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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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So my boyfriend(also the father of our 3 month old) and I have been having terrible problems ever since our daughter was born.
First, we fought all the time because he never wanted to spend any time with his daughter. He would much rather have been partying. -Let it be known that I am 21 and he is 22, almost 23.
THEN once we were starting to get over that, we got into it BIG time, because I found two thongs in his possession that weren't mine. He told me that he didn't even know he had them and that he didn't know who they even belonged to.
BUT THEN just a few minutes ago, I was on his laptop and found naked pics that he kept from girls that he was sleeping with. Why would he keep those? I feel completely disrespected. I told him to get rid of EVERYTHING that could get us into a fight like the thongs did and he said that he had nothing else.
I know that going through his laptop was wrong, but I hate thinking that the father of my child could be cheating on me. Should I tell him what I saw? Should I admit to looking at his laptop? Do I have a reason to be mad or am I just crazy?
He is at a friend's house tonight, or so he told me, and therefor wont be coming home tonight. Do I wait to tell him when he gets home? Or should I warn him with a text?
I would GREATLY appreciate any advice that you have. I'm not above begging :( PLEASE!
It is very likely you may of been lied too the entire time and may of not known it, sounds like he is or has cheated. Confronting or asking him about this is not going to get you the answers you want. He lied, he has been lying and he still has not come clean. At this point for you and your daughters sake I think it may be best for the both of you to go your ways. To save drama hopefully you can agree to joint custody. However staying with him sets a poor example for your child and it is not a healthy enviroment for you or the baby. It is pointless to bring it up as he will fill you with more lies. At this point you need to end it, plain and simple
I have always been selfconcious with my body. When I tell my grandparents that I want to go on a diet they always say I won't make it and stuff like that.. I've tried everything..
I'm 15, wheigh 270 lbs. Exersize when I'm not busy with school, and really do anything I can to get to a normal weight.
I am never hungry in the morning and usually have something small to eat between 2-4, then eat dinner when I'm hungry then snack on somrthing if I do get hungry.
Do you have anything I can do to get to a normal weight for my age?
I can't do many exersizes because I have multiple joint problems throught my body.
Please, if you have any tips, advice, eating habbits, and other things you may want to add please do so!
Thank you! :)
Hello there!
I have lost a successful 100lbs in a year and would be happy to help you. :-)
The first key to a success weight loss is not thinking in terms of "I am too far gone, its too hard and I can't " mindful thinking is the challenge.
What I did is I made extreme adjustment to my eating habits. A diet of under both 5g of sugar and fat unless it contained natrual ingredients and NO added sugar.
You see my friend, White rice suprisingly contains sugar. Pasta is a food that actually blows up while you cook the priduct. This can cause to stretch your stomach from overeating. :-) if you eat bread you should eat wheat and eat in moderation.if you must eat pasta do wheat. Cutting out all junk food will help with your success. No juice, soda, no candy. If you cook with oil use olive oil and eat lots if feuits and veggies.
Before I started my journey I made a promise to myself "You can die or you can live" and the journey is always a day at a time. Jello and puddings should always be sugar free
You can do itbut you must be wanting to do it. Determination will judge whether you succeed.
My dad was driving me home from school and I was talking about driving the nice car to prom, with my date (who is deaf, I'm hearing ) and my dad said he would never let him drive me, just because he is deaf, because he dosent believe it would be safe... Yet his dad (my date's) is the drivers Ed teacher. Should I be offended? And should I tell my date this?
I don't completely agree with the others on this one.
I have nothing against deaf people as I myself am hard if hearing.
Not that the deaf aren't capable if driving but in your dads aspect I think he was talking in terms of safety.
The deaf need to be extra careful when driving as they cannot hear an ambulance, cop or fire truck coming.
