My name is Rae. I live in Colonie. I go to CCHS asa freshman. I'm 14, my birthday is October 7th (( tomorrow from wen im writing this lol )). I help my friends out with advice ALL the time and i'm pretty good at it. I keep an open mind and make sure i give people as many options and opions that i have for them. I'll try to come on here everday, but if i dont i may have computer problems, charging my laptop, working on a website, or currently dealing with my own problems. I want to open up to you guys and relate your problems to mine. I may be young but i have gone through a lot in my life, as well as seen people i'm very close to go through the same problems you are. I'm actually really bad at solving my own problems... which is probably why i'm good at solving other peoples.
There are a lot of useless random info about me and i dont want to bore you anymore haha. but if ya wanna no more e-mail me, IM me, or jus ask a question lol. thanx
x333333 RaE aKa LiL sHoRtY
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E-mail: x3candiigurrrl@yahoo.com
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Location: Colonie New York
Occupation: Radio Host && Singer/Songwriter
Age: 14
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MSN: raexnicolee@hotmail.com
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15/f, i like this guy whos in 11th grade and hes on the track team with me. we're friends, and he always calls me his "bestest bud" and always hugs me when he sees me, and teases me, and well when im near him he always puts his arms around me, around my waist or shoulders. and when we are out like, eating at a restaurant with the team (team dinners) he always has me sit next to him, or just pays attention to me. well its obvious to you readers that i like him a little, it may just be a crush but hes sweet and hes nice and cares, we just talk and well i feel good when im with him. soo do you think he likes me, what should i do around him, because track season is almost over (this wed.) and we wont see eachother as much, maybe like 1 time a day for like 1 minute! soo i dont know what to do, hes just someone i want to stay in my life, even if its just as a friend! help, any advice??? I WILL RATE 5'S!!!!!! (link)
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Just keep asking him to hang out after school and stuff. That way your friendship will stay there instead of fading along with your jerseys. Based on how he acts around you he either REALLY likes you, or hes like that with all his friends. I suggest going for it, if he just wants to be friends at least your gonna be with him
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mean she tells me she loves me all the time and all but when we got together we always spent time together and all but now we dont we used to talk on the phone for hours but now we might talk on the phone 5 mins and she says she will call me back in a min but she never does and she basically lives with me shes never stayed away from home but she stayed wit me for 2 months now and she say she misses her family but ive told her to go stay at home and she stays anyway but she makes excuses to get a way from me and when i call her phone she tells me her phone bill is real high bu tshe talks to other dudes for along time and she goes to another room to talk to them she wont talk to them in front of me what should i do (link)
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im not sure what your talking about. im sooo sorry... but if u send me another question explainging better than id LOVE to help
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can i get pregnate from this? and he just came over 2 say sorry, so wat do i do? (link)
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im not sure what you are talking about... sorry haha. Are you the same girl who was raped or are you the girl who just messaged me?
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prom is on may 13th - i know less then 2 weeks! i still don't have a date & i really want to have one! i am not great friends with many guys, so i don't really even have much of a choice on who i can ask. i have one friend (we don't like hang out or anything, but we talk in school) who i considered asking but then i realized (& a friend agreed with me) that he most likely doesn't want to go to the prom at all. she used to joke with him (before she knew i wanted to go with him) about prom 7 he would always say he wasn't going & he doesn't want to go. however, he's basically the only one i can even really think of as a possibility, so should i ask him anyways? i also don't know when to get him alone to ask him if i do (i don't want to do it infront of people, but i want to do it in person). what should i say to make him see i want to go with him. also i don't think he's likes to dance, so would it be stupid to ask him? i want to dance, but he probably would say no to going & to dancing. what would you do?!?!!? (i don't know him really well, just as sort of an in-school friend) (link)
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You should just ask him anyway. When you see him in the hallway tell him you want to talk to him later. Then ask him if he wants to go with you. Let him know that you really want him to go and that it would be a lot of fun. And if he mentions now dancing tell him he doesnt have to if he doesnt want to... you can always convince him once you get there.
