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second thoughts
in all honesty i've never done this before but i just feel like i have noone to turn to about this. so i've been working my ass off to save money fly and see this guy. he lives in the states and i live in canada. we met here when he was on vaca meeting some relatives. anywho at first we webcammed texted and talked on the phone and eventually i geuss our lives put more distance then.. we already were. we planned for me to fly over at the end of the month but im having second thoughts we barely talk.. its just how are u okay bye... dull. and now a new guys popped into my life and he's all ears and gives me so much attention. i dont know if i should go we talked for nearly 8 months.... and its fading.. since we live so far communication is so important and i dont know if we have that. should i wast 1000 dollars to just give it a try?
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I think you should tell this guy how you feel and be very honest with him tell him you have met someone and that you guys do not communicate that we'll any more and the spark has gone out . I my self had met a girl and did the long distance thing . I always talked to her but she stopped communicating now she just messages me once in a blue moon when I am the one who is always trying and always making the contact first when it used to be her who contacted me first . She told me that some guy had cough her eye and that she didn't do anything because she wants me but that was enough for me to know that it's over . You need to make sure to be honest and tell him the truth and don't go see him if u have met someone els that not the right thing to be doing you will end up hurting one of these guys .
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Well, it seems to me that you guys have lost your spark...which can be sad and depressing. But, my saying is,"It was meant to be..." There are other fish in the see. You mentioned there were other guys catching your attention, you should see what they lead to. Most, long-distance relationships don't work out, because they grow apart and lose their interst and excitement. In my opinion,I don't think it's worth spending $1000, on a person you don't really...like anymore. Plus, you don't want to lead him on and crush him, just tell him it's not working out. Hope everything works out for the best!,
~Angie!~
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I don't think its worth spending your money to see a guy who you barely get along with any more. It sounds like there is no more chemistry.
Also, once you fly over and see him, then go back home, what happens then? You save and go visit him again next year? Long-distance relationships are almost impossible to work with.
You have found a new guy and it would be unfair and mean if you continued to make the other guy believe you want to see him and are faithful to him. You need to break it off with him.
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Sounds like things aren't really sparking anymore, so why spend the money on a potentially boring trip? If you want to go on a trip, use the money to go somewhere with sights you want to see. I'm sure there are many great places to check out in Canada that you've yet to see. Or heck, save your money for a rainy day.
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Why would you waste 1000 dollars worth of hard work to see someone that doesn't talk too you? That's crazy. The truth, It isn't going to work out. You both are in completely different environments and live different lives. Save your money on something more important then a guy a few thousand miles away. Its not worth it trust me.
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