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Hey it's Me Vanessa Ask me anything..Ive been through alot and so I can help with advice!

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im not a very internety person and i was just wondering how did yot get your page so pretty in pink?

Hey, I went to collumn settings then towards the bottom it says something like color scheme I clicked on pink. I think this will work if it doesnt email me again and I will give you a new set of directions!

Love Ya'll,
Vanessa

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Tommorow i`m going to the movies with 2 guys and 2 other girls. I kinda like one of the guys & he doesn`t know it. I was wondering what hairstyle i should wear, lol. Websites , instructions , and pictures would be great. Thanks everyonee . =D

Hey, hott hair ideas:
www.beautyriot.com

Love Ya'll,
Vanessa

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VERY LONG BUT I RATE HIGH!

my dad. i dont know how to explain him.. he divorced my mom when i was 3 and i guess my mom walked out on me. she came back so now i see her every other weekend. my dad and her still fight sometimes and he gets frustrated with her easily. everyone at my dads house always says bad stuff about my mom, including my brother, so i defend her as best i can and my dad gets really angry. i live with him & my grandparents & my brother. i cry at least one time a day but i dont cut or anything like that. i just cry alot. hes very agressive, smokes, drinks, and takes pills. i dont know what to do though because im not sure why hes like this and he always takes it out on ME. i cant go to a psychiatrist because he wont let me or anything and i dont wanna tell the police or anything because he doesnt physically hurt me, only emotionally. oh and please dont tell me to talk it out with him because he will not do that :(

well if you have ANY advice then please help. & i am a 15/f if it changes anything :/

Hey, yea that's gotta be frustrating. Have you tried telling your mom about this, she DOES have authority to get you help?? But another possible option is to talk to a school counsilor.

Hope i helped!!!

Love Ya'll,
Vanessa

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I'm constantly being made fun of because of my eyebrows. I've plucked them to death and now they're about half as short as they used to be. They're ugly and it's really hurting my self esteem. I've tried letting them grow back but they're just little sprouts and never actually form an eyebrow. They're scattered... so I shave them off. I hate this!!!! What can I do to have normal looking eyebrows? I've tried eyebrow pens but nothing matchs the color and it looks terrible having half only colored on with not a trace of hair. I don't want to bestuck like this for the rest of my life! Please help!

Hey, this is exactly what happened to me, i thought my eyebrows looked good, until i found out that all of my friends pluck em'. So i tried and i got a little carried away lol. What i did was, let them grow back, as bushy as they want to lol, and then go to a salon and get them done there. They are pro's so they no what they are doing. They will wax them then trim them if requested and that will help alot!!!!

Hope i helped!!

Love Ya'll,
Vanessa

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Why does my vagina smell like a fishy substance

i've heard people talk about how vaginas smell but i dont think anyone elses does?.. i hope this isnt gross! i'll rate 5's!

Hey, lol its ok, i understand i didn't know at first either. If you haven't had your period yet or are just going to have your period then its completely normal. You may have a thick yellow substance in your undrwr also, this is called discharge, it only means that your body is preparing for a period.

Well, thanx and hope i helped!!

Love Ya'll,
Vanessa

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im 15/f and i've got a really wierd problem. First of all, don't call me an emo or any of that nonsense or i will give you a 1, i am most definantly not.

so when my dad screams at me (about once or twice a day) he usually yells pretty bad, verbally abusing me, it hurts. so ever since i was younger instead of cry or let out my pain, because if i cried he would get even madder at me, i would pinch myself very hard or scratch myself secretly with my hands behind my back or so. i was about 7 when i started this. now this year it has gotten worse, i am getting screamed at for nothing and it has been worse then ever. i started scratching myself until i bleed. not until the skin is red, until blood is dripping. now i have 3 scars on my wrist and too many to count on my waist. i never thought i was a cutter b/c i didn't go cry and slice myself with a blade, i don't think i could ever do that. but i went bathing suit shopping with my friends and they saw the scars, and they were horrified. they had no idea what it was from, i didnt really know they were so noticable but they def. are. i am really happy all the time at school, a cheerleader vb player, a prep and every1 sees me as happy and hyper. i do cry sometimes, so im not like repressing everything. and im not emo, i don't self loath or anything. so why do i do this? make myself burn, sting, and drip blood? i don't know how to stop, i tried to rubber band and it doesn't work. i cnt seek professional help my dad will never allow it. please somebody help. I RATE 5'S FOR REAL ANSWERS

Hey, one of my friends dad sounds alot like yours, he yelled at her and she didn't even do anything. She never did anything to him, she wanted nothing to do with him. If seeking professional help is out of the question and since the rubber band trick didn't work, then an alternative is to cut your nails short, then you wont be able to cut yourself and find something else to do when your mad besides cutting yourself. Like, jsut walk away and go practice cheerleading or something. Also, dont let him get into your head, if he thinks that he has the power to make you mad or sad, then he'll do it. The only reason he is doing this is to let you know that hes the boss, and all you have to do is make him understand that what he is doing isn't bothering you and hes just wasting his time! Lol, well i really hope i helped and good luck with your dad!!!