Im sure he will say yes. He probably only didnt want to go because he didnt have anyone to go with.
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okay...i'm 13, and just lost my virginaty yesterday. actually, i'm not sure if i did or didn't. i was raped by my next door neighbor who is 16, and has a gf. also, my bf came to find me, and caught me being raped, but he thought that we were actually having sex. now he's mad and won't talk to me because i won't have sex with him. i really need help talking to him and everything. and should i tell my parents? or not? help!!! (link)
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omg you neeeeeeeed to tell your parents. if you told him no and he kept going then you NEED to tell them. its a CRIME and your only 13 years old.
Technically you lost your virginity, but since it wasnt mutal you could say your still a virgin.
You need to sue this guy, and make sure you tell your boyfriend that this guy raped you.
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Well its been about 2 weeks sense i had sex, we used a condum and everything we were so careful even after we had it for the first time we checked and made sure there was no hole and i'm suppose to start my period right now at end of the month well didnt come and i took 2 test to see both came back negative and i still havent started my period. Me and my boyfriend have been going out for like a year and 3months first time we did it! i just need help i fit doesnt start soon by this week were going to the doctor well i live in san antonio i dont know were to go because if i do they might tell my parents???
please help (link)
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They cant tell your parents... its completely confidential. And you should go to the nearest Planned Parenthood... look it up online or in a phonebook to find the closest one to you.
Sometimes periods are late after sex, especially for the first time, because your body isnt used to what has just happened. it will want to form an egg and since the sperm couldnt fertilize it it will take a little bit longer. Also stress can make your period late.
I hope you arent preggy =]
Re Re
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My friend's birthday is coming up. She'll be 15. I asked her what she wanted and she said she wants me to kiss her (we aren't going out). I only see her once a day at school and we just hug, say hi, and go eat at our different tables. She said she wants me to kiss her on the lips. When and how should I kiss my friend? (link)
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uhh dude... she could be kidding around. Ask he what she really wants and get that for her... and then if shes serious jus kiss her real quick. But if you dont feel right doing it then dont... especially since you guys barely know each other
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i have a girlfriend and we have done smooches and physical contacts. but she isnt ready to do sex. tell me what shud i do to make her do so with me?????? (link)
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You cant MAKE her do anything you jerk. if she isnt ready she isnt ready, and you obviously dont care about her if you want to force her into it.
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How can you decrease the redness in your eye if you have pink eye? (link)
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eye drops work the best. You should ask a doctor though.
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I RATE 5s. Im 14/f and I have a lot of small problems that I can't discuss with my friends. Well.. I can, but they have problems of their own to deal with. Even when they tell me their problems, sometimes I freak out that night- not because of their problem, just from too much negativity in my life. Sometimes I really want to cut... but I hate blood, so I can never go through with it. I think I might give out a "i have no problems" kind of vibe. I don't show up as an emotional person cus I don't want people to see that. I don't have THAT many problems,its just things build up inside me. I have no one to talk to about issues- I won't be talking to my parents about them, so please don't give that advice. I also have major trust issues because of most of my friends during elementry school. So if I do tell my friends something, I end up freaking out that night thinking they will tell someone. I'm not emo, I dont dress it, act like it, or any of that. I'm just sad on the inside. Most of my sadness lately is caused of loss of control over my life. I REALLY like this guy and he has a gf... but theres nothing i can do about it. My grades are going down and theres not much I can do to change them... stuff like that.
Thanks SO much. Sorry it was so long.
-anomynous- (link)
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ok this is extremely creepy... you are like me... like a mirror me haha. minus the cutting and the fact you even use the word emo.
Anyway the point is i know how you feel. And whatever you do dont harm your body in anyway, through cutting or drugs or anything like that. It will only make it worse trust me.
