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For once i didnt do anything...
im grounded....not allowed to do anything, just recently quite doing drugs and all that bad shit. Ive been grounded for like 2 months now....and today(interesting how its 4-20) my dad comes up to me and tells me he knows im doing something wrong, and hes gunna find out what it is...im like.....UHHH ok good fuckin luck faggot!!!I didnt do anything wrong!!!nothing and suddenly now he thinks he knows me and he thinks he knows wen im doing something wrong..wen ive been coming home high almost every weekend for the past year and he never knew....Im so mad cuz i didnt do anything and he suddnely doesnt trust me anymore, right wen i thought i was earning his trust back....what should i do?? he just went out to dinner and ive been calling him every 15 mins and letting him know im still home and i aint doin shit!i told him that i was mad and hung up on him..!!I have enuff problems and he makes them 10 millions times worse.....is that wat parents are here for or something???
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did it ever occur to you that he knew what you were doing? don't ask how or why but parents always know. and could it be that he doesn't trust you because you used to be a drug addict? my oldest brother used to be the same way and my mother still won't trust him. you need to earn your parents trust back until then he's still going to act like you're doing something wrong because of how long you were doing things wrong. believe me you dad knew what was going on, i just think that he didn't know how to handle it so this is what he's doing. deal with it and start taking responsiblity for the things you have done because that's what your being punished for
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Not exactly. Earning his trust back may take a little time though. You need to sit him down and have a calm conversation about it all. Let him know how hard you're trying.Explain to him how his being on your ass isn't helping you any.Just do it calmly without yelling. Ask him what it is he expects of you exactly. You may be surprised, he may just not no how he's supposed to be reacting. A lot of parenting is learned from our parents, drugs and all that weren't a real hot topic when he was young so he has no idea how to deal with it. Help him out a little, you'll earn his respect back...will just take some time is all. Good job quitting it all, good luck with dad. :)
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I think you and your dad are impatient with each other, but you are more impatient, being a dad and knowing your child has done drugs and grounding them for two months isn't going to fix the trust problem. It takes a long time, and for the way you were talking to him, "UHHH ok good] fuckin luck faggot!!!"] sounds terrible. That doesn't help either if you really did say that. Don't call him every 15 minutes, if you aren't doing anything wrong, then don't worry so much, because thats a sign that you are doing something if you keep saying you don't and bugging him. You should sit back and relax because obviously hes not going to find out if you say you've done nothing wrong. I think your dad is stressing about 4-20, because its a drug day basically, and hes probably thinking that you're up to something knowing you have done drugs. Parents are here to save you from a horrible life basically, thats what they are suppose to do. Every child always says their parents are ruining their life, but they are mking things the way they are now so you can thank them and the way you are when you're older later. I know you want to plug your ears or close your eyes seeing that, but its true, yes, even I've had times where I think my parents ruin my life. But you need to calm down about your dad and keep waiting until he trusts you again.
-TheTeenGirl
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I think that he jsut wants to make sure your not doing that stuff anymore and he wants you to see that he cares enough to take control of what u do in your life to suceed.. sorry i dont want to sound old lol... hope it helped SoRta?? lol x0o*
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You've been doing the wrong thing for the past year, and now that you're actually getting things together, people loose trust in you. You are obviously mad. I would be too if someone was accusing me of something I didn't do. But parents tend to suspect you of the craziest things. My advice; don't get too upset with your dad. He just worries about you. It would be worse having him not care at all. And yelling at him will only make everything worse. He could start to think you're hiding something from him. Stay as calm as you can, but make sure you get the point across that you are doing nothing wrong right now. Try not to make it a huge argument. It will be hard, and it will take time to regain his trust. But eventually it will come back. Just don't do anything to extreme in the next few weeks. Try hard to stay away from things that you know will get you into trouble. That will only make matters worse. That's all the advice I have for you. You can take it, or forget it. It's really up to you. Good Luck though.
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It kinda seems like all your parents wanna do is piss you off...its so fucking gay i wont be aloud to go somewhere and i will be like okay mom why cant i go? and she will say cause i said so.. os that really a good enough reason? NO! i mean if i said cause i said so to verything she said it wud piss her off.. if i were you i wud get ur dad back kinda. always ask him what hes up to and act like u dont trust him. it might make him realize hownu feel? i dunno try it
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