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I don't know how to confront my friend about a stolen skirt
I have known this friend for 2 years, and we were roommates for this year at college. I had bought an extremely expensive black skirt and brought it to college but I didn't wear it after September because it was too cold, so it laid in my drawers for months. The other day I saw my roommate wearing a black skirt that looked really similar to mine, and I asked if it was mine and she said no, it was hers and she had bought it at a major retailer discount store. I searched my dorm room and my skirt was missing, that following weekend I went home and searched my house and found no skirt. When she was in the bathroom I quickly looked at the tag and its the exact size and brand of my skirt that is missing.. I feel bad confronting her but she really doesn't seem the type to steal someone's clothes, I think it might just be a misunderstanding but I'm not sure how to confront her/convince her that the skirt is actually mine.
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It could be a coincidence that she bought the same skirt, but you could ask her what size she wears in skirts and confirm it with your skirt size. This isn't a fool proof method but if she says a different size then it probably is your skirt.
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Confronting your roommate over this skirt is only going to cause problems and an unhealthy living arrangement unless you have someway to prove the skirt is yours.
What I suggest is you have some name tags made that you can hide discreetly inside the hems, waistbands or the cuffs of your clothing. If you are not the type of who can sew real well your local dry cleaner should be able to do this for you for a reasonable cost.
Then if something goes missing and turns up in your roommate's closet or dresser you can get the door advisor involved. Proof of ownership will be the name tags. The dorm advisor will find the tag when they inspect the article of clothing and find the name tag where you tell them it will be.
As for this skirt, unless you have the sales receipt or can get a copy of the credit card charge receipt from the credit card company. It is going to be your word against hers. The college is going to tell you to work it out between you.
It is unfortunate but without proof of ownership possession is going to be the deciding factor. Your mistrust in your roommate may be grounds for a change in rooms though.
If you did pay for the garment with a credit card, yours or your parents contact the credit card company for a copy of the sales receipt. You can then go to the retailer for a copy of the original sales receipt. This should be all the proof you need to prove the skirt is yours, unless of course she too can come up with similar proof.
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Honestly, If it is your skirt then why don't you just take it back? I would be keeping an eye on your belongings from now on as well.
You confront your roomate. This girl stole from you. Tell her you checked the tag and you know that she is lying. (Talk to her after you take the skirt back) if you have too then start locking up your stuff. Obviously she cannot be trusted. If someone wants to be a theif then there is no reason whatsoever to feel bad about confronting them, she was in the wrong.
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