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how do i tell a guy i love him?
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I love you :) sorry, couldn't resist. That's all ya need though.
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K, so I've been going out with my boyfriend since 1-31-05, and lately we've kind of been like, you know, "touching". At first I was kind of like, well I dunno about this, and feeling indecisive about whether we should even be doing it, but kind of wanting to at the same time. (I'm 14, he's 15) Well now my problem is that when he touches me it feels *kind of* good at first then it just hurts. What are we doing wrong? (link)
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He's getting carried away. Tell him to slow down.
If you don't tell him it hurts, he has no way of knowing. :)
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what do you think about giving head do you think it is the rite thing to do I told my boy friend I would but I dont know if I am going to do something wrong what do yuo think about this whole siduation? PLEASE GIVE ME SOME ADVISE (link)
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If you feel it is wrong for you, then don't do it. :)
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I'm not sure where to turn. I feel like I have run out of options and I just can't cope.
I've seen a pyschiatrist, physchologist, hypnotherapist and counseller- none helped. I recently went to my head of year when things were really too much- to the extent when it was either help or die- and she, although she said she wouldn't since she saw it wouldnt help, has just asked a counseller to speak to me. I need real help. I know it can help to talk through fears and everything but it hasn't helped me in the past and I cannot put myself through the pain of living for the date where I saw a therapist and begging them to help me. It was hell and it never really helped anything.
I need SOMETHING more now. Things are really bad at the moment. It's hard to explain but basically I have complete phobias of lots of things (certain films, accents, places, anything) that I can relate to a certain person who hurt me. I don't want to go into this since it's not overly relevent to this question.
I just want to know if there is ANYTHING else out there. I really don't know what to do. I want to die. I feel like everything is helpless and no one can help me. I'm not allowed medication as the pyschiatrist felt I was too dependant on things. I don't know where else to turn. My parents don't either.
The reason I went to my head of year was for this reason- I am totally stuck. I can't handle it. I feel like I am falling and no one can stop me. I need help so badly- I just can't see anything out there.
Please reply if you can; thankyou xxxx (link)
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Somewhere out there is a therapist who can help you. I know that isn't what you want to hear. People tend to think they have to stick to one doctor. You don't. Keep looking. Be honest and open and get the help you need. You know, it's going to sound stupid but look up Dr Phil and see if there is help to be had on his web site. He is very good. :)
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okay ... you see lately my mom has been getting me all these babysitting jobs that i really dont want. i've asked her to stop and she has, but one mother wants my to babysit on a regular basis! she has three kids(2, 4 and 6) and i really cannot handle them. the middle child is pretty good, but the 2 year old cries a lot and the 6 year old is always being mean to the middle one and i cant take it! can someone please help me find a way to tell the mother i cant babysit for her regularly. thanks so much! (link)
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Just tell her you babysit for a lot of people and don't want to loose those jobs by concentrating on one family. :)
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Okay, I have this friend.I love her to death, I really do. But sometimes she really gets on my nerves. For example, we are in a band together. Sometimes she makes descisions for us...which she doens't consult us on first. When we confront her about it, she acts extremly offended, as if she believes that we would all automatically differ to her opinion and is shocked that we might not like something she does. We've tried to talk to her about, but she doesn't listen!! Help? (link)
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Don't say anything but go your own way. Don't say we want to do it another way just do it...she will get the hint and knock it off sooner or later. :)
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im grounded....not allowed to do anything, just recently quite doing drugs and all that bad shit. Ive been grounded for like 2 months now....and today(interesting how its 4-20) my dad comes up to me and tells me he knows im doing something wrong, and hes gunna find out what it is...im like.....UHHH ok good fuckin luck faggot!!!I didnt do anything wrong!!!nothing and suddenly now he thinks he knows me and he thinks he knows wen im doing something wrong..wen ive been coming home high almost every weekend for the past year and he never knew....Im so mad cuz i didnt do anything and he suddnely doesnt trust me anymore, right wen i thought i was earning his trust back....what should i do?? he just went out to dinner and ive been calling him every 15 mins and letting him know im still home and i aint doin shit!i told him that i was mad and hung up on him..!!I have enuff problems and he makes them 10 millions times worse.....is that wat parents are here for or something??? (link)
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Not exactly. Earning his trust back may take a little time though. You need to sit him down and have a calm conversation about it all. Let him know how hard you're trying.Explain to him how his being on your ass isn't helping you any.Just do it calmly without yelling. Ask him what it is he expects of you exactly. You may be surprised, he may just not no how he's supposed to be reacting. A lot of parenting is learned from our parents, drugs and all that weren't a real hot topic when he was young so he has no idea how to deal with it. Help him out a little, you'll earn his respect back...will just take some time is all. Good job quitting it all, good luck with dad. :)
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ok...
i like this guy..and he likes this grl...he acts like he likes me..hes my friend though..((hard to explain))
but the girl doesnt like him
((i dont think))
i dont wanna ask him out cause hes my friend
and im a little jelouse but i dont kno wut to do...and my friends are all being ass holes...and this year((skool year)) f**king sucks!!