I am not saying your father wasn't rude, I do think he could of worded it in a better way but I believe his points were valid. Your father doesn't nessacerally have a problem with your boyfriend per say, he wants you safe.
so before christmas i started talking to this guy, he is a friend of a friend (you know how it is) and we hit it off really well, were always on the phone to wach other, and he first said he loved me after like 3 weeks...
id just started my job when we first got to talking, its shift work, so not ideal, but he was working nights across the country aswell, so it made it hard to communicate. i would be doinng a day shift, finishing at 5, then he would start his shift at 7, well,the weekend came around and he was supposed to see me, but i wasnt very well. i told him that i felt deathly and would be at home in bed all weekend, and he accepted this.he text me once or twice on the saturday, but i was asleep so obv didnt reply... but then monday arrives and im back at work. he texts me saying that he doesnt want to start a relationship with someone that doesnt talk to him.. and that he never wants to speak to me again. i just replied simply "you will regret this, i am the best thing that could ever happen to you"
here we are 3 months later, and he was begging our mutual friend for my number. i asked him why he wanted to talk to me again, he said that he really missed me, and i was right, i am the best thing.
well... our friend found out we were getting close again, and she said some horrible things about why he is back talking to me, saying he is just doing it to get at her, and he only wants sex from me.
i just dont know what to think., he seems genuine enough, but i can also see her side of things too. HELP!!! xx
Sounds like a waste of time....for the both of you that is.
Long distant relationships are almost impossible to keep up with. This guy beat around the bush a little bit. He wants someone who is available and convient to him, likely meaning someone who is in distance. The reason he wabts to talk to you again is you are the only one that will take him back. This Guy has nobody else and knows he can crawl back to you.
I don't believe he is right you and I don't believe you are right for him.
hello,
i am seema sharma. i am 26. i have skin problem. actually i am getting a lot of pimple on my face and i have taken many treatment from skin clinic. but there is no use of them. and because of this problem nobody is liking me so what to do. if u can advice me then plzzzzzzzzzzz give me good advice.
thanks
seema sharma
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Try using Witch Hazel, This can be found near the phsrmacy department at Walmart and usually cost about 4 dollars a bottle.
Used it many times and it worked wonders!
18/f
I used to always dye my hair at a salon because I never wanted to mess up. It's expensive so I was thinking about doing it myself this time.
The only problem is, I've seen people mess up with black hair. Like sometimes it turned blue.
How do I keep that from happening and what kind is the best to use?
My hair is naturally dark brown.
Thanks so much.
Hello,
I have been dying my hair for years and have always used herbal essence. This can ve found at walmart for about 7 dollars (if you have long thick hair then you may need two) the box comes with step by step directions that are very easy to follow also. :-)
Hello, I don't know how to start this out, but here goes, I was raped 33 hours ago, is it too late to file charges aganist him? It's an old boy friend. of mine.
He's a stalker, I'm sure that won't make any difference. We broke up 3 months ago, on my 50th birthday.He got me to his house, I trusted him, I thought we were going to just be friends, and put the past behind us,.
When he pushed me in his bedroom and locked the door, I kept saying please please please don't do this to me. You can't talk to me the way you are, and you can't keep my aganist my will. He said I'm going to have sex with you all night long and there is nothing you can do about it.
He tied me up and heald me againist my will. He hid my keys, phone, clothes, and purse.
After he had his fill I said you planned all this out, and he said yes.
What I would like to know, what can be done now, to him?
Can I still be examed close to 50 hours later?
Will I ever feel normal again?
You need and should report him to police asap.
It is never too late but the sooner the better.
So there is this guy that was in my college math class. He was very quiet but I thought he was the most gorgeous guy I have ever laid my eyes on. Now he told my friend he was single so I decided to just go rite up to him and give him my number because I would have felt really bad if I didn't even try to communicate with him. Anyways he texted me later on that same night I gave him my number. And we got to talking then I told him to tell me some things about himself he felt comfortable sharing and the one thing hat kind of got to me was that he said "I am in a long distance relationship but shit happens" and when I complemented him he told me thank you and"at least you see that" then asked me to go somewhere with him the following weekend. He keeps flirting when we talk what is he trying to say?
