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Sexual abuse?
Im a 15yr old girl and when I was younger my brother used to pull down my trousers and hold my bum , it seems a bit silly really but it used to terrify me, he did it a few times and when i tried to run away he grabbed me. The more i think about it the more wierd it is, can you tell me if this is sexual abuse or not and what to do about it please, thanks!
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omg almost the same thing used to happen to me...only my brother is much older than me than yours is...im 15 too and when i was younger...the earliest i remember it happening i was like 3/4 but he could have done it before then and hes 12 years older than me...he would pull down my pants and underwear to do weird stuff to my butt. he would smack, rub, and sometimes just hold it. it freaked me out too. he did this regularly until i was like 12. and he still does it now and then. ive tried to get away but when i did he would put my legs inbetween his and hold my hands behind my back so i couldnt. i remember like 15 times that he would have his friends come over and do this in front of them. he even let his friends do it a couple times. he kinda did it less and less as i got older but he still does it.
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the minute u feel uncomfortable, it becomes sexual abuse, no matter whatanyone tells you. he might think its a practical joke, but like i said, if it make u uncomfortable its SA. tell him that and tell him you wont accept that kind of treatment from him. if it continues, tell ur parents.
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you should talk to sum 1 your brother is sad
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I have been iun this exact situation (only it was not my uncle) and if you ask me it was abuse and your parents/ guardians should have stopped him !
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Are you still afraid of him? Do you still feel threatened at all by him or feel like he might harrass you again?
If you do then there might be a problem, talk to someone you can trust who is older and see what they have to say.
You might chalk it all up to him being a kid, but he was 12, so I'm not so sure.
Get some advice from an adult who knows the both of you, and can decide whether its kids being kids, or if there is a real underlying problem going on.
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Yes, it is considered sexual abuse! Don't let anyone tell you it wasn't. Unless you talk to somebody about it, it will continue to bother you. Try talking to your school counsler or even your parents.
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You need to talk to someone, whether it is a counselor, parent, relation, etc. This is abuse since you tried to run away. First, you need to confront him. Let him know that wasn't right. If he says something like, "I know, I'm sorry", forgive and forget. If he says, "Oh, big deal" talk to someone! If whoever you talk to tries to tell you it's not a big deal, find some one else. You say you were terrified! Something's wrong with that, or rathe, your brother. Good luck!
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guys go through weird phases. I am not sure, it probably could be catagorized as sexual abuse, he shouldn't have done it. If he's changed since then, I wouldn't bring it up. Although if it still bother's you, it's always completely your choice.Maybe you should talk to your mother/father/gaurdian.
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I think that since he was 13, he was old enough to know better, but then again, teenage boys are weird (no offence to young guys reading this). they do stuff because they think they are cute and funny without considering others feelings. If he ever tries it again, talk to him. If he still does it, get help from a parent.
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Well it all depends on how much older he was than you and how young you were. Some times when little kids are tiny and cute, family members tend to show off and do strange things like that. It was probably innocent. But if it really does bother you, then maybe you should talk to a parent and discuss how you're feeling. Hope I helped.
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