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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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So my brothers friend james he's in 9th grade and I'm in some7th grade. Ever since last summer we've both had crush on each other so we would try and hang out when school started. But every time he wanted to hang out i wasn't able to. Soon enough he thought i was blowing him off. Yet i wasnt and he told my friend that he was sad and mad at me , by the way he never talks to my friends about us because he doesn't want anyone to know he likes me. It been 2 weeks sence we talked. I don't know if he's worth the wait or if i should just get over him. Or if i should text him
What would prompt you too text him now? If it is two weeks later and you both have not tried to contact one another then what exactly was the reason for waiting so long? If a guy wants to hangout and something constantly comes up then you should try to work around it. You could try to text him and explain to him that he had caught you at a bad time and you had no intentions of blowing him off. See what he says, If he has a bad response then maybe its best you move on. However, One thing I don't understand is that if he liked you so much then why didn't he try getting a hold of you? Sounds awfully quick to jump too conclusions. Maybe he had a crush on you at one time but I would be questioning how much he really was into you. Someone who really likes someone does not just disappear that quickly.
Hi. I cheated on a guy whom i love. I pretended to be somebody. How can i get him back?
To be honest I never quite understood these types of questions. If you loved someone then why did you cheat?
There may be no way to get him back. You betrayed him and hurt him. You could try asking for forgiveness but sometimes sorry just isn't enough in these kind of situations.
I'm a 19 year old girl. I've been talking to this guy for almost a year now, but it didn't really start to become serious "talking" until about July. I really care a lot about him, and he cares a lot for me. The problem is, though, that he had a horrible girlfriend before we started talking. I don't know all the details of their relationship, but she treated him terribly. Unfortunately, her actions have made him feel inadequate. He feels that he's not good enough for me. I try to show him that he's more than good enough for me, but I don't want to push it too far and push him away. Lately, he's been opening up to me more, but he's still afraid to commit again because he's afraid he'll get hurt again. How can I show him how much he means to me without flat out telling him I love him and that I want to be with him. I would never hurt him. He knows that, but is still gun shy for lack of a better term.
If this guy is telling you personal things then just continue to be a lending ear. He will let you know when he is ready to date again. If you do not want to push him away then maybe you could bring up the dating topic and tell him you are willing to take things slow. Sometimes when people get hurt, It takes a while to recuperate. This I'd something he will have to learn to over come on his own.
Ok so Im 13/f and last night, I got a text from the person I least expected it to be. It was this girl named Rachel. Me and her have had some differences in the past and we dont talk often and I never trusted her before and never talked to her because I get so jealous of her whenever Im around her! She texted and invited me with a bunch of other people over to her house after school friday so we can all have dinner and get ready for the dance together. I asked my parents and they said I could go so I said to her sure.
Although, Im really not sure if I should go? Should I tell her I have a family thing and back out of it? I know shes trying really hard to be my friend and get along with me but Im not sure if I wanna be her friend. Shes so pretty and nice and funny but I dont know what to do. She even asked me if peperoni and cheese pizza is fine to eat and I told her Im a vegetarian so she said that we could all just have cheese pizza. So should I hang out with her and a bunch of people from her "group of friends"?
If someone is trying to be a friend to you why would you push them away? You are never going to make friends if you assume you have your differences. This girl may turn out to be a good friend and considering she is inviting people over it opens the door for more friends. I would just go, be yourself and have a good time.
hi, you answered my question before about going into a relationship with someone with depression.
i like this guy so much it hurts me that he doesnt want to go into a relationship because of his depression. as some one with depression - how do you think i should approach it? any tips for me? - things i should be weary of? anything will help :)
There sadly isn't a lot you can do if someone does not want too be in a relationship. The best approach would be to let him come to you when he is ready. It very well may be that he is not in a good place as people with depression also lack motivation and confidence. Like I said previously, Depression works different with everyone. I tend to want to be left alone when I am in a bad place.
I am sorry to disappoint you but I think the best you can do is just be s friend until he is ready.
