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is he too old?
im 16f and he is 19 year old male. we have known each other since i was 12. started dating him at 15. do yoou think hes too old?
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Personally I have no issue with it as compared to my own relationship three years isn't very much at all. However I do not know where you live so if you live in the states and are having this relationship then yes it could be a problem but in the UK its perfectly legal.
I am not judging and saying every relationship is based on sex, it is possible to have a great relationship without it but there is a chance you will be accused of it whether you are or are not.
One of my first boyfriends was a little older than me and my own mother accused me of sleeping with him when I did no such thing. I was 17f and he was 24M.
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Lets leave the question of whether he is to old aside since it is a mute point; given how long you have known each other.
What is important is the fact that at 16 you are below the age of consent in every state and he is an adult in every state. The law differs in every state and even with parental consent for the two of you to be seeing or dating each other he could get in legal trouble.
He being 19 is in danger of of being charged with statutory rape. This charge has nothing to do with whether you two have sex or not and everything to do with the fact that you two date and you are under age.
This is not something the police go looking to charge people with. It would take an overt act on your parts that involved police intervention or a complaint by a third party. Just what that overt act on the part of the two of you would be I can't say since I don't know either of you or where you live. An example would be if your town or city had a curfew for young people and an officer stopped you two while out.
By rules of most curfews you would have every right being out after curfew since you are in the company of an adult. The problem is he is not related to you. That is were the statutory rape charge could come in.
I see no reason why the difference in age should stop you from seeing each other as long as it does not endanger him legally. If he was someone new to you I would feel differently but you have known him long enough that the age difference is not the problem here. The problem could be a legal one that could mean jail time for him as well as having to register as a sex offender for the rest of his life.
My advice is to check the law where you live and make sure it is safe for him to date you. Ignorance of the law is not an excuse at trial.
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No I don't think so, I think it's really romantic :)
It's only three years apart-but I think age doesn't matter when you like someone and have a special relationship, that you two clearly do :)
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Personally, I don't think he's too old. You may just be at a different maturity level than most ppl your age and get along with ppl who are older than you better! Nothing wrong with that! However, you may want to look up laws in your state about this. In some states, the age of consent(the age you have to be to decide you want sex with someone older than 17 without it being rape) is 16 and others its 17. If your state is age 17 then your parents could get him arrested for rape if you two decide to have sexual relations.
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