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Ok heres the story,
I lived with my dad untill i was 121/2 .... But know i live with my mom and i am 15 .... when i lived with my dad he used to give me a suit case and tell me to move in with my mom when he was drunk or mad and now my mom does it only she doesnt give me a suit case cause i have one in my room .... When i first moved in with her she used to allways takl to me and i could tell her any thing but over time we drifted and thats normal i know for going into teens and stuff but know she loves my step dad more then she loves me .... i know she does becuase if my step dad is off some where else for work then she cant stand not talking to him at least 3 times a day even if hes only gone for 2 days and when i go to visit my dad for a weekend or for a couple of weeks she doesnt call me or anything and when i come home shes like i missed you but then goes back to talking to her husband errrr
AND THEN my brother wont even talk tod me becuase him and my dad got into a fight and he doesnt want anything to do with someone who is related to my father ....... and my family (like aunts etc..) on my dads side hates me becuase i "left" my dad and moved to my moms
Sry for sounding like a complaining person but i wanted to know why does family treat me like this? it makes me really depressed
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You might think that no one can understand or even relate but i was glad that someone else has this problem and not just me.. alright my problem is somewhat like yours but its between my mother and grandmother..and i dont know my father my mother had giving me to my grandma and she acted liked she loves me but all the time i hear her and her boyfriend having sex to keep ya in mind my grandma is 60 her boyfriend is 35 okay she always yells whenever her boyfriend is around the thing i did was talked to my mom and aunts they helped me out a lot and because i dont know your mom or your step dad i can promise anything but talk to your real dad about this and a few more family members that are close to your mom..i know it helped me hopefully it helps you good luck doll
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I know exactly how you feel. You need to talk to someone you trust, preferably an adult. No parent should tell to go to someone else's house when they're "drunk or mad"- that's not right. You're probably upset about this too. Your parents need help, perhaps AA? As for your brother, tell him you aren't big on your dad either and that YOU didn't do anything and that HE is related to your dad too. And your dads family...try to talk to them about the truth. If that doesn't work, just know that you are right and they are wrong. Good luck!
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My family is disfunctional too. They're probably just as bad as yours. I think your mother is paraniod when her husband leaves, and reassures herself by calling him. Your brother probably hates himself, considering he's his father's son. Your family is just too self involved to notice what they are doing, and how bad it makes them look. A lot of people have disfunctional families. And you have every right to complain.
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I am sorry to hear about i i dont know what to say honestly. Thats a good question. Just tell them how you feel weather they give you stupid looks or not your just expressing and nothing is wrong with that. your mom just maybe paranoid when your dad leaves town for a work trip or not she might worry about the littlest things or misses him like crazy _trix-
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I think it is real crap that you are treated this way. I am friends with a guy whos dad left him and his mom when she was pregnant with him. Now he lives with his mom and grandmother, who is an alcoholic. The grandmother causes a lot of pain by insuting him in ways no one should ever be insulted. My friend could not take it anymore. He tried to kill himself. It was serious and sad. The next day, his mother put him in a mental hospital center, as well as the grandmother. They both got help and are doing better. Now obviously I don't think you should go to a mental hospital, but you might want to see a cousilor or speak with a therepist or just talk to someone with a degree in that area. I hope everything works out!
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Sweetie, you should never be treated this way from your family, there is no excuse. Your family needs to pull themselves together and learn from their mistakes. I can tell from by you writting this that you seem more mature than they do, and I think it is wonderful for you to speak up and ask about this. If your mom and your dad both drink constantly that could represent a problem. Maybe it's because they are both depressed and take it out on each other and you. Divorce is something that happens in the relationship of your parents, not you. But thety don't seem to understand that for treating you this way. I would talk to both of them, tell them how you feel, and that you would like to spend time with one of your parents feeling secure and not having the other parent neglect you just because you decide to live with the other one. Explain to them that you love each of them with all your heart and just because you want to spend time with your dad does not mean you love him more, you just want to see him. Maybe you could try to sort this out by saying: "Okay, maybe I can spend a year and half of the summer living with daddy, and then I'll spend the next half of summer and following year with mom." If they cannot agree to this, not only do I personally think thats not right, but maybe it's time for your parents to see a counselor. Obviously your family has had a rocky relationship, but by getting them help you are doing them a favor.
For your brother, you need to tell him that the fight between your dad and him is not your fault and that you love both parents but choose to live with your dad. I'm sure you love him and are very hurt by his actions and not wanting to talk to you is even more depressing, but he really needs to get out of this and get on with his life. You obviously are apart of his life and deserve to be treated that way.
I know that whatever is happening with youa nd your family right now is hard, but hun, just hang in there. You are a very strong person for making it this far! If you need anything feel free to write to me, I hope I helped. Soon you'll be able to live on your own. lol. I'm 18 and loving it!! Haha. Good luck sweetie, love you- Mandee
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As for your Dad's sdie of the family and your brother... Sometimes people are immature and hold grudges. Don't let them get to you, its not worth it. hopefully they will come aorund, but if not then oh well, thats their lost. They need to remember that family is 1st and no matter where you live, you are still their blood.
As for your Mom, you're right parents and teens do seperate a bit. But if not being able to communicate with your mother the way you used to is really bothering you. Then maybe you need to let her know that.
on one of them days, when she is feeling lonely because your step dad is away, try surprising her with some breakfast in bed, or sitting with her for a sandwich in the kitchen for lunch. Do something to remind her how much you love her and need her. Sometimes parents don't realize when they are neglecting their kids. And while you guys are eating or whatever. Let her know "You now, I did this to remind you that I love you and you. And lately I feel like you don't notice me. My relationship with you is very important to me, and I would be sad if it went bad..." Just let her know how you feel.
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