Basically wants you to play his rebound encase his long distant relationship fails. Despite it being long distance or not he wis willing to try and cheat and leave his long distant girlfriend hanging in the air. Doesn't sound like someone I would want to date...
my boyfriend says that he loves me but he doesn't spends money on me. If he does so then also its very rare. Why he does like that?
Maybe he doesn't have the money to spend? Eitheh way, You should never expect your boyfriend to fork out money all the time. Sometimes it is okay but don't turn into one of them high maintenance needy chicks. Not cool
Talk to him about maybe going 50/50 or taking turns on paying for one another. That's the way it should be
I have known this friend for 2 years, and we were roommates for this year at college. I had bought an extremely expensive black skirt and brought it to college but I didn't wear it after September because it was too cold, so it laid in my drawers for months. The other day I saw my roommate wearing a black skirt that looked really similar to mine, and I asked if it was mine and she said no, it was hers and she had bought it at a major retailer discount store. I searched my dorm room and my skirt was missing, that following weekend I went home and searched my house and found no skirt. When she was in the bathroom I quickly looked at the tag and its the exact size and brand of my skirt that is missing.. I feel bad confronting her but she really doesn't seem the type to steal someone's clothes, I think it might just be a misunderstanding but I'm not sure how to confront her/convince her that the skirt is actually mine.
Honestly, If it is your skirt then why don't you just take it back? I would be keeping an eye on your belongings from now on as well.
You confront your roomate. This girl stole from you. Tell her you checked the tag and you know that she is lying. (Talk to her after you take the skirt back) if you have too then start locking up your stuff. Obviously she cannot be trusted. If someone wants to be a theif then there is no reason whatsoever to feel bad about confronting them, she was in the wrong.
Ok so I have a small crush on him but he is constantly hugging me from behind and he lays his head on my shoulder and offers me his jacket I don't know if he's being nice or if he likes me and there's times when he will just hold me today he told me he didn't want me to leave after school when I was getting on the bus so what do I do?
He likes you, Ask him out?
13/F
So I don't have one of those shavers. However, I have an electric one. But my sisters used to use it like last year and stuff...
What should I do about hair down there? I don't like the actual shavers. But I NEED to shave there because I don't like a bush! Should I just use the electric shaver even though I use it on my legs and other people have used it? (I don'r think I can get a new one)
Never use a razor that someone else used, That is very unsanitary.
Would you wear someone else's dirty underwear?... No.
If you feel the need to shave then you can find a womens non cut razor at Walmart along with women's shaving cream. A razor I recommend is called Fusion, Walmart sells it for 9.00. Also, You should have seperate razors fir your legs and private area. There are a lot if germs on a razor abd you can increase the risk of a bacterial infection if not used properly.
A lot of my friends get hit on while they are at work. Guys will ask them for their phone numbers, or leave a number, etc. I have NEVER, and I mean NEVER had a customer ask me for my phone number, or leave me theirs.
Why don't guys ever leave me their numbers, or ask for mine? I'm pretty average looking, I guess. I often have a flirty/friendly conversation with customers at the cash register, but they never leave me numbers or anything.
Why? What's wrong with me? I'm 18 btw.
Thanks :)
Not many people are going to give their number out to someone they do not know. It comes across as desperate and in my eyes I would never randomly give my number out like that. Expecially when someone is on the job as it is inappropriate.
How t0 stop a woman from lesbian
You cannot stop someone from being gay. We do not one day decide, It's either we are or we aren't. Free will and the woman is entitled to live her own life.
Theres a guy that was my boyfriend for a year. We ended up breaking up but he is still madly in love with me. I don't really know if i love him but i care about him alot. We are taking a break from talking for a week and it is super hard for him. I feel kind of relieved to have this time to myself. I already show that i don't have loving feelings with him anymore. Whenever i show him that i don't feel right anymore in this situation, he gets super sad and i can't take it; i'm always feeling awful. I don't know how to push myself to stop showing signs of affection. By me staying and pretending to still have feelings for him is confusing him. I feel like i'm playing with his emotions. I need to stop but i don't know how. I really don't want to hurt him, it kills me. Someone please help i'm going insane.
