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Trust: I lied to my boyfriend over and over but I don't want to lose him!
I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 5 months. We're both 15. We both believe we are in love with each other. A week ago an issue came up and he questioned me about it and I lied without thinking. He told me he lost trust in me d it absolutely killed me. We are still dating today. But another issue came up where I was talking to a friend and he was right there and he said something and I turned to my friend and said he was weird and I winked and said but I love him and he asked me what I said and I said nothing and he asked again and I said nothing and then he asked again and I said that I said I love him. Then he accused me of lying and has been mad and upset with me ever since. I've prayed and prayed that everything would be okay. I'd fall apart without him. And I just need someone to tell me it's going to be okay.
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I had a girlfriend that lived on telling lies and towards the end of our relationship she made me resent her and my trust for her could never be regained . Your not telling lies to save him from getting hurt your telling lies to save yourself and that's showing disrespect to your boyfriend . If you don't want to lose him then you need to be honest with him and not lie . Once you lose the trust in the relationship that's when thing go bad and you can pretty much kiss it good bye from then unless u Change and fast . And just think about this if you really do "love" him then why are you telling lies for ???
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You made the mistake of lying and praying. You shouldn't lie to the person you're in a relationship with and God doesn't really give a shit about your stupid 15 year old relationship. You can either sit around AND NOT LIE and try to regain his trust, or just chalk that one down as a loss, and not lie to your next boyfriend. No matter how you dissect this one, you fucked up and you're going to have to pay.
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Why are you lying to him? A relationship is not going to work out if you cannot be open with your partner. One thing I am confused on is why are you telling this kid you love him when you can't be honest with him or yourself? Perhaps he has gotten angry because he knows you are lying and you will not admit too it.
If you want to save your relationship you need to start being faithful. Lying is portrayed as being fake. A fake person does not love someone they lie too.
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I don't know what the issues are but if you want this to work out between the two of you, you need to stop lying. Relationships can't work if there is no trust. You don't want him wondering about things you tell him are actually true or not.
You need to work on yourself and give him time to forgive you. You need to start being completely honest. I'm sure things will turn out fine if you start being honest and he gains his trust back.
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