I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 5 months. We're both 15. We both believe we are in love with each other. A week ago an issue came up and he questioned me about it and I lied without thinking. He told me he lost trust in me d it absolutely killed me. We are still dating today. But another issue came up where I was talking to a friend and he was right there and he said something and I turned to my friend and said he was weird and I winked and said but I love him and he asked me what I said and I said nothing and he asked again and I said nothing and then he asked again and I said that I said I love him. Then he accused me of lying and has been mad and upset with me ever since. I've prayed and prayed that everything would be okay. I'd fall apart without him. And I just need someone to tell me it's going to be okay.
Why are you lying to him? A relationship is not going to work out if you cannot be open with your partner. One thing I am confused on is why are you telling this kid you love him when you can't be honest with him or yourself? Perhaps he has gotten angry because he knows you are lying and you will not admit too it.
If you want to save your relationship you need to start being faithful. Lying is portrayed as being fake. A fake person does not love someone they lie too.
im 17 female almost 18
and im head over heels for this guy, david. him and me just work so well he is like my bestie who i can kiss and be a absolute moron with and he thinks it cute. we have been unofficially dating for over 6 months. i want to date him but he has really bad depression.. so we have been taking it slow. im now doubting if its a good idea to go into a relationship purely cause he still isnt sure its a good idea.. but i dont want to lose him and i couldnt just be friends with him.
ideas?
People who have depression tend to have a poor image and judgement on the aspect of certain things. I am not saying they do not make great partners but they do a lot better if they are medicated.
My point, This is actually something I would consider before dating anyone. Depression can be difficult and if someone is not faithful at taking medication, It very well could play a huge role on how well he can hold a relationship together. Now most of the times you can tell whether someone would be on medication or better yet be dating material by interacting with them. If your instincts are telling you he may not be a good partner then there must be a good reason for it.
I myself have severe depression. When I am off my medication I can be very difficult to be around.
Depression has its stages, Moderate, mild and severe. Everyone acts a different way when it comes to different things. I would go with your gut as you feel this way for a reason.
my gf recently licked and had my ass in my mouth ... Can this lead her to pregnancy ... her periods have not yet started ... Pls ans guys .. Need ur help
No she cannot get pregnant this way.
Please read on sex and pregnancy prevention.
This is also a good way to get infections like Ninja said.
I'm 13 and I have started my period but I'm the flattest person in my class!!!!.( other than the boys ) and I wouldn't be caught dead stuffing my bra!!!.......people are teasing me all my friends are B cups I'm a 32 A is there anything I can do about this!!!!?
Sweetie ignore the person below me. Having sex does not make your boobs bigger.
At the age of 13, You have yet to mature and grow. I am 27 and I didn't start getting boobs until I was 15. Don't let other kids bring you down, trust me you are not done growing yet.
15/F
So me and this guy have been talking latley and we really like eachother but im not sure if its a smart idea to date him. He's my bestfriend. i've dated a close friend before but im not sure if i should take this chance. what should i do?
Dating is a chance you take. You either work out or you don't. If you want my personal opinion I would not risk a close friendship. Considering you both are young, you two have a lot more growing up too do. Life takes a pretty drastic change from 15-18yrs. You go through changes and you start learning how to become an adult once you hit 18. A lot of the times when you date your best friend then something happens the friendship is never the same. If you allow him on that personal level just know if anything went wrong in the relationship you could possibly loose him altogether.
Okay so I'm 13 and my pubic region is a dark brown. I read online that this is totally normal since you started your period. I started my period sometime last year (when I was twelve) in the middle of the school year. Recently this summer (2012) I started using tampons. And even more recent (oct. 2012) I started shaving. I'd like to know when does the browness of your pubic area go away and how can you help it to becoming normal like most girls have it, like your skin color. And how to shave my pubic hairs without infections and irretation and ingrowns and stuff. Also one more question is that one of my flaps (the right one) is longer abd stretched out more than the left one. I'm really scared and I've had it for as long as I've known. No I haven't had sex or been raped, TRUST ME, but I don't know if that's normal or not. Please answer the questions for me please thanks.
Your flab is called your labia it is perfectly normal for one to be longer then the other.
