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Intimacy
Do you only orgasm when two ppl are physically attracted to each other? I have a cute but not sexy looking boyfriend and I have been experiencing a very hard time try to orgasm and not sure why I can't anymore with him
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Since it is possible to orgasm through masturbation I think you can rule out physical attraction as a requirement to orgasm.
As to why you can't orgasm with your partner I would need to know more about you. Knowing your age would be a big help as well as knowing how long you know each other and how long you have been physically intimate.
Here are some reasons I can think of that you can consider if any fit your situation.
1. If you two are teenagers then the first few times are exciting regardless of where and when you are intimate. Then the it becomes routine and maybe a bit uncomfortable. Being uncomfortable can mean physically uncomfortable with where you are having sex, in the back of a car, on the ground under the school bleachers on an old couch in his basement. Fear of discovery by a parent or sibling.
2. You are old enough to be roommates. Sex has become routine sort of wham bam thank you maam style. Not enough foreplay to excite you prior to intercourse and he climaxes before you can. If this is the case you need to find way to slow him down and add some excitement to your sex life.
3. Sex with this partner was new and exciting enough that any type of foreplay made you ready. You might be one of the females who is more clitoral in nature than vaginal. Being more clitoral you need your clitoris stimulate during foreplay and need to use positions that allow for clitoral stimulation. Most men during foreplay give vaginal stimulation over clitoral stimulation for that is what they have learned from watching and reading pornography. No one has ever told them that some women need clitoral stimulation.
If your not sure about which you are try masturbating only fingering yourself. If you find it hard to orgasm then try clitoral stimulation.
These are the three highest on the list of things that can cause problems achieving a climax. I hope it helps.
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