I know how it feels to be known as the girl with no problems... the one whose life is great and helps everyone else with there problems. Im that girl, and i know its hard because you sit there helping other people but you just cant help yourself. Jus realize that you can trust your friends, i mean they're trusting you with there problems.
Not everyone is going to screw you over and go behind your back. If you tell people your problems they will help you. And just because they have problems doesnt mean they cant help you with yours. Sometimes telling people makes everything better. And if you dont think you can trust your friends... you could always tell the people on here your problems, wed love to help lol.
I'm not an insanely emotional person either, but like i said its creepy.. because i feel the same way you do. The way i get throught it is with my friends, and music. Do things you love to do it helps. But if you keep bottling things in youll end up hurting yourself, and probably others. Its the best thing to do.
And my grades are going down too... but its because we are so stressed out we cant put all of our focus into our grades. Which is another reason why you have to let how you feel out.
As for the guy you like... you can always wait for him to break up with his gf... or as mean as it sounds... flirt with him a little to let him know that you like him, he might even like you more than his gf.
I really hope i helped... and if you want to talk to someone you can im me on aim at ii l 0 V E x UU
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does anybody know a bank available for 14 year olds?
i dont really care about interests, just somewhere to keep my money safe.
thanks (link)
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every bank allows kids of any age to have an account to keep their money. You just need a parent or guardian over the age of 18 to sign the bond, and i think you need that same person if you want to get your money back out.
A good bank is bank of america, or credit union... they have great student plans and even some sort of scholarship deal.
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i like this boy and I think he likes me. like when we play dogde ball he tries to get me it or get me out.or when we play kick ball he always tries to get me out, but I went out with him before and now I'm scared he'll say no. and then tell everybody I asked. What should I do? (link)
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If you like him then let him know... or flirting back always works. Even though he does that in gym doesnt necessarily mean he likes you either. He could just be trying to show off for somoeone else, im not trying to discourage you.. im just warning you. He could also jsut want to be your friend.
Anyway, see how it goes in some of your other classes... if hes still flirting with you then you should let him know you like him again.
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Hey, I'm 15/m. There's this girl at my school that i've known for about a month now and I really like her, a lot. I want to ask her out, but today she told me that she was bisexual, and leans more towards girls because so far her guy relationships haven't been so well. I asked her if she still dates guys and she was like "Haha why?" and I just said "Hehe just wondering ;)" but yeah she seems like she wants to go out with me too and we seem to always be around each other during lunch or passing periods and such. We're going to a movie together on Friday, but we're getting there about two hours earlier so we can shop. I'm thinking about asking her out then, but I'm not sure if she'll say yes... any suggestions on what to do? How should I ask her out, what should I say to spark the convorsation? Any help please? Thanks. (link)
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haha you seem like a total sweetheart lol. If shes bi, it means she still likes guys. And it seems like she likes you too. Just let her know you arent like all the jackass guys she went out with before and that you really like her. Then just ask her out. If she doenst say yes... at least you tried, and at least she knows you like her in case she changes her mind.
And when you go to do it, you'll know when the perfect time to ask her will be. It might seem like you dont know when it will be, but when you start talking to her itll make sense
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Today in Life Skills, my school counselor told us girls "all 13-year-old boys care about is looks." (it's not a co-ed class) She also went on to say that 13-year-old boys only like girls with big boobs and a big ass. She said that they are very shallow, but the best thing for us to do is wait for them to grow up.
Is this really true? Do boys only notice boobs and butts on a girl and nothing else? It doesn't make me feel too good knowing that, because I certainly don't have a big butt and big boobs, and I'd like to have a boyfriend.
