want to get pregnant but..im scared...about how my parents would react if I got pregnant so early...I really wanna have a baby..I just think there so cute...id love to have one of my own...tho..:(
Babies are cute. But babies grow into little kids, little kids grow into big kids and with them come a lot of responsibilities you are just not prepared to handle. Baby's need to be fed, clothed, taken to the doctor for medical check-ups and shots. Baby's and young children grow like weeds and are constantly needing new clothes, shoes, school supplies and food.
When children are young they can go through food like nobody's business. A gallon of milk can be gone in two days. Clothes and shoes may last six months. Then there is the doctor, the dentist and the orthodontist. The government says it takes $2,500 dollars a year to raise a child, that's a joke. Multiply that by 4 or 5 times and you might be close.
I wouldn't worry about how your parent will react to you getting pregnant. That is the least of your problems. I would worry more about how you are going to care for this child. At 15 you have not even finished high school. Sure you can get a GED but that is not going to get you a good job. It might get you a job slinging hamburgers and even at $15 an hour you are not going to be able to afford what you need to raise this child.
Forget about getting married and having a two person income. There are very few men out there even today willing to take on the responsibilities of someone else's child. Thinking about welfare forget it that's a joke too. You will never have enough money on welfare to live as you do now and afford the things you enjoy now.
Yes babies are cute but wait until you are old enough and have finished your education are married and are able to give your child the love and affection it deserves. TO have a child now you will end up resenting that child in the future and that's wrong.
I'm 21 and 4ft 10. My ideal weight according to my general care doctor is between 90 and 115 pounds. For a long while, I was right around 75-78 pounds, but I took the advice of my doctor to gain weight and right now I'm 84 pounds. I'm really not happy with this weight gain though because I feel like it's made a noticeable difference in my body that I don't like.
For example, I used to be able to see my ribs and I was okay with not being able to see them so much, but now I can't see very much of them at all. I also feel like I have a little bit of a pouch now on my stomach instead of it being flat like it was.
I also have B-cups which looked really good with my former weight because I was all proportional, but now I feel like they look smaller, since I've filled out around my stomach and hips more.
Anyways, I want to lose the weight I've gained now, and those close to me are concerned that I have something wrong with me, but I just don't like how I look right now and I never had any health complications when I was 75 pounds so what's the hurt?
I really don't like my current weight at all, every time I change clothes I feel like I look different and I can't stand the little bit of a pouch that I have now. It makes me paranoid all day long.
Is it wrong that I want to be underweight if it wasn't causing any health concerns?
Your doctor should have told you how bad it is to be underweight. It is actually far worse to be 10 pounds underweight than 10 pounds overweight.
The primary objective of our bodies is to keep the brain functioning. To do this the body needs to take in so many calories a day and have a certain reserve of stored fat. When your underweight you do not have the required amount of stored fat and you most likely are not taking in enough calories. When that happens the body en essence starts to feed on itself by attacking other systems.
In females one of the first system it attacks is the reproductive system. Underweight women have irregular period if they have a period at all and they have trouble getting pregnant. If the body still needs more energy then it will start attacking and shutting down other vital organs until finally the brain dies.
This is the problem with people who suffer from anorexia. I'm not saying this is your problem but being under weight as you are the problems and the harm you are doing to your body are the same. Have you ever noticed young female Olympians generally if they have any breasts at all they are usually small breasted. They also do not get a period. The reason is they train so hard they cannot take in enough calories to sustain themselves so this is a system that lies dormant until they stop training. Then that part of puberty hits them like a house on fire.
While I am not a doctor I would I am a parent and a grandparent and actually old enough to be your great grandparent. I would like to see you gain between 15 & 23 more pounds to put you in a healthy weight category. As far as any pouches you can go to a gym and see a physical trainer and ask for help in toning those areas.
Do you only orgasm when two ppl are physically attracted to each other? I have a cute but not sexy looking boyfriend and I have been experiencing a very hard time try to orgasm and not sure why I can't anymore with him
Since it is possible to orgasm through masturbation I think you can rule out physical attraction as a requirement to orgasm.
As to why you can't orgasm with your partner I would need to know more about you. Knowing your age would be a big help as well as knowing how long you know each other and how long you have been physically intimate.