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and i have cut before but i hate doing it..call me emo..i dont give a flying FU..CK (link)
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Don't be cutting. Does no good.
Good news...schools almost out. Friends make wonderful boyfriends. I think you should ask him out and see what he says. Tell him you want to take him out so he'll think of something besides his girl that doesn't like him. Have some fun. :)
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ok well theres this guy in my history class and lately we have been closer. "Josh" has even told me that he liked me, but everytime i flirt with him ppl ask "are u 2 going out?" and hes always like, "NO!!!!" i dont get whay he would tell me that he liked me and know that i like him but not do a single thing about it. Does anyone have any advice on how i can approach the situation?
Anything is great! (link)
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well, ask him why he won't go out with you if he likes you. Maybe he get's embarrassed when he's asked those kind of questions. Ask him about that. :)
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okay i have to just be friends with that one guy cause im just way to good friends with him and i dont want to mess anything up so i guess hell never know what i truely feel but thats okay cause i have feelings for this guy that i work with. i have liked him since i seen him and today he asked for my number im ALWAYS flirting with him and i think hes flirting back but i work with him so i dont want to mess things up. i dont know what to do im so confused cause i thought i really liked my friend but then i started working and now i like this other guy alot i just dont know what to do if someone could help me with what to do i really be thankful. anyway im going to go bye bye!!! (link)
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If you like the guy at work then go out with him. Unless work forbids that kind of thing or something. You will like a lot of guys before you find that perfect one. It's normal. So long as you aren't married you're free to try them all out! Have fun! :)
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There's a guy-let's call him Rick. Rick and my brother, Tim, are friends and after Rick found out that i was Tim's little sister (he's a senior and i'm a soph.- "rick" is a junior) he started like yelling hi to me and all that jazz. Today, my brother's other friend asked if i knew Rick and I said yeah, and he said that we should hang out sometime. So here's my question. I'm not sure if this is like a joke or something- like saying hi to your friend's little sister. So my question is, does he like me or is he just messing around? (link)
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Ask him. Probably just likes you but put your mind at ease and just ask. :)
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alright my ex asked me to prom, and hes a big dancer type and i dont really dance that way with guys other than slow dance.. i wanna go with him ALOT but im scared that hes gonna think im a loser if i dont dance like that with him..wut do i do?? please help me cuz i havent given him an answer yes or no yet.. (link)
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Say yes. Get a friend to teach you a few moves and go for it. Nothing else just dance the slow ones. Maybe he could teach you the others. Don't be afraid, have fun with it! :)
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Ok! I am 13 and a girl and my boyfriend is 14. He has a younger brother my age. He wants to keep our... um... love, a secret from almost everyone, expesically his mother and father. Now here's the problem, he said that we have to do that until his 16 when his aloud to date!!! I do truely love him and he loves me. What should I do? I don't want to keep it a secret but he said he'd break up with me if his parents or brother finds out! (P.S. I don't want to hurt him cuz he just broke up with a girl that he was dating for 2 years! She just said we're done and walked away! I don't want to hurt him...) (link)
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I think your boyfriend should mind his parents because it isn't fair to the girls. Know what I mean. I think you should tell him you'll just stay friends until he's 16. Then your free to pursue other intrests! :)
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Well my now ex-b/f went to Prom with me. He asked me to Prom when we were going out, then we broke up and he took me to Prom anyways. Well, we danced alot and he kissed me. I've been told he kisses alot of girls, but he hasn't kissed anyone but me since he dated me. And he broke up with me because he was confused about alot of things. And Prom was really confusing because he held hands with me, he put his arms around me alot, we even had one of those silent staring each other in the eyes moments. The Monday after Prom, he shows up early to school (which is a first for him) and he goes straight to my locker and we spend the morning together. My question, "what does all this mean?". Is there a chance that I could be that special girl for this "swinger" as he is referred to? (link)
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LOL, could be! Sounds like he may want you back. I think you should ask him what he's feeling. If you feel the same...best of luck! :)
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Okay first off I'd like to say, I really appreciate the way you try to help people and i think its REALLY COOL that you are a GRANDMA, and youre like a teenager! Okay well, heres like my life story.
