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He wants to nut in me
Okay im 17 years old and theres this guy. We arent together but we have had sex multiple times . We have always used comdoms because i always like to me safe . So one day he txted me saying he wanted to cum in me ?? .it took me by suprise. This is because we dont date and we really dont talk rather than having sex . I told him i was not on birth control but he said soo ... i followed up by saying im not trying to get pregnant. And said that me or him isnt ready for a child . Then i asked what if i het pregnant. He said that he would take kare of it. .. now im scared to have sex with him wat should i do ? . Ps he is sooooo handsome and have very pretty blue eyes
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Handsomeness and pretty blue eyes will not take care of any of your needs or expenses if you did become pregnant which is only a matter of time if all you are is sex partners. It also doesnt take care of baby.
If you want to continue to have sex regularly, then at your age, it falls upon you to get yourself on birth control. A guy using a condom still isn't the best prevention, as accidents can still happen that way. Now if its people who are older, have had kids already in a previous relationship/marriage and don't want anymore, it is perfectly reasonable for the women to expect the guy who doesnt want any more kids to go get snipped, get a vasectomy so he cant get girls pregnant. The only other issue is whether both persons are disease free and both should get checked once if exclusive or more often if you have different partners at times.
You can check for health clinics in your area that do STD screenings, or get that from your Dr. or Gyn Doc. As for birthcontrol, Planned parenthood can help. If you get side effects from hormone based contraceptives, or are afraid to take hormonal ones, then my advice is to ask your Dr. about getting the IUD, intra uterine device, the copper one, called Paragard that is more effective than condom, no side effects, must be inserted by a Dr. and once in is good for 7-10 yrs or so and once taken back out, one can try for kids immediately. Because your guy is likely to still possibly want kids some day with whomever he eventually marries or sets up house with, he is not going to want to get a vasectomy at his age and I doubt they give those out to younger people.
If you feel he may choose to force you without putting on condom, then don't agree to meet with him at all ever again. Its not all about him. Sex just for sex sake is okay, some of us really want that and its okay as long as one takes precaution to not get pregnant and not contract a disease and many are carriers of herpes like I discovered I was, without ever having an outbreak my entire life until recent years.
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You should stay away from him.
He isn't mature enough, responsible enough or respectful enough to continue having sex with.
For your own safety, stop seeing him. I don't care how handsome he is. Someone that stupid is just dangerous. He basically told you he doesn't give a fuck about your feelings or your health. That he wants to use your body in this way, and doesn't want to pay attention to the fact you don't want those risks. He didn't take 'No' for an answer. He isn't an idiot. He knew you said no. He absolutely understood that is what you meant. He pretended he didn't hear you when you told him no, because no wasn't the answer he wanted.
That makes him potentially dangerous.
Don't have sex with him. Don't even hang out with him where he might decide he expects sex. This is the kind of guy who may bully you into it and say "Oh, but we talked about it!" and just ignore the fact you told him you didn't want to because you didn't scream No loudly enough for his tastes. That is not a safe human being to have sex with. A guy who says that kind of nonsense about unsafe sex is a guy I don't think it's safe to even be friends with.
Whether or not you want to go on birth control is your choice. I'd certainly strongly recommend using both birth control and condoms in FWB situation. Whatever you choose tho, this guy is still not a good sex partner.
Keep yourself safe by keeping yourself away from him.
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Call me old fashion but what your saying is this guy is basically a friend with benefits. I think you are far to young to have that type of sexual relationship. Yes your 17 coming on 18 and soon will be entitled to an adult sexual relationship. That relationship though should be with someone you have a loving interest in not someone just for recreational sex.
Since you are having and active sex life then you can and should be on birth control. Since you were 14 you by law were able to ask any doctor or clinic for birth control without parental permission or knowledge. The law is called HIPPA and it gives anyone over the age of 14 the absolute privacy over their reproductive system. Your parents and anyone else cannot see the medical records of any doctor or hospital visit where there was an examination of your reproductive system without your written consent.
Of course as soon as you turn 18 your parents no longer have control over your medical needs even if you are still on their insurance. Until then the HIPPA law insures you have the right to see a doctor anytime you have a question or problem concerning your reproductive system. Which is why you can ask your doctor or any doctor or clinic for birth control. Which you should do ASAP just mention the HIPPA Law.
Even on birth control you should not allow guy to have sex with you without using a condom. The condom makes birth control 99.999% effect as well as protecting you from many STDS and the HIV/AIDS virus.
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