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Whoever this teacher is needs to be fired, because not only is that probably inappropropiate, and probably hurt a lot of peoples feelings, its a stereotype thats is basically retarded. I'm 14, but thats just about the same age. And most of the guys DONT care about looks at all. They care, but not enough to change how they look at people. And most guys dont like big boobs anymore.. trust me
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which vehicle is better on gas, a Toyota 4Runner or a Ford Mustang? (link)
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A mustang deff is
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Well the happiest thing happened to me... I found the love of my life... I love his family his family loves me vise versa... But the only problem is he lives next door... Ya some people are like thats the tightest thing ever... But it is a hassle sometimes when i wanna go out with the girls and its like i have 2 sets of parents... One weekend i went to a party with my friends and i came home at 12:30 and his parents were all pissed cause he wasnt with me... I dunno... But i love him though... And his parents think we are getting married... They told him to wait till after graduation to get married and we have been going out for like 2 months? that kinda creeps me out... What should i do?? (link)
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if you love him, it doesnt matter what his parents have to say. If they're creeping you out tell him, he might be able to talk to them and tell them to lay off a little.
Also, it's not like you guys are going to get married right after graduation either, so dont worry about it. And as long as your parents dont care about where you were, who you were with, and what time you were out until.. its none of their business
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Is losing your virginity on prom night the worst thing ever??
cause me and my boyfriend are staying in a hotel with his bro and my best friend... but with 2 rooms?
Im a good virgin but i love my boyfriend... and i dunno if im ready... (link)
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if you dont know if your ready or not, it means youre not ready. Dont do anything you dont want to do. Besides, losing it on prom night is REALLY over rated
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So basically i have used every acne medicine ever made...
And none of them seem to work...
Does anyone know something that will work quick...
cuz prom is next week...
And i dont want to go with pimples... (link)
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Asking a doctor would be the best bet. And even if you're a guy, using coverup can cure ANYTHING. No matter how much acne you have.
Have you tried (( i forget what its called )) protene or someting? lol thers a commercial with jessica simpson && alicia keys... anyway it starts with pro and has worked for ALL of my friends
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uGh im gonna go insane.... 2months and im out of here... ok well ive been really stressed about almost everything.... my parents are sending me away for a year and i honestly dont want to go and like they know but ther buying me like everything i want before i leave but i keep on getting in fights with them beause they get mad when i tell them i dont want to go... i kinda feel bribed but then again i know there sending me for a good reason but ugh im so irratated with everything...today i got in a fight with my mom cause it had something to do with me signing up for summer school so i dont have to repeat the grade and its like ugh i dont mean to fight with her I JUST DONT WANT TO GO ANYWHERE and she started getting mad cause i told one of my friends that i dont want to go and shes like dont tell your friends that! What am i supposed to do be like ohh im so excited im leaving for a year yay! When Im not....
Anyadvice? (link)
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ok where are you going?
anyway, just tell them that giving you things isnt going to change you wanting to go. Let them knwo that you'll miss them, and your friends, and that going away will only make whatever happened worse. Even if it's not the truth, try to convince them that you really want to stay.
And let them know they're your friends and you can tell them what they want. And even if you didnt, theyd probably know you didnt want to go in the first place. Friends have a way of seeing the way you really feel, just be looking into your eyes.
I personally would LOVE to get away from my house and my town, so im not sure if I can help you any better than that
Rae
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A male friend of mine came over to my appartment today for a visit. We have so far never done anything sexual- yet. I partly feel because he is quite shy. Well lately I have been dropping subtle hints that I want to be intimate with him; but not saying outright that I want to sleep with him because I am shy too.
Well before he left he said that the next time he came over to visit me that we could have a barbeque; play cards; and FOOL AROUND! When he said it he also had a big grin on his face. I really don't think he would joke about something like that. Do you think this means that he wants to move our friendship to the next level? (link)
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he could have been joking since you guys are friends and he gave a big grin. Especially if he is shy like you said.
Or.. he really does want to fool around with you. Just tell him that you like him a lot and want to become more than friends, you guys are obv. adults and can handle it. And if he rejects you, just be happy that you have his friendship
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