My family is me, my sister, my parents, my grandpa, my sisters kids. I grew up in the same house with both my parents up until I was 14. Im still 14 now, and i keep switching from place to place. My dad was an alcoholic and just stopped drinking about a year ago. All i remember growing up was him drinking and getting into huge fights with me and my mom. He would yell .. not yel..but..it was the loudest voice ive ever heard anyone use in my life. He would use the big scary voice he used when he tried to get people away from the house, say kids selling candy or something. He would yell and cry at the same time, and his eyes would get big and bloodshoot and he would scream at my mom about me, saying things like "go protect her", "I fucking hate you", "il fucking shoot your fucking brains out and slice your neck open", etc. he ever did try shooting her once with one of his guns, he attempted to get her fingerprints on the gun to make it look like suicide but she wouldnt touch it. This happened every weekend. I'd come home, but a block or so before we came near the house i'd hear his bluegrass music, he blared it, embarased the hell outta me, and thats when i always knew he was drunk. Or sometimes we would walk in and hed be sitting on the frontroom couch and accuse my mother of cheating on hiim with her dentist, saying that she rented a hotel room and was having threesomes with me in the middle. Please dont laugh at me, the way he talks makes me really uncomfortable. hed brake glass lamps and try to cut her stomach open with them. Shed fight back, too, mainly just screaming and crying. Now what i would do, i would try holding my hands in between the two of them to keep my dad from chocking her (ive seen it before)and just screaming in this high pitched screaming voice "please stop just please", and then when that wouldnt work i would scream "both of you, shut the fuck up!!" (this was all growing up), and that didnt work so id try getting a knife and saying "thanks to the both of you im going to cut my wrists open", but that didnt work either. I started realizing their fighting at 5 and continued this attempt to stop tyhem from fighting until up to now. Every time my parents are together, they fight abut something..stupid. Every time they go out to eat, my mom comes home crying and my dad goes in his room, slams the door and repeats the swears "motherfucker, cocksucker," and "jagoff". I remember being tormented about the way my mom looks, and acts. When i was 13, my mom admitted to me that she was addicted to drugs. She is 55 now, and when we used to go places people i know would point and laugh. She was a lazy slob. her drugs made her lethargic. She would have food on her face, and shes wear clothes that didnt fit her, like spandex pants and a shirt from slavation army with holes in it. Shed always yell for me real loud in the stores and tell the casheirs about "her husband", like "teehehe- i cant tell my husband how much i spent or he'll kick my ass!", she would do it so jokingly they would pretned to laugh. Shed always forget her keys, money, checkbook, or all three! shed make a scene looking for it always saying "i know its in here" while digging through her purse. people still make fun of me now, i pretend to laugh but really it ears me up inside.so finally i got tired one day of having things flying past my head, my mom trying to throw checks and check boxes at my dad behind me, i decided to move into my sisters. Now well talk about my sister. My sister is 23. She has 3 kids, a husband, and a trailer. i moved into there. i watched the 3 kids with adhd and a severe asshole problems from when i got home from school (3) til i get them to sleep (2 a.m.)my sister and her husband were working at mcdonalds and subway. my grades dropped, people around the trailerpark tried to break in, and the other kids in the trailerpark always made fun of me, i dont know why. i know im weirdlooking, ive always been, but thats not the point. My sisters husband would get his paycheck, and blow it all off on drugs. There was nothing i could do about this. Everything i had (soap, shampoo, lotion, acne cream..etc.) would slowly get destroyed by the kids, i had to try to put a lock on everything..but we couldnt afford to keep buying locks. i eventually got angry one morning about my oldest nephew stealing my shit, that i said "im outta here", and put all my stuff into my moms car. (it was the morning and she was there to pick me up, my sister and her husband only have one car..)and i left. i moved into here, my dads. The one who ive hated for my whole life. Id move back into my grandpa's with my mom but, they are both on tranquilizers and i hate looking at them like that. My dad has no job (he got laid off) nad we cant afford anything. Every little thing i do he has a problem with it. "Turn that bedroom light off, open the blinds, i dont care if its dark out .. youre wasting elctricity" "i cant afford to give you lunch money". Now here comes the big part. I go to a catholic school, which is 6,400 every year. This is his main topic of conversation. It started today.
me: dad can i have some money im really really hungry.
dad: guess whos broke! i only have 8 dollars and its sposta last me for a week, and you want me to buy you food?
me: im sorry im just hungry, jeez.
Him: why the hell do i talk to you. youre a fucking dumbass. go pass algebra, okay.
--i was staying after for help in algebra with my tutor..till about four.
me: why dont u get a fucking job?
him: who the fuck pays your damn fucking tuition. tell your algebra tutor to suck my fucking dick so she can get some money, thats the only way im giving anyone money. why dont you go on the corner, eh? who the fuck do you think i am? i fucking pay your goddamn tuition and youre telling me i have no money..
me: what are you trying to say? you dont have any money? if we dont ahev any how are we paying for school?
him: youre fucking dick pays for school, suck my dick you fucking cocksucker dumbass.
me:youre a fucking asshole, i hope you die. i hate seeing your face evry day it makes me sick
him: kiss my ass
me:whatever.