As for darker skin, Some of us have darker skin pigment on our bodies then other areas. Normal
As for shaving be sure to use a non cut women's razor. I recommend trying Venus http://0.tqn.com/d/hairremoval/1/0/V/6/-/-/RCA-Gillette-Venus-Divine.jpg you can find this at walmart. As well as women's shaving cream that can help against razor burns.
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Hi i'm a 13\F
I just got out of a long distance relationship with my 16 year old now ex, boyfriend.
I didn't really wan to, but he isn't Christian, and i am, which is the reason i broke up with him.
To some of you it may sound silly, but the Bible has a say in that type of relationship.
SO my question is,
How can i keep my mind off him, and deal with this heartbreak easily?
By realizing that he is much too old for you.
I am from Egypt.
Before you proceed, please make sure you're open-minded
I am probably the worst person ever. I have betrayed my best friend.
I will tell you my story honestly with nothing to hide.
It all started 4 years ago. I was 13 years old. I had known my friends since I was 4 years old. They were my childhood friends, and the ones you don't take care of while choosing. I was the friend who everyone turned to when they had troubles. They never remembered me except when they had a problem and needed someone to talk to. I was always there for them. On the other hand, they were never there for me when I needed them. In fact, they even bullied me sometimes and made fun of me at class. I laughed with them to pass the moment, but I would remember it every night and cry. I even created a world for me in my mind where I had good friends. I wasn't sociable at all. But one day, when I went back from school, I couldn't hold myself and I kept on crying and crying for the whole day. It's at that time I decided to change. I decided to stop caring for them all, and never to cry again. I decided to toughen up! And I did as planned. And because I felt lonely as ever, I actually created a fake profile on facebook and started treating this profile as my friend and this is when my life took a tuning point.
There was that guy I knew through facebook from my real account and we started talking. He was a very nice and funny person. He even taught me many things about life. He was 3 years older. We talked every night and every day.
One day, he asked about that fake profile and I said it was my friend. He started sending the fake profile messages and stuff, although he never saw the girl. I ignored his messages for some days, but he never gave up! So I would reply after he sent the message by 3 days or so. He was flirting. I knew he was playing because he never saw the girl. So I started replying and flirting back. When he asked to see that fake profile, I replied through the fake profile saying that I'm travelling and when I come back we'll see about this. We talked through this time, then I said I'll be travelling for a long time, and I might be back in a year. I knew nobody would bear this. And that he'll just give up in a few days and everything will be okay. I was 15 at that time which is 2 years ago. But he never gave up! We talked and talked and I actually started to like him, he liked that person he talked to too. And like turned into love.
He became a part of my day, that's why I didn't break up over the fights we had. I couldn't live without him. I started doing stuff he hates in the hope HE breaks up because I wasn't brave enough to do it.
I used to tell him about everything, movies I watch, fights I had. I shared with him good and bad moments,...everything. And we dated for 2 years lol. 2 years of constant lying. Until at the end, he was searching for her photos through google and found the real girl. That was 3 weeks ago. He asked to see the fake profile on webcam. I could show him the girl on webcam through fake webcam and I slept with the decision of doing it. Then the next day, he called me (real person) and asked me while he was shivering for the last time if that girl was fake or not. He discovered the other fake profiles I created for that girl to to her other friends, like supporting fake profiles to make it look real. I told him she was real. But after a few minutes, I thought about it again and thought to myself that if I made that girl go on skype for him using fake webcam, I'd never stop lying and I'll keep on lying to him because I loved him! But I decided just to tell the truth and stop this whole thing. It took me so much bravery to do it. To actually tell my best friend and kind of boy friend that I was lying to him for 2 years straight. He kept crying and I cried to. He called me a devil. I felt to guilty. I couldn't eat for 2 days. Then I called him again after a week because I was afraid he'd think I didn't care about him on the first place, so I called him from another phone because he wouldn't reply to me. And I kept telling him I was sorry and stuff, and at the end he hung up. I sent him a message a few days later and told him I was sorry. But he cursed me. He didn't say he doesn't want to talk to me again or anything, but on they new year's eve, I sent him another message saying I had to tell you Happy new year best friend. He replied saying it's gonna be the best year ever because you won't be in it.