Its not your fault(what he's doing to you) so don't punish yourself by scratching your wrist or waste----:)


Love Ya'll, hope i helped,
Vanessa

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Just yesterday, I started feeling sick. Today I have a little bit of a sore throat (it has improved)& the beginning of a stuffy nose and last night I'm pretty sure I had a fever, and I'm not sure if it's gone or not. I've been drinking Tons of water, and I've been resting. Today I will be going to my friends birthday party for about an hour, and tomorrow I'm going to my granparents house. I hope to be better by Monday.

Do you think I will be better by Monday? & Besides drinking water & resting, what else can I do to get better? Are there any foods that will help?

Thanks, I'll rate.

Hey, Get AirBorn it works really well for colds, flus, and all that stuff! You'll feel better the day after you try it sumimes even the day!
Get Better!

Love Ya'll,
Vanessa

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i was wondering if anyone knew of any places in massachusetts where baby raccoons or flying squirrels were sold. I would greatly appreciate any help and guides. I have looked online on several different websites and searches but i have not a single success. Thanks, I will rate.

Hey, I'v been to Massachusetts before and we dove by somewhere called Baby Changs Pet Shop or something like that, i no somebody already helped i was just agreeing lol.

Hope i helped help lol

Love Ya'll
Vanessa

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all of my best friends have boyfriends and theyre always so busy with them that i get left out of everything. theyve stopped being such good friends we dont really talk much and when i do they dont listen. its really stressful and i dunno im not jealous of them im happy they have someone but shouldnt they still care about me? they dont know what its like to be in my situation and when i try to explain it to them they just shut me out. what do i do?

Hey, I understand how you feel my 3 bestfriends did that to me a lil while ago. Anyway you should try seeing if you, your friends, and there boyfriends can hangout together. That way they can spend time with both you and their boyfriends. If that doesnt work try joining some other friends for lunch some that dont have boyfriends all over them maybe you could haangout with other peopple Until you get your own boyfriend, but remeber when you get a boyfriend how it felt when you where left out and try not to leave the new friends out.
Good Luck!

Love Ya'll
Vanessa

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is there anyway to improve my running so and can get faster?? i'm an outfielder for softball and the only way i'll be able to start varsity is if i can cover more ground any help is appreciated

Hey, I play basketball so i know how you feel, i had to be fast because i was a point guard and the best way to get fast is to keep practice, like do footwork drills and practice when you run, dont let your arms fling everywhere. Also, it helps you move faster if instead of putting ur hands in fists, you put your thumb and middle finger lightly together, lol i no that it sounds dumb but try it. I also have more tips if these work then just kno that i have more.

Love Ya'll,
Vanessa

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What is the best way not to let your period from leaking during ball? I don't wear tampons.. I useally wear the underarmor shorts underneath my shorts to prevent it but it makes me run like a chicken..lol.. what should i do? we wear a light color shorts btw

Hey, lol i have to deal with the same exact prblem so i know how you feel! I play basketball all year around, i never have a break so its really frustrating and embarassing,lol. I suggest that you wear a thick pad since you dont wear tampons, it may sound weird but trust me it works.

Try it, Good Luck with ball;)

Love Ya'll,
Vanessa

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Okay Well Here The deal! I Just Got Off Of a REALLY bruised finger and i was tumbling today adn i did 4 back hand springs in a row! i was wondering if ya'll think it would be safe to go for 4?! i mean i dont wanna hurt it more because cheerleading tryouts are 2 weeks! SO what to do?! I RATE!

Hey, lol cheerleading's awesome!!!! I think that just to be safe, you should stay off it for a few days. if you keep workin it i think it will b sore and stuff for the tryouts but then if you let it rest for just a couple of days then practice little bits at a time it will b ok. Also, ice it!! lol ice works!

Goodluck with cheerleading and rest your finger!

Love Ya'll,
Vanessa

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i have to get a sports physical wat would i normally expect?

Hey, i was really nervous when i had my first sports physical also,lol, but its nothing at all! you have absolutly no reason to be nervous. If your nervous about them checking "private areas" then dont b because they only do that to guys, or so i'v heard lol. But all they do is really check ur cordinationand stuff like that.

