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Controlling Obsessive Boyfriend
I am an 18 year old girl from Texas. I met this guy on a dating site and we started having phone conversations every night for 3-6 hours. After the second call we decided we were together. I thought I had fallen for him, but he's in for a much more serious relationship than I am. He wants to get engaged when we graduate high school in six months and get married six months after. He wants to go to the same college and live together. Every time I tell him I want to break up he talks me out of it. He's done really bad things related to drugs and crime and I am afraid he will do something to me. I am a good girl. I have a 4.0 GPA, I'm in varsity orchestra, varsity lacrosse, cross country, I work and I'm working on going to A&M. I've never associated with someone like him. He says I'm putting him in the right path and now I feel responsible. Please help...
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Honey leave him trust me he sounds like a major freek...thres tons of other guys in hte world for know all you need to care about is studying and if he keep calling u and wouldnt leave u alone tell your parents but also tell them the truth dont lie to them
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Oh, wow.. hm, have you ever video chatted or anything? Like, do you know he's actually who he says he is? Sounds very weird, and sounds like he's a maaajor control freak. If I were you, I'd drop him. Hope this helps. (:
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You only know him on a phone basis. You could just not answer the phone anymore. Find a guy who isn't an obsessed weirdo. You don't need a guy who is into drugs and being a loser when you have so much going for you.
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If I read this correctly you two have not met in person; you have only spoken on the phone. I would be suspicious of someone who would want to get married having never met and after just two phone calls.
The answer here is simple. You send him a text telling him short and to the point, don't mince words; "DON'T CALL ME, DON'T TEXT ME." "I WANT NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU." "IF YOU CONTINUE TO CALL OR TEXT I WILL CONSIDER IT HARRASMENT AND STALKING AND MAKE IT A PLOICE MATTER."
That is all you need to say to him. Then if you have caller ID on you phone you can block his calls and I believe you can block his texts as well. I would go one step further and inform the dating site that this guy is not what his resume may say.
Never let anyone control you for any reason. He is responsible for himself. If he wants to clean up his act he does not need you or anyone else to do so.
Do not agree to meet him, he is trouble. Send him the message I wrote in capitals and move on with your life. You are headed in the right direction. You do not need someone like him in your life leading you in the wrong direction. which is what a controller can do.
I can tell from what little you have written you are far better than to let anyone control you. You have charted a destiny for yourself. You need to allow yourself to follow that destiny.
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This man says you are putting him on the right path?... Yeah he is manipulating you.
It is awfully quick to be speaking like that too someone you just met. Also, It should take much longer then a second phone call to fall in love with someone. Frankly by what you wrote I would be creeped out then flattered. Also, The last place you should be looking is on a dating site.
Now what I said in the very beginning is obvious manipulation. Another thing that says it all is "when I tried to break up with him he talked me out of it" so basically he manipulated you again. You see where its a repeated pattern here? Anyone that tried talking to me like that fast, I'd be running for the hills. Maybe this is why he is single?!
Now my advice is too ignore all his calls/text. Better yet change your number. Never give it out too someone you do know. Sounds like you found yourself a creep. Block him via phone, Facebook etc. End it
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