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uGh im gonna go insane.... 2months and im out of here... ok well ive been really stressed about almost everything.... my parents are sending me away for a year and i honestly dont want to go and like they know but ther buying me like everything i want before i leave but i keep on getting in fights with them beause they get mad when i tell them i dont want to go... i kinda feel bribed but then again i know there sending me for a good reason but ugh im so irratated with everything...today i got in a fight with my mom cause it had something to do with me signing up for summer school so i dont have to repeat the grade and its like ugh i dont mean to fight with her I JUST DONT WANT TO GO ANYWHERE and she started getting mad cause i told one of my friends that i dont want to go and shes like dont tell your friends that! What am i supposed to do be like ohh im so excited im leaving for a year yay! When Im not....
Anyadvice?
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If you know that being sent away is for the best, then that's what you have to keep reminding yourself of.
I know it probably seems a little scary and annoying that you are being sent away for a long time, but don't make your parents the enemy of your stress. They are probably stressed for you too.
Start accepting that in two months a lot is going to change for the better, not the worst. Just because it's not something you want to do, it doesn't mean that it can't be a good thing. You should start taking this time you have left to bond with your parents a little better because I think that when you leave unhappy with them, you'll feel regretful of the way things got left behind. Your parents probably understand that you feel the way you are feeling, but it would be easier for them if you were calm and mature about these feelings.
The first thing you can do is stop making them buy you everything little thing you want. If you really need something before you leave, then that's ok to ask for. Don't take advantage of them getting you everything you want just to get you to go where you are suppose to go in two months. you and your parents are very stressed in this situation, don't make it harder on yourselves.
Secondly, try apologizing for the way you've been acting. I know that you may think you are right, but they might even apologize in return for the way they've acted too. Just say:
"Mom/dad, I know that I've been acting a little crazy and I'm really sorry for making it harder on us to get n with this. I'm just upset lately because I don't want to do this and I'm honestly having a hard time accepting this. I don't mean to hurt your feelings."
You'll feel a lot better if you got things fixed up with your parents. Things wouldn't be as stressful, and you wouldn't keep on getting in fights. If you aren't going to make an effort with your parents, just tink of it this way: The way you are dealing with this situation isn't working obviously, so why not try something different?
-TheTeenGirl
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Hey, lol i understand what your going through, i dont think your mom had a right to get soo mad at you for tellin your friend. Its her fault that you cant talk to her about things. I would suggest that you sit down with your mom and dad or w/e and just b like, "i dont want you to send me away and the reason that i am fighting it so much is becuase i will miss you" or something like that lol, what are they send you away for anyways??? If you say something like that it will get there attention and then they will most likely hav second thoughts about the whole situation. maybe they will give you another chance.
Good Luck!!
Love ya'll,
Vanessa
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First off Why are you getting sent away?, all i know is that its for a good reason. If you dontfeel like telling me because i am a compleate stranger that is fine. So before i start going off i would like to introduce myself. My name is Whitney , I am 17 years old and Live in Canada. I live in a small town with my mom. When i grow up i want to be a Teen Psychologist. With that said I just want to give you some diffrent advice about your situation. Since i dont know your specific problem i am going to assume. First i am assuming its because you need help of some sort. weather it be anger problems, depression, ect. In thats the case The your parents are doing it for all the right reasons which you have obioustly igknowlaged. which is a good thing. The reason why i think you are lashing out and fighting for no apparent reason . Is because you feel so hurt . The fact that they are sending there own daughter away for a whole year. You may even feel abandon in a sence. Maybe they just brought it up one day out of the blue and you were so shocked you didnt knwo what to do. Now you have this subject about you leaving to go away for a year against your will eatting at your brain. How can you parents do this? If i am dead on the Nail then this is my advice for you . Talk to your parents. Sit them down. Tell they you igknowlage that you have a problem and that they are sending you away for a good cause. Then proceed to tell them what your issues with this you haev . Instead of lashing out telling them that you dont want to go ... tell them why . What you truly feel. If tears come to your eyes. Let them roll. For once let your true emotions come out and spill the ebans. Maybe they will give you the answers your looking for. Then live up the time you have left and go into this "place yoru going to " with an open mind. Remeber only good things can come from this. On the other hand if its a drug issue Then i think your lashing out becauise you realize that your going to have to stop. More more nose candy for you . your not going to look forward to the horrible withdrawls you are about to face. And thought you knwo its for a good cause it pisses you off so much how sombody can take you to a rehab against your will. What ever the situation . Embrace it . Besides a year of a life to improve yourself. It could eb the best year of your life. chow. If you want to talk to me more. PLease feel free to e-mail me at hottie_sexy_chick_69@hotmail.com (dont ask about my hotmail account lol i was in grade 8 when i made it up and was to lazy to create a new one . im not a big sleeze ball or anythign LOL ) chow for now ;)
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ok where are you going?
anyway, just tell them that giving you things isnt going to change you wanting to go. Let them knwo that you'll miss them, and your friends, and that going away will only make whatever happened worse. Even if it's not the truth, try to convince them that you really want to stay.
And let them know they're your friends and you can tell them what they want. And even if you didnt, theyd probably know you didnt want to go in the first place. Friends have a way of seeing the way you really feel, just be looking into your eyes.
I personally would LOVE to get away from my house and my town, so im not sure if I can help you any better than that
Rae <3
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Have you tried to explain why you dont want to go? Stating you dont want to go doesnt explain the reason you dont want to go. All you can do at this point is try to talk it out with your parents and express your feelings openly. As far as the fights go sometimes its easier to fight and leave than to just leave on a good note. It is easier to be angry and not care where you are going than to sit there and say good bye and feel bad about going away. But anger is never the answer it is always good to leave on good terms. Try to relax and make the most of the time left you have with your parents. And know they will always love and your parents are trying to do what is best for you. Try to understand what they are going through and it will help you get through your situation.
Good luck
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