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my best friend isn't acting like the girl I became best friends with
I'm a 13 year old girl. My best friend and I have been fighting. We were fighting at her cousins house and she pushed me then kicked me in the head. It really hurt afterwards but I was ok. She betrayed my trust and then lied to me about it. She has been very mean to my boyfriend and he thinks I should stop being her friend (not just for him but for me too). My parents aren't crazy about her either. She used to be nice and actually beautiful, and I don't know what happened to her. I've always found someway to forgive her but this time I don't know.
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Sometimes you can't just keep forgiving someone. If this isn't the first time she has betrayed your trust then I see her doing it again and again. A real friend isn't going to physically and emotionally hurt you. If you have your parents and your boyfriend weighing in telling you that you should just let her friendship go, then I think that is definitely what you should do. It is a real bummer losing a friend but if she isn't being a good friend then you don't need her in your life bringing you down anyway. :)
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The previous two advisers have given you some good advice. Friends come and go as we go through life not all childhood friends are friends for life.
As to why she has changed. I can make a guess that puberty has caused some of the changes you are seeing in her. Puberty causes many changes in us as we learn to deal with all the new hormones surging through us. Girls more than boys experience more changes.
Jealousy seems to come out more during and after then before. She may be jealous of the fact that you have a boyfriend or that you are prettier than she is. It could be you have developed sooner or better than she has. Jealousy is a terrible emotion; try your best not to fall prey to it.
Fact is we really have no reason to be jealous of one another. Jealousy is an irrational emotion. We are what we are and we are the ones responsible for who and what we are. Still we get jealous of those who have more, who may be look better than we do or just do better than we do.
As for this girl. For the present I would try my best to ignore her. It is possible that someday in the future you two can be friends again. I would wait and let her come to me. This is my advice for now.
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This girl pushed you, kicked you i. The head and tried too get your boyfriend to break up with you. Hun, This does not sound like a friend at all but rather someone who is a bit of a bully.
Sometimes we can only forgive so many times before we realize its just time to move on. Solid is right, Friends come and go. Despite someone once being a best friend, people change. This girl is no longer a friend and I personally think you should cut contact with her. There seems to be a good reason to why your parents do not like her and she obviously has issues she needs to work on. Focus on you and make new friends, Make it a new years resolution. ;)
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People will fade in and out of your life who were great friends at one time with frequency through life. Obviously, you have grown so far apart that it can't be salvaged. Maybe she is jealous of your relationship with the boyfriend or maybe she's become a different person.
At any rate if you don't like her, your parents don't and your boyfriend is pissed with her than let her go. If she should change her behavior in a few months or year than talk to her about what you don't find acceptable and why you broke things off.
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