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Controlling?
Okay, I have this friend.I love her to death, I really do. But sometimes she really gets on my nerves. For example, we are in a band together. Sometimes she makes descisions for us...which she doens't consult us on first. When we confront her about it, she acts extremly offended, as if she believes that we would all automatically differ to her opinion and is shocked that we might not like something she does. We've tried to talk to her about, but she doesn't listen!! Help?
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Don't say anything but go your own way. Don't say we want to do it another way just do it...she will get the hint and knock it off sooner or later. :)
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Have your band let her know that shes a very important part of it even though she has lots of thoughts and applies them with no one elses' consideration. Tell her it would be better if everyone sat down and discussed ideas for the band and if any one has disagreements to step up and tell them why you aren't agreeing. That could be another problem, its rude at the same time to let her decide without saying anything until she does it a hundred more times. Your friend is probably offended because she feels ganged up by all of you, tell her you like some of her thoughts, but there are times when you disagree, have only 1 of you tell her this, because the whole band is like being hurt with an audience. Tell her that you all need to decide group-wise because everyone gets to decide for everyone in the band. Also tell her its nothing against her, if anyone else was doing this, they'd be confronting it to them, too, but its her.
-TheTeenGirl
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tyr talking 2 her parents and maybe they will t2 her and stop it if not w/b
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