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Is a relationship a bad idea
im 17 female almost 18
and im head over heels for this guy, david. him and me just work so well he is like my bestie who i can kiss and be a absolute moron with and he thinks it cute. we have been unofficially dating for over 6 months. i want to date him but he has really bad depression.. so we have been taking it slow. im now doubting if its a good idea to go into a relationship purely cause he still isnt sure its a good idea.. but i dont want to lose him and i couldnt just be friends with him.
ideas?
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If you're doubting it's a good idea, then it most likely isn't. Like Karen said, getting involved with someone with depression can be... tricky. If he's on an emotional roller coaster, are you sure you want to hop on that ride with him?
I agree. It would probably be a much healthier and longer lasting relationship if you kept it on a friendly level rather than dating.
ESPECIALLY if he is like a bestie.
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Why can't you be friends with him? Just curious. :)
If you both are having doubts, and it sounds like you are, listen to your instincts. As was said before me depression can be very difficult to live with. Not only for the sufferer but for the partner as well. My hubby has it and before he got help with it I walked on egg shells & had stress like you wouldn't believe waiting for the next explosion.
Stay friends if you want, but I really think you should follow your instincts. At least for now.
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People who have depression tend to have a poor image and judgement on the aspect of certain things. I am not saying they do not make great partners but they do a lot better if they are medicated.
My point, This is actually something I would consider before dating anyone. Depression can be difficult and if someone is not faithful at taking medication, It very well could play a huge role on how well he can hold a relationship together. Now most of the times you can tell whether someone would be on medication or better yet be dating material by interacting with them. If your instincts are telling you he may not be a good partner then there must be a good reason for it.
I myself have severe depression. When I am off my medication I can be very difficult to be around.
Depression has its stages, Moderate, mild and severe. Everyone acts a different way when it comes to different things. I would go with your gut as you feel this way for a reason.
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