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does he want to take our friendship to the next level?
A male friend of mine came over to my appartment today for a visit. We have so far never done anything sexual- yet. I partly feel because he is quite shy. Well lately I have been dropping subtle hints that I want to be intimate with him; but not saying outright that I want to sleep with him because I am shy too.
Well before he left he said that the next time he came over to visit me that we could have a barbeque; play cards; and FOOL AROUND! When he said it he also had a big grin on his face. I really don't think he would joke about something like that. Do you think this means that he wants to move our friendship to the next level?
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Moving your friendship to the next level is not being intimate with each other. It's starting a relationship! Ask him out first. You'll save yourself a lot of heartache in the end.
Intimacy outside of a relationship is a bad idea for many reasons. You'll get attached to him and unless he is dating you, you can't know if he feels the same way about you as you do about him. Plus, there is no committment if you aren't in a relationship. He could make out with 6 other girls in the same day as he made out with you and there'd be nothing you could do about it. I'm not saying that he's that type of person or that he would do that, but if you are being intimate with someone you are probably going to want them to be exclusive to you. The best way to make sure that happens is to be in an actual relationship.
What if other people find out? They'd have every right to call you a slut (even though I'm sure you're not). You don't want to have to deal with crap from other people.
If you ask him out and he says yes, it will make the moment that much better. Please consider doing this before you throw your friendship with him away. If you end up breaking up, you can always remain friends, but if you were never going out in the first place, there will be a lot of awkwardness and tension.
It would be a much better idea to make sure he likes you as much as you like him before you get yourself in too deep. Ask him to be your boyfriend. Good luck!
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He may want to be friends with benefits.
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Hey, Sorry but not to rain on your parade, I sometimes use the term fool around as in doing what ever I want just doing stuff..not sexualy
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he could have been joking since you guys are friends and he gave a big grin. Especially if he is shy like you said.
Or.. he really does want to fool around with you. Just tell him that you like him a lot and want to become more than friends, you guys are obv. adults and can handle it. And if he rejects you, just be happy that you have his friendship
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Hi
I think he is dropping those same subtle hints that you are.
Someone needs to make the first move, and if you are both shy then that could be a problem.
You should just take a deep breath and go for it!!! Good luck.
Brenda
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I don't need to explain this one. the answer is definitely.
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