Dont be nervous!!

Love Ya'll,
Vanessa

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I'm trying to learn a backflip on the trampoline.. I can do one on my but like jump til you get high and then land on your but and do a backflip and land it.. My friends says it's easier.. but I'm just afraid of landing on my neck I feel like I could do it..I'm going to get someone to spot me.. but it just makes me more scared of hurting them

what should I do to get the backflip?

Hey, i remember when i first got a trampoline and i tried to do a flip i fell on mi head it sorta hurt but as long as i kept tryin i got more confident about it and if i felt like i was goin to fall instead of landing properly lol i put mi hands in back of my head. All that i am tellin you is to keep tryin, dont give up because it makes you nervous or somthin just keep tryin and be cautious dont go crazy be careful and watch out for the edge!!! lol
good luck with your flips!!

Love Ya'll
Vanessa

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ok so, my school is having a dinner dance. my best friend and i were going to ask the ppl we like to it today after school. BUT these to guys, who we are kinda friends with and like us, asked us to the dance. but when she went on the bus today, she asked the 2 guys that we like, what they would say if we asked them. they said they would have said yes!!!!! what the hell should we do? we are in need of some serious advice!!!! thanks


Hey, i suggest that you do one of two things, u either tell the guys that ur goin with right now that your really sorry and you have to cancel with them because you were already planning to go with somebody else, or you tell the hotties sorry but we already have dates the the dance, but if you wanna hang out sometime that'd b cool or somthin lik that you know
lol good luck!!

Love Ya'll
Vanessa

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uGh im gonna go insane.... 2months and im out of here... ok well ive been really stressed about almost everything.... my parents are sending me away for a year and i honestly dont want to go and like they know but ther buying me like everything i want before i leave but i keep on getting in fights with them beause they get mad when i tell them i dont want to go... i kinda feel bribed but then again i know there sending me for a good reason but ugh im so irratated with everything...today i got in a fight with my mom cause it had something to do with me signing up for summer school so i dont have to repeat the grade and its like ugh i dont mean to fight with her I JUST DONT WANT TO GO ANYWHERE and she started getting mad cause i told one of my friends that i dont want to go and shes like dont tell your friends that! What am i supposed to do be like ohh im so excited im leaving for a year yay! When Im not....
Anyadvice?

Hey, lol i understand what your going through, i dont think your mom had a right to get soo mad at you for tellin your friend. Its her fault that you cant talk to her about things. I would suggest that you sit down with your mom and dad or w/e and just b like, "i dont want you to send me away and the reason that i am fighting it so much is becuase i will miss you" or something like that lol, what are they send you away for anyways??? If you say something like that it will get there attention and then they will most likely hav second thoughts about the whole situation. maybe they will give you another chance.

Good Luck!!

Love ya'll,
Vanessa

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I was just wondering, is "Katlyn" pronounced the same way as "Caitlyn" && "Kaitlyn" && all the other ways to spell it?

Hey, Yes it all sounds the same!

Love Ya'll,
Vanessa

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hi please help me
not to discriminate anyones beliefs but howcome like when like i find people who don't believe in God i feel like...a hypocrite cause like i'm not a true practicing catholic but i still pray everyday...is this normal i wish this could stop because i noe everyone is different and has different beliefs please help!

Hey, you dont have to be a practicing catholic to pray. My friend has never gone to church doesnt own any kind of Bible or anything like that, but she still prays when she needs help or to tell God thank you for something. If you pray and you dont go to church or do anything else religious people do that doesnt make you a hypocrite otherwise alot of people in this world would be hypocrites!

Much Love,
Vanessa

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My best friend spends WAY too much time with her bf and whenever I try to tell her she gets mad and calls me selfish. She does EVERYTHING with him now and I think she likes him more than me. What can I do?

Hey, this exact thing happened to me, just explain to her that you respect her having a dedicated relationship with her boyfriend and everything lol, but you feel like your losing her as a friend and you dont want that to happen. If she gets mad at you then maybe try to suggest that all three of you hang out(as a group):) that way you can all three spend time together and no1 will get jealous or mad.

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what do you use to make your hair really soft and pin-straight? like what's the best straightener, shampoo/condtioner, straighting balm .. anything?! my hair is naturally really wavy and is really dry and damaged. anything i can do to fix that (except get a haircut? cuz i've done that lol) please let me know!

Hey, a good straightening "Gel" is Revelon Straight or Revelon Heat GLide(which prtects your hair when straightening.) A good straightener is Remmington Wet 2 Straight. Good shampoos are the Abba brand.

Love Ya'll and Good Luck,
Vanessa

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