I understand that he's so mad at me and will never talk to me again, but please help me, I really don't want to lose a great friend like him. I was mistaken so greatly and I admit that, but what can I do now?
Honestly, There may be little hope he will come around. You not only lied too him but you lied too yourself. You spent so much time convincing yourself this person was real that you lead to believe yourself that you were in love with him. This person was not in love with you, but the person that you created. Not too be harsh but you wasted his time and you have wasted yours.
The only thing I can really give you credit for is leaving your old friends. Instead of creating fake profiles, you should of tried to make new friends. In a way I do not really blame him for being angry as he no longer trust you. You lied too him and led him on for two years. Sometimes all you can do is face the consequences to your actions. Now the best advice I can give you is too leave him alone and let him move on from it.
My husband and I have been married for 3 years. He cheated on me with his ex our entire 3 year engagement, through my pregnancy, and I didn't find out until right before we got married. I still married him because I love him, and I figured it would be a fresh start for us.
Now the tables have turned.
About a year into our marriage, I guess I finally decided that I can't trust him and he wasn't changing his ways, so I ended it. We were apart for a week or so, when I decided to sleep with someone else. I'd never been with another man; I was curious. It was a terrible experience, and I regretted it instantly. My husband and I ended up getting back together, and he has yet to forgive me for what I did. From my perspective, I ended things before I slept with someone else. From his perspective, we were married-I cheated.
I decided at that point after seeing how miserable my "leaving" made him, that I loved him and wanted to stay. Now, I have serious issues.
Since that night, I've slept with 7 different men, and kissed two more. I've found myself in a viscous cycle that I can't seem to get out of. I don't know if I just seek validation, if I don't really want to be with my husband, if I'm resentful, if I can't trust him, if I've completely lost myself, if I even care about anything anymore.
I'm lost. I'm confused. I'm sickened by my behavior. I'm a coward. I need help.
This is a messy situation.
I see it from different point of views here 1, You married a man when you know he cheated on you. This right here was your first big mistake.
The best thing for the both of you at this point I would say file for divorce. Seems like this marriage has past its brink of death period. I hesitate to suggest marriage counseling because of the lengthy time that you both cheated on one another. Therefore the trust has been broken and was technically broken before you got married.
You want a fresh start? Then my best advice is too stop seeing other people and file for divorce. Get yourself into counseling and focus on what you need to do to get yourself back on track. Once you are better and back on your feet then consider casually dating. However, stop with the multiple people. That is not helping you nor your situation. If your husband has cheated during your engagement and still has not changed his ways after marriage then it would be a bit pointless to try and "fix" him. This is not a marriage its just booty call.
okay i'm currently 16 I turn 17 in july
I really love my bf and he telling alot of people thagt he believes
i'm the perfect girl he is too 16 almost 17.he tells me that he is ready to settle down and that he wants to get married and have a kid.I really love him alot and yes he does smoke weed and cigarette and yes my parents know he does.he is a really good guy but something is holding me back he is a bit controlling like he gets mad if I talk about other guys and if I go a full two days J seeing him he threatens to take his own life and then he says that we need to runaway and get married idk I love him and always will it's just thode two things that's hurting me
This isn't a matter if whether your ready its a matter of what is right for you. Anyone who threatens to take their life is not only a manipulative ass but someone who has severe jealousy issues. The fact is he does not trust you, Relationship without trust is no relationship at all. You are 16, Why are you and your boyfriend even discussing marriage and children?
The main source of the problem is he is manipulative, controlling and jealous. He is not someone that is a healthy person to be with
in all honesty i've never done this before but i just feel like i have noone to turn to about this. so i've been working my ass off to save money fly and see this guy. he lives in the states and i live in canada. we met here when he was on vaca meeting some relatives. anywho at first we webcammed texted and talked on the phone and eventually i geuss our lives put more distance then.. we already were. we planned for me to fly over at the end of the month but im having second thoughts we barely talk.. its just how are u okay bye... dull. and now a new guys popped into my life and he's all ears and gives me so much attention. i dont know if i should go we talked for nearly 8 months.... and its fading.. since we live so far communication is so important and i dont know if we have that. should i wast 1000 dollars to just give it a try?