Here are some reasons I can think of that you can consider if any fit your situation.
1. If you two are teenagers then the first few times are exciting regardless of where and when you are intimate. Then the it becomes routine and maybe a bit uncomfortable. Being uncomfortable can mean physically uncomfortable with where you are having sex, in the back of a car, on the ground under the school bleachers on an old couch in his basement. Fear of discovery by a parent or sibling.
2. You are old enough to be roommates. Sex has become routine sort of wham bam thank you maam style. Not enough foreplay to excite you prior to intercourse and he climaxes before you can. If this is the case you need to find way to slow him down and add some excitement to your sex life.
3. Sex with this partner was new and exciting enough that any type of foreplay made you ready. You might be one of the females who is more clitoral in nature than vaginal. Being more clitoral you need your clitoris stimulate during foreplay and need to use positions that allow for clitoral stimulation. Most men during foreplay give vaginal stimulation over clitoral stimulation for that is what they have learned from watching and reading pornography. No one has ever told them that some women need clitoral stimulation.
If your not sure about which you are try masturbating only fingering yourself. If you find it hard to orgasm then try clitoral stimulation.
These are the three highest on the list of things that can cause problems achieving a climax. I hope it helps.
I'm 25/f and I still live at home, unfortunately for me. Now I know I may sound ungrateful, but please forgive me. I don't know where to begin. My parents and I have always had a rocky relationship. We never seem to get along. They're constantly criticizing, yelling, or getting pissed at me if I don't do the things they want me to do. Now I've tried to talk to them but they don't want to change, and i'm trying because I know I can't change them, I'm trying to focus on me. I have ADHD and depression. I've made a lot of mistakes in my past. Like experiment with drugs, sex, etc. But i'm over that. However my mom is still holding a grudge against me and can't seem to ever let it go. She uses that as a weapon. We can't have a normal conversation because every time I try to talk to her she's always annoyed with me. and it's the same with me. I've been seeing a therapist and we have been talking about me moving out. I have a job however I don't make enough to live on my own. Another thing my mother uses against me as a weapon. She complains about me to my therapist and whoever wants to listen to her. She says I don't clean my room, workout, blah blah blah. The goal was if I improve I would be able to move out, but according to her that hasn't happen. And according to my therapist I don't need to impress my mom but need to impress her! When she told me this I didn't understand what she meant.I feel like everyone is just using that I can't afford to live on my own against me. I don't see why I have to "impress" my therapist? I mean shouldn't I be doing this for myself? Why would I want to do this to impress her? I don't think it'll benefit me or her to try and "impress" her All i want is to move out. Does anyone have any suggestions? I've looked at roommates, but no luck. And according to my therapist I don't have the "social skills" needed to move in with someone, because how i act at home and at therapy. Because my mom comes to my therapy sessions and all she does is bashes me. I'm so sick of it. Last week she yelled at me and threatened me because I hung out with my friend who she knows was a drug addict, but is clean now. I was gone and went to my support group meeting. I Was early and waited in the parking lot. Then afterwards I had dinner with my friend from the support group meeting. and didn't come home til 10. So she yelled at me. And then my dad started yelling at me. I understand they don't want me to lose my job since i am trying to move out. That was a problem before but that was because i was off my meds so I couldn't keep a job. But anyways she got pissed. I tried looking for another job and when she found out she freaked out and told me if I got another job I would be in "deep shit." I tried to explain to her that I would only take the job if they offered it to me which they didn't since my current job is only 30 hours a week and pays $11/hr. And this other one was paying $12 and was 40 hours. But she never listens and always tells me she doesn't want to hear it. I have no idea why my mom went crazy that day. But anyways I'm sick of all this. They're being nice to me right now because I had to have surgery since one of my ovaries had a cyst and it ruptured and there was blood in my stomach. So now my mom is going to my cousin's wedding, which I can't go, and my dad is taking care of me. so of course NOW they're being nice, but I seriously wonder how long it's going to last. Well anyways I'm done complaining. I really could use some suggestions because I'm sick of my parents, my therapist and everyone in general. I've tried to get another one but my parents got mad when I started seeing another one. They go through my credit card bills of course and that's how they found out! I don't think the therapist I currently see is very helpful.Thanks for your help, like I said any suggestions will help.