You allowing yourself guilt by remaining in contact with him. As long as he is in contact you are never going to allow yourself to move on. We can care about someone but that doesn't mean that person is right for us . You said it, You are relieved you are no longer with him. I think it is great you realize that as nobody should live in misery. However you owe it too yourself to move forward and not be dragged down by his neediness.
well i have a quaetion i need someone to give me edvice i had sex with my boyfriend the weekend just past and he nutted i ran stright to the bathroom and all of it came out i wiped it out and everthing. but a while after my stomachh starting hurtin a lil it was a day after i suppose to came on my period and i didnt i came on 29 i usually comes on the 25 am i pregnant?
A pregnancy cannot properly be detected until 7-10 days after intercourse. Also, it does not matter how fast you wipe yourself this does not lower the chances of pregnancy. I recommend you start using protection because once it happens there is no going back.
I liked this boy a lot and he seemed like he liked me a lot to . I added him on skype and he accepted quickly... Then two days afterwards he deleted me and don't know why. I hadn't spoken to him when we both online. I hadn't spoken to hom since he was a contact either... What have I done??? Thanks for any help!!
Why didn't you speak to him? Sometimes people do not like when people just sit on their friends list and never say anything. Also, Did this guy have a girlfriend in his life maybe you do not know about?... these are the two things that seem to be s possibility. Either way, If he doesn't want to be your friend then just forget about him.
21/F
My boyfriend of 5 years off and on broke up with me last September but we would occasionally talk every now and then and try to make things work but they never did. Anyway we officially stopped talking 2 months ago when he pretty much told me "I would've been a great wife if the timining was right" and I guess that was his way of saying we were done for good. I was surprisingly okay I don't remember being that sad or breaking down like I had done before in the past when we broke up. But now I find myself thinking about him every day like something happens and I think of ways I could text him to tell him but I never do... I don't know why I miss him so much he never treated me the way I wanted him to so why now? And when will this feeling just go away?
If I am correct this happened almost 4 months ago?
There are a few things, One, you kept in contact after you both were no longer together. This right here only prolonged your pain
Sometimes a break up is like a death, someone can die but we do not process it right away. Unfortunately this is what sounds like is happening. It is permanent and you are seeing the reality of it.
I know this is tough to hear..
It could of been possible that he just wasn't ready to settle down. Five years is a long time and I am not sure if you both discussed the future.
It could also be possible he may of found someone else
He may be looking to settle down and he tried to tell you in a nice way that you were not the right person he wanted a wife.
i've recntly had sex (with a condom) and anal with my boyfriend on different occasions.but my mum told me not to rush but the timing was right and i wanted to. should i tell her? im'm 16 and he's 19.
The timing wasn't right...
You are a minir and he is an adult. Consent or not by law it is considered statutory rape. If he were to be charged he could be looking at charges of lewd acts upon a minor, rape and child endangerment.
By the eyes of the law he is too old for you. Older men tebd to take advantage if younger people. There should be NO reason a 19 year old man would be dating someone 16 years old. No the timing was not right
My boyfriend and I have been together for about there years. I love him but I don't feel like im sexually attracted to him. We can be having sex and he can turn me on but then when I look at his face it turns me off. Like his face looks so ugly up close and the way he kisses me turns me off really bad sometimes. Idk what to do. I want to be with him. Is there any way this could change? He often accuses me of cheating and now I've started having thoughts of cheating.I have never cheated on anyone before. I just want to see if anyone has been through this and if there is hope.
You fell out of love
If he accuses you cheating then that alone can damage a relstionship. Lack of trust caused you to become distant with him until you are ready ti go your seperate ways. Which you have been for some time now