Why would you waste 1000 dollars worth of hard work to see someone that doesn't talk too you? That's crazy. The truth, It isn't going to work out. You both are in completely different environments and live different lives. Save your money on something more important then a guy a few thousand miles away. Its not worth it trust me.
I owe $11,246.34 on a 2010 Chevrolet HHR LT with 47500 miles on it. I'm looking to get rid of it and get something cheaper, so I posted an ad on Craigslist. A man contacted me saying that he'd like to set something up where he takes over the payments. He specifically said that he didn't want to do it through the dealership because he didn't want ownership to be transferred right away. Said something about how he just financed a new Corvette. He did mention documents and getting things notarized and everything, but I'm still a little suspicious of why he would go through all that. Where should I go from here?
Stay away from Craigslist
Your best bet is too sell it privately or trade it in.
I am so very deeply in love with my teacher, I am obsessed with her and crave her immensely. She is such a beautiful and perfect lady. She is 28 and I am 16. I fantasize about her all the time and one of my main fantasies of course is having sex with her. I am wondering, what would happen if me and her had consensual sex? Would she still get in trouble even though it was 100% consensual? What if I went in front of the judge and said that I wanted whatever she did to me and to not punish her. What would happen then? Seriously. I'd be willing to get on my knees in front of the judge and beg and cry not to punish her. This is all hypothetical don't worry it won't actually happen. ALso I hear they go easier on females than males in these kinds of cases
She would be facing serious jail time and would loose her job. Doesn't matter if it was consensual or not, You are a minor and a student. As a teacher she has authority over you and teacher/student relationships are completely unacceptable. It is very possible you could also be put in a juvenile facility.
Your teacher would face rape charges, lewd acts upon a minor and many other things.
It is a serious crime and not acceptable
I am an 18 year old girl from Texas. I met this guy on a dating site and we started having phone conversations every night for 3-6 hours. After the second call we decided we were together. I thought I had fallen for him, but he's in for a much more serious relationship than I am. He wants to get engaged when we graduate high school in six months and get married six months after. He wants to go to the same college and live together. Every time I tell him I want to break up he talks me out of it. He's done really bad things related to drugs and crime and I am afraid he will do something to me. I am a good girl. I have a 4.0 GPA, I'm in varsity orchestra, varsity lacrosse, cross country, I work and I'm working on going to A&M. I've never associated with someone like him. He says I'm putting him in the right path and now I feel responsible. Please help...
This man says you are putting him on the right path?... Yeah he is manipulating you.
It is awfully quick to be speaking like that too someone you just met. Also, It should take much longer then a second phone call to fall in love with someone. Frankly by what you wrote I would be creeped out then flattered. Also, The last place you should be looking is on a dating site.
Now what I said in the very beginning is obvious manipulation. Another thing that says it all is "when I tried to break up with him he talked me out of it" so basically he manipulated you again. You see where its a repeated pattern here? Anyone that tried talking to me like that fast, I'd be running for the hills. Maybe this is why he is single?!
Now my advice is too ignore all his calls/text. Better yet change your number. Never give it out too someone you do know. Sounds like you found yourself a creep. Block him via phone, Facebook etc. End it
I'm a 13 year old girl. My best friend and I have been fighting. We were fighting at her cousins house and she pushed me then kicked me in the head. It really hurt afterwards but I was ok. She betrayed my trust and then lied to me about it. She has been very mean to my boyfriend and he thinks I should stop being her friend (not just for him but for me too). My parents aren't crazy about her either. She used to be nice and actually beautiful, and I don't know what happened to her. I've always found someway to forgive her but this time I don't know.
This girl pushed you, kicked you i. The head and tried too get your boyfriend to break up with you. Hun, This does not sound like a friend at all but rather someone who is a bit of a bully.
Sometimes we can only forgive so many times before we realize its just time to move on. Solid is right, Friends come and go. Despite someone once being a best friend, people change. This girl is no longer a friend and I personally think you should cut contact with her. There seems to be a good reason to why your parents do not like her and she obviously has issues she needs to work on. Focus on you and make new friends, Make it a new years resolution. ;)