I agree with you that you need to find another therapist this one is not being there for you which is the purpose of a therapist. Your therapy sessions should be for you and you alone not with your mother. How can you unload your problems with your mother with her in the room?
Okay that being said let’s find a way to do things without mom controlling your life. First of all your 25 a full-fledged adult. Having ADHD is not something that requires custodial care from your parents. It is not a mental disease that would allow them to have control of your life. In fact it is not a mental disease as much as it is a medical problem.
I know your living at home and in this day and age it is more the norm then unusual for someone of this age to still be living at home. Since you are at home you may still be under your parents’ health insurance. That does not give them the right to control your medical life. In fact your parents have no rights to your medical information either unless you give it to them in writing to the doctor treating you.
Fix number 1. Until you find another therapist on your next visit to your therapist tell her you are invoking your rights under HIPPA. If she asks what you mean by this and she should know. Tell her from this session forward no one but you and she can be in the session and she cannot report anything said in therapy to anyone other than the insurance company for the purpose of billing. Once said she must ask you mother to leave the room.
Mom can holler and scream state it her insurance paying the bill and she has every right to be there. No she does not. HIPPA is a federal law that protects a patient’s privacy. I could be paying for your therapy and I would have no right to know what goes on in therapy. Stand your ground and insist on your HIPPA rights, do not be bullied.
Fix number 2. You need a better job to be able to leave home and live on your own. You need a job with better potential for higher income. There are two ways of finding these jobs. One is to go back to school and get the training you need for a better job. Many of the technical/trade schools offer evening classes and job placement upon completion of the courses. The other way is to continue to answer ads in the paper or to go to a placement agency and let them test you to see what job best fits with the skills you have.
If you don't have any skills that will get you a high paying job then my suggestion is to go to school at night after work if need be. Sit down and think about what you like to do. Do you like to cook or bake? Then culinary school might be right for you. Maybe you like to travel, do you like to drive. Maybe truck driving is right for you. Some trucking companies are so desperate for drivers they will train you for your CDL then put you to work. Maybe flower arranging is something you like. Then working in florist shop might be for you. Pharmacy assistant is a good job and many pharmacies, the big chain ones, will train you to get your license.
what I'm saying is think about what you like doing, would like to do in life for work that is high paying and see what education and skills you need then go get them.
Fix number 3. Your relationship with you parents will never get better if you don't start standing up for yourself. Yes mom is saying one thing but she means another. Stop letting mom push you around. In the future when mom yells at you just say this. "Mom I'm 25 years old an adult responsible for myself." "I love you and appreciate everything you do and have done for me but you have to let me live my life" "I know I have made mistakes in the past and will probably make some mistakes in the future but I have to live my own life if I am to grow and be a part of the community." Community in this instance means the world as a whole.
Yes mom will argue and probably yell and scream. You need to stand your ground and just continue to tell her you are your own person and she can no longer control you but you will welcome any suggestions she may offer. Emphasize the world suggestions.
This has been long and it is the best I can offer. I hope it helps. Pleas find a new therapist because I don't feel this one is helping you.
Hi, I'm 17 and I recently hooked up with someone around the end of March. We used a condom but something went wrong because of a couple of days later I started having symptoms of chlamydia so I went and got a urine and Pap test right away, a few days later they called me to say I was positive for chlamydia and to come in and get my treatment. I took the antibiotics they gave me and went in for a follow up to make sure it was gone and now I am good with that. They gave me an appointment to get a blood test a little bit over 6 weeks, so when I went in to get my blood test they told me to come in 2 weeks later to go my results. I went in today and I was negative for everything but am still slightly worried. I have an appointment to get a 3 month test to confirm my results. What would be the accuracy of a 6 week blood test and should I be fine? I live in Canada.
Below are answers I found on the Web for your question. The first comes from AIDS Vancouver Helpline the second from the CDC. I hope you find this information helpful.
AIDS Vancouver Helpline
Your negative result at 6 weeks is considered an excellent indication of your HIV status as up to 95% of infection can be detected within 4-6 weeks. We have never heard of an HIV test turning positive after 3 months, given no new exposures in the interim. In fact, here at the Helpline we have never spoken with anyone who has received a different result at 6 weeks than at 12 and beyond!
