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do i tell my mother?
i've recntly had sex (with a condom) and anal with my boyfriend on different occasions.but my mum told me not to rush but the timing was right and i wanted to. should i tell her? im'm 16 and he's 19.
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Good on you for using a condom. Good on you for trying anal. You can't be any more open and comited to you boyfriend that doing anal. he knows that your not designed to get that much pleasure from anal. Thus he knows you showing that you love him and are emotionaly and literally open to him. I hope you did it face to face so you could look him in the eye and I hope you smiled just a bit. Most of all I hope he was gentle. Yes tell your mum. I might feel odd but in the long run you need a sounding board.
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I cannot answer this question for you since I don't know what type of relationship you have with your mother. If you have the type of relationship where you can discuss these things then if you are comfortable in telling her you could do so.
If the only reason for telling her is so you can get birth control pills you do not need parental permission to do so. Under a law called HIPPA, which stands for Health Information Personal Privacy Act. HIPPA was passed by the U.S. Congress amkig it a Federal Law. Within the law is a section giving minors 14 years and older medical confidentiality when it comes to their reproductive systems.
What this means is any Girl or Boy who may have a medical problem with their reproductive system or organ who may fear going to a parent with; may make an appointment or seek medical help without parental permission or knowledge. Everything that takes place during such visits is totally confidential. Information concerning the visit cannot be released to anyone.
Should a parent accompany you to a doctors office where your reproductive system is to be examined the parent will be asked to wait in the waiting room as they need your permission to be in the exam room. The doctor cannot by law allow them to be theier or release any information. They can go to jailfor doing so.
This also means that should you want birth control you can ask the doctor for it and unless there is some medical reason as to why you should not have birth control pills. The doctor will write you a prescription.
With this knowledge you can decide if you want to tell you mom as if your only reason for telling her was so you can have her approve birth control for you. That reason is no longer a valid reason unless you want her to know.
You by law have total control over your reproductive health and reproductive system and have had it since you were 14.
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Why do you want to tell her? Do you have the kind of relationship where you talk about these sorts of things, or do you feel some kind of guilt, or are you seeking contraceptives?
If you're very close to your mother and you guys talk about this stuff freely and you want to discuss your feelings, you certainly could bring it up. I personally do not have that kind of relationship with anyone in my family, so I don't know what that's like (I've never liked to discuss my sex life, especially not with parents).
Or is it just a matter of feeling guilty, because your mother told you not to rush, and you believe that she would think that you did? It's your sex life. You make the decisions (and deal with the consequences). Your mother doesn't want you to get hurt, but ultimately it is your choice and not one to feel bad about.
If you want contraceptives, you could (and should) definitely ask, sparing the details.
Good luck, and PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE be safe.
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The timing wasn't right...
You are a minir and he is an adult. Consent or not by law it is considered statutory rape. If he were to be charged he could be looking at charges of lewd acts upon a minor, rape and child endangerment.
By the eyes of the law he is too old for you. Older men tebd to take advantage if younger people. There should be NO reason a 19 year old man would be dating someone 16 years old. No the timing was not right
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