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Hi my name is Jen - I am 33 and married; a graphic desinger, a big sister, movie lover, horse rider, and board game nerd.

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ok, my friend has a problem with...being really abusive. Not like beats me up, but hits me when i dont do something she wants me to do. Like i was at her house and i make this really funny noise and she was like do it! and i was like im really tired and she punches me in my arm and it really hurt, its not just that time. Ive asked her to stop and tell her that guys arent attracted to that and she got a bf from it. what do i do?? should i become violent like her or just keep trying to get her to stop?? please i need ur help!

You just have to be more stern with her. Tell her to seriously stop, don't take crap from her. She'll continue to do it until you take control of the situation. And don't start hitting her back. Violence is an unintellegent thing. Don't you agree she looks stupid and is stupid for doing it.

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ok how do i lose 20 lbs in 3 weeks.. i was thinking of starving myself i know its not good but it should wokr.. i weigh 126 and i need to lose 20 lbs in 3 weeks but i actually need it gone in my stomch area thats my problme how do i lose 20 lbs in my stomach area and i onyl have 3 weeks help!!! by th way im 14 im too much over weight and just give me advice to lose it hurry iv only got 3 weeks!!

20 lbs in 3 weeks sounds very unhealthy. And starving yourself is a terrible idea. It will teach your body to store even more fat cells, and in the long run it will be harder for you to loose weight. And there is a good chance you will end up in the hospital from dehydration, even if you are drinking water. Why do you need to loose so much weight? Your goal is 106 lbs? That sounds sickly thin to me. If your stomach is the problem, spend the next three weeks doing crunches and sit-ups to tighten it up. And stay away from fatty foods. The most effective way to loose weight and keep it off is slow and steady. Extream diets can get the pounds off fast, but once you stop you'll gain it all back + some within a week. Be smart about your body.

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ok im really in love with htis boy jon we talk on the phone a lot and we go ot the movies together and i have told him that i love him and he says he likes me to but he likes another girl and he doesnt wanna go out with neither of us cuz he doesnt wanna break eachothers heart but he has almost broken my heart because he wont go out with me i have been crying over him and i know that he is the one but i just dont know how to get him to go out with me! i am much prettier than the other girl but he just doesnt see how much im in love with him ... iv tried moving on but he is just ther and i want him so bad.. how do i get him to fall in love with me or whatever cuz i dont know what to do.. help me someone

If you are in love with a guy before you even have a relationship, then you are going to scare the poor guy away. You need to hold onto your emotions a little more. Guys don't like girls that want a commitment after the first date, of after first sight for that matter. Being obsesive about someone is not healthy. And you can't make someone fall in love with you. If he doesn't want to go out with you, then he is not the one for you. You deserve someone that is in love with you as well.

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how do you know that your really in love? and how do you know its love when you find someone and tell them you love them?

Love is when you feel completed by someone else. You couldn't imagine life without them. And you feel completely comfortable around them. You have no worries, only a sense that you are safe when you are with them. For me that is love.

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my brother is such a brat. he comes in my room and reads my diary in front of his mates. my parents say that i should leave him alone hes just a kid. hes 11 for gods sake wot can i do

He's a little brother, so of course he is going to be anoying. Anyone with a brother I am sure has suffered a simular fate. If you don't want him reading your diary, then you should find a better hidding spot for it.

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im 14 and i like a 20 yr old. he is so cute and i dream bout him all the time. he told me he likes me im just to young he said he would go out wiv me if i was older wot can i do to change his mind

unfourtunatly he is right. For now you are too young. It would be illegal for him to date someone under the age of 16. You don't want him to go to jail do you?

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how can i hide a hickey?

Wear a scarf or a turtleneck.

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my name is katie i am 14 almost 15 i like this boy named tony and he has hurt me 3 times and everyone tells me that i need to move on but i really cant do it because i like him to much to lose him!!! and i just dont know what to do i mean he is a really sweet kid!!! i mean he has had so much goin on in his life like his dad just die and he just got hit by a car!! and i just dont know what to do because i dont want what to do because i dont want to get hurt anymore but he means the world to me!! please some one help me i need some advice on what to do !!!! thanks if u can help me

With all the stuff going on in his life right now, I don't think he is going to be able to handle a relationship. If you don't want to get hurt, then I suggest you forget about him for now because he isn't going to be able to give you the attention you are looking for.

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Me and my friends fight 24/7....and now that summer is here....I HAVE NOTHING TO DO!! I mean...I loved going to school to see some, people I was good friends with....but then when I got home and got on AOL IM the gurl I fight with would be on...and start IMing me and yelling at me for nothing. So know that summers here I ahave nothing better to do, then get on AOL.

What tips could you give me about my friends??

Is there anything better then AOL that I could do?

The best thing you can think of to do is sit on the computer and chat on IM? You need to get off your computer and get out and live life. Don't waste away the summer indoors sitting infornt of a screen. If you are really at a loss of what to do get a job to occupy your time. You'll be sure to make friends that way too. And if your off the computer, you won't have to deal with those rude friends IMing you, because you will have better things to be doing.

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I only started my periods abouit a year ago, but recently they've been really heavy (like MASSES of blood), and I feel faint sometimes. Is it normal to be like this or is there something wrong with me? by the way, I'm 14. Please answer asap because I'm really worried

If your worried about your health, the smart thing to do is see a doctor.

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Ok, I have this friend who isn't really nice. Whenever I invite her over she makes my room messy like she is Godzilla or something. Well whenever she invites me to come over she may invite one other person and then I am invisible the rest of the time that other friend of hers is over and she yells at me for nothing blames me on stuff to my parents even though she did whatever and everything is all about her. She is so selfish. What should I do?

