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boyfriend with depression
hi, you answered my question before about going into a relationship with someone with depression.
i like this guy so much it hurts me that he doesnt want to go into a relationship because of his depression. as some one with depression - how do you think i should approach it? any tips for me? - things i should be weary of? anything will help :)
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There sadly isn't a lot you can do if someone does not want too be in a relationship. The best approach would be to let him come to you when he is ready. It very well may be that he is not in a good place as people with depression also lack motivation and confidence. Like I said previously, Depression works different with everyone. I tend to want to be left alone when I am in a bad place.
I am sorry to disappoint you but I think the best you can do is just be s friend until he is ready.
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Depression is very hard to understand. It is an illness just like any physical illness, and can run someone's life. This guy doesn't want a girlfriend because he knows it won't work out because of his depression.
I don't think you should get into a relationship with him. It is really difficult to be in a relationship with someone with depression. My best friend has it, and his ex-girlfriend didn't understand why he felt sad. They broke up because she didn't get it, and he didn't have the motivation to make things work.
Also, if a guy says he doesn't want to have a girlfriend (whether he has depression or not), then he doesn't want a girlfriend and you guys are not going to go out.
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Well, you don't approach it at all. He said he doesn't want to go into a relationship with you, and you should respect that.
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Hey there! I think you should understand depression more because its probably hard for him to let u know how he feels. He sounds like a good guy to me because hes aware he cant be in a relationship if he feels depressed. I know it could be hard for and like you said hurt you but let him know that you'll be there for him as friend but if doesnt seems to want relationship then might have to move on.. (:
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So I think you need to firstly respect how he feels. Unless you've had depression, it's very hard to explain what it's like.
The things I guess you need to be aware of is that depression is like an illness, it wasn't wanted or caused in anyway by the person who has it.
Perhaps he wants to get better before he can commit to a relationship?
Either way, depression can be really serious, and just like any other physical illness sometimes you gotta put that and it's recovery before anything else. If I were you and you wanted to be a true friend, you'd respect his desion and leave it alone for now-as part of the recovery process he just needs friendship for the time being.
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