--over--.. things like this go on all the time, i dont think its normal but it is what happens. he always makes gross comments like "the best shower i ever took was when youre mom was single and living on 89th street" and "if someone had a jacking off contest, id win for today", and just nasty stuff like that. he walks around in short tight shorts and always touches me, it makes me feel so weird. i just dont wanna be around him. i hate looking across the street because i see my younger friend outside playing ball with her dad, its makes me wanna cry. he wants my grandpa to die, and i love my grandpa so much, and my add always says stuff like youre grandpa is such a cocksucker, well see what he does when i get all his money.. i dont know who to live with or what to do anymore. i dont have any friends, i cant move in with them. i cant have anyone come over in fright of my dad answering the door or going outside in his underwear like always. my mom cant live on child support, and she cant work cuz she has fibromayalgia or some disease, and i just dont know what to do. sometimes i see a shrink, and that doesnt help, nobody can change my family and noone ever will. i just done know what to do. sorry for making this so long, im just desperate. please anything you say will help, just knowing that someone listened to me. (link)
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Man, you have lived quite an life in 14 years. Time for a break wouldn't you think?
I'm real concerned about you.It doesn't seem you have a stable place to land though. You really do need to get out of your dads house. You are getting older, and if you are having weird feelings around him you need to get out and trust those feelings. You need a normal life so you don't fall into the same trap that they have.
I don't know much about catholic schools. Is there someone there that you can trust? Who won't go back to your parents with your conversation? Better yet can you call child protective services yourself and have them come rescue you? I am serious. It is harsh but you need a normal life so you can be a productive member of society one day. I know your first instinct is going to be a protective one towards your family, but you're the one needs protection not them. They are adults and have to dig their own way out. Maybe it will wake them up. If you call them you will be put in foster care. But you really need to get out. Four more years is so very long to wait. I know of no other way to get you out of there. It is a very big decision for you to make at your age. But I really want you to think about it long and hard. I want you to keep in touch too okay. Let me know how you're doing regardless of what you decide to do.
I will see if there are other options also. Do you have relatives that don't live in your town? Someone a little more stable? An older cousin, aunt? Anytime you want to talk drop on in okay?
Next time give me a name so I know what to call you. Don't have to be your real one. Take care until I hear from you again! YG :)
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Ok well im bi and my friend is freeking out about it and he is going to tell my parents and if they find out they will freek out and i dont know what to do cause he is really serious about this and i need help (link)
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What kind of friend would go tattling on you like that? I don't understand his need to do that. I think I'd reconsider the friendship. Don't know how you handle it if he tells the parents. I guess you tell the truth. Nothing else you can do. Talk to him about it. Good luck.
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My friend's b-day party is on Saturday. I also have a very important softball practice that same day. They are both at the same time. I (link)
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Why not go to softball practice and drop in on your friend after? Tell her beforehand that you'd like to make the party but this is a very important practice. If the party is over by the time you're done, no big deal. The important part is just stopping by to wish her happy birthday. :)
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my best friend is pregnet. i dont know what to do. i know she wants to keep it but she hasnt even told her boyfriend and she wasnt going to tell me but i found the strip in her room. I'm afraid that she wont be able to handle it and that her parents will be mad if they find out I've known this girl since i was 7 and were 14 now and she is so young that her parents would probly just kick her out. i dont want this to happen to her and i dont know if i should tell anyone she's not ready to have a baby at all and she cant get enough courige to go tell somebody about it so now im realy worried about what will happen if she doesnt tell. should i just go ahead and tell ppl and make things easy or should i just let her do it her way? (link)
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I really don't think her parents will kick her out. She will tell soon, she'll have to explain her sudden weight gain somehow.
NO do not go ahead and tell people. This is her problem not yours. She will deal with it in her own time. I know you want to help, and there will be plenty of time for that. Let her get used to the idea first herself. :)
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hey im 13 and lately ive been feeling left out. i have a whole group of friends who iused to hang out with but i cant hang out on the weekends anymore because i need to study for school and i also have something going on. even though i cant hang out really ive been feeling left out, my friends wont talk to me, and the only chance i can hang out with them they always have plans. ive been also trying to hook up with my friends ex so do you think its that they dont wanna be friends with me or what (link)
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You'll just have to ask them and see. Tell them you've been feeling left out lately because of your other obligations and see what they have to say for themselves. :)
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I think my friend keeps on lying to me and its proper upsetting anyone got anyways i can talk to her and see if she is really lying???
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Just look her in the eyes and ask. If she turns away or starts fidgeting around she's probably lying. Just ask her straight...have you been lying to me about... :)
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