It's quite simple. Stop hanging out with her. She obviously isn't very friendly. Why continue the torchure?

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Yesterday I totally broke out. I have no idea why! Do you know any way that I can get rid of this ance really quick?

To my knowledge there is no overnight solution to acne. Just make sure you are washing your face twice a day. I like using those disposible facial clothes that get all soapy when they get wet. (I use the Dove brand.) For now just use consealer, wether you are you are a guy or girl.

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I'm a 14 year old girl who wants a "strong" stomach , maybe a 4 or 6 pack or something like that . What specific exercises are there to help me acheive my goal ? Am i too young for this ?
Thanks ,
Laura .

60-100 Crunches and/or sit-ups. Do them 4-5 times a week. Twist your body for half of them touching your elbow to the opposite knee. Sit-ups strech and tear your muscles. You need to take a break every few days so they can re-heal, making them bigger and stronger. Give it two weeks and you should start seeing the results.

If 100 is too much, start smaller, and add 5 or 10 more every day. They get easier over time.

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Well, me and this guy blaine have been best friends since the seventh grade. I mean best friends, i know everything about him, and he knows everything about me. I also have this best friend named Tanisha and she was the first person i told when i started having feelings for blaine. I never said anything to blaine, but in the eighth grade Tanisha told me she liked blaine. Blaine said that he only likes her for her body, and now they're together. I still like him, but i feel like neither of them cares about me any more. Everyone keeps saying just find sum1 else but its not that easy. What should i do?

Hopfuly you have learned a lesson. If you like somebody, take action, otherwise somebody else is going to move in. Your friend waited a year for you, and you did nothing. So she took her chance. You can't be too pissed at her for it.

But if they are no longer treating you like a friend, then it's time to find some new friends. Going into high school people change quite a bit and you begin to find new friends that share your new priorites.

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Im a 15yr old girl and when I was younger my brother used to pull down my trousers and hold my bum , it seems a bit silly really but it used to terrify me, he did it a few times and when i tried to run away he grabbed me. The more i think about it the more wierd it is, can you tell me if this is sexual abuse or not and what to do about it please, thanks!

Yes, it is considered sexual abuse! Don't let anyone tell you it wasn't. Unless you talk to somebody about it, it will continue to bother you. Try talking to your school counsler or even your parents.

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Ok so My sister is totally alaways ranking on me because I've never had a b/f!I am a female 13 year old ! I get all depressed too. My friends alaways brag about there boyfriends and either I'M GETTING TIRED OF IT OR IM JEALOUSE!!! I dont know what to do! Boys just think of me as a friend and nothing more! My mom says its embrassing to ask them out but I am soooo confused! Tell me your oppinion!!!

*Double_B*

Don't let people give you crap for not having a boyfriend! Just tell them the truth, you haven't found a guy worth dating yet. There is no point to having a boyfriend for the sake of having a boyfriend. You should never have to feel bad for not having a guy! I didn't have a boyfriend until I was in college, and now I am happily married. So don't worry so much. With some time and patients you'll find a guy worth dating.

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My best friend is dating this guy that ive had a crush on for weeks now. I dont know what to do. When they go out i always have to go with them so their parents dont think they are doing bas things(which they are) and it kills me to watch them, what should i do??? Im so confused.

You need to get yourself out of the middle of their relationship. Stop being their chaperon. It is no fun being the third wheel. Or bring along a guy for yourself and make it a double date, rather than a babysitting job. You'll get over the guy.

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well thanx for answering me back its just that i dont make out wit the guy right away u kno and he trys to tell me he wants to but in different ways like hes like oh u made out wit whatshisface at a party wen u were wasted but im ur bf and u wont make out wit me its just that wen he kisses me he doesnt lk open his mouth so how am i supposed to make out wit him?????

I am confused as to who you are. I am going to guess you are the 15/f that can't get your boyfriend to kiss you when he greets you. If that is not right let me know.

My answer to you is that your both young, and he is most likely inexperienced. He probably scared, and shy and unsure of what to do. Take things slowly with him. When you kiss, talk about what you like and don't like about it, and help eachother improve your kisses. And take things slowly!

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im the girl who you think met a guy on the internet, well i didn't meet him on the internet, he goes to my school and i hang out with him a lot, or used to, and last week they went on a school trip and it was for a club that they were in
so it isn't what you think

now please give me some advise and if you still don't get it just tell me!
thanx

Sorry about that, I misunderstood you. If he is a boy from school and you both admit to likeing eachother, than what is the problem? So he hasn't called you yet, maybe he is shy. How many days has it been? Give him a week, if he doesn't call, you are going to have to make the first move. Call him up and ask him out. You have nothing to be scared of, you already know he likes you.

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Perhaps I'm just the stupidest person in the world, but I have this difficulty in making cookies.Normally it's that I add too much of one ingridient, or too little of another, or that I set the oven to the wrong time. My whole family is mad, because we were having a party, and Mom told me to make cookies, except they were quite horrible, and one guest threw-up. Is there anything I can do to fix this problematic situation!

What did you do confuse salt for sugar? :)

Cooking isn't that hard. You just need to pay attention to what you are doing:
-Simply follow the recipie
-Always use fresh ingredients
-Pay attention to your mesurements
-There is a differnece between baking soda and baking powder! As well as butter and magrine.
-Pre-heat the oven for 10-15 min before baking
-Always cook for less time than called for. (You can always cook something for an extra minute or two)
-Undercook cookies, the are still cooking when cooling on the pan
-Remove from pan only when cool

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