HIV tests (including Rapid tests) are one of the most accurate blood tests in the world, with all types being close to 100% accurate if done within the window period of 4 weeks-3 months post exposure. Because Rapid HIV Testing is a relatively new technology, there are no "Generations" like there are for standard EIA or ELISA HIV blood tests. Was this Rapid test a finger prick (blood) test or an OraQuick (oral fluid swab) test? If you feel comfortable sharing that information with us, we can provide you with more specific details regarding Rapid HIV Tests.
Hopefully this helped to alleviate some of your anxiety, please feel free to write back if you have any more concerns.
Cheers,
Elyse AIDS Vancouver Helpline Volunteer E-mail: helpline@aidsvancouver.orgPhone (Mon-Fri 9-4pm): (604) 696-4666Web: www.aidsvancouver.org/helpline
CDC
The CDC suggests retesting because of the “window period.” This is the length of time between exposure to HIV and when HIV shows up on a test. This can take up to three months. So if your test result is negative, protect yourself and get retested after three months.
I'm 22 years old and recently got into a pretty serious relationship. My folks are old school and freak out whenever I would ask to stay the night at my bfs house or I'd suggest he'd come stay the night with me (still living with my parents). I feel like I'm limited to the things I can do at my house, which sucks! His family is so much different than mine, their so welcoming and kind. He's suggested I move in with him, and I've been giving it so much thought, and I really want to do it because I feel like I just can't be at home anymore, I feel like I can't grow up. Help!
First while your living in your parents home, even though you are an adult in every respect of the word entitled to all the privileges of an adult. It is their house and if they do not want your boyfriend sleeping over then you have to respect their wishes.
As the parents of a male child my son was forced to return home after a work related accident. His GF being a nurse moved in and helped his mother and I care for him as he recovered. Then stayed as he went back to work and saved to get his own place.
As the parent of the male child we can afford to be more liberal with him having an overnight guest or even in this case her moving in. As the parents of a female child I'm not sure I would not feel like your parents. Yes your over 221 entitled to a sex life but does it have to be in my home under my roof and not married. I'm not sure I could be that liberal his parents like me can be that kind as you say or that liberal as I have said.
If your comfortable moving in with him then do so. Expect an argument from your parents. Just remember your over 21 now and they cannot control what you do. Keep in mind that if things go bad with this BF your parents may not let you back in their home so make sure you have enough money in savings to get your own apartment.
I'm a 1st semester sophomore in college. I'm currently a Government and World Affairs major, but I no longer think I will be able to get a job in that field. There are too many people in my major and we're all competing over the same jobs which there are realistically, very few of in America.
I'm thinking about changing my major to International Business with a minor or double major in Cyber Security.
Does this sound like a good choice?
Cyber security is today's hot button. From what I am reading and understanding of what the industry is looking for are people that are actually hackers themselves. People that can find their way into systems then find a way to block that access.
Are your computer skills that good? If not having a degree in the administrative or code writing side of Cyber Security may not be the direction to go. I would suggest that before you make such a drastic change you spend your summer break talking to Cyber Security Companies and asking what they require and what they are looking for in a college graduate with a degree in Cyber security; then decide.
With the world getting smaller every day a degree in International Business is a good choice and may marry very well with Cyber security. Do your do diligence on the Cyber security; make sure you are what they are looking for. Make sure the curriculum at your school offers the course you will need to qualify for what employers are looking for.
Take the time to research properly and the outcome will be what you need to do. It is your future and with proper planning and research you will get the job you want and be happy with. As the saying goes "If you’re happy with your job you will never work a day in your life."
Has anyone read the book lygaya in french i need to compare pierre amd lygaya the differences and what they have alike i don't understand book pls help
1. It is quite likely most of us have not read this book as different school systems have different reading requirements.
2. Most of us will not do your homework for you. If you are having trouble understanding the assignment or understanding what you have read then ask the teacher or instructor for help. That's what they get paid for to teach and help you learn.
3. If your teacher refuses to help you have several choices.
A. Go to the department head and ask for help telling them the teacher refused.
B. Go to the Principal and ask for help telling him/her your teacher refused to help you.
C. Tell your parents you're in trouble with this assignment and the teacher has refused to help you.