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this is really personal :(
VERY LONG BUT I RATE HIGH!
my dad. i dont know how to explain him.. he divorced my mom when i was 3 and i guess my mom walked out on me. she came back so now i see her every other weekend. my dad and her still fight sometimes and he gets frustrated with her easily. everyone at my dads house always says bad stuff about my mom, including my brother, so i defend her as best i can and my dad gets really angry. i live with him & my grandparents & my brother. i cry at least one time a day but i dont cut or anything like that. i just cry alot. hes very agressive, smokes, drinks, and takes pills. i dont know what to do though because im not sure why hes like this and he always takes it out on ME. i cant go to a psychiatrist because he wont let me or anything and i dont wanna tell the police or anything because he doesnt physically hurt me, only emotionally. oh and please dont tell me to talk it out with him because he will not do that :(
well if you have ANY advice then please help. & i am a 15/f if it changes anything :/
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You should talk to your mom about it. If she is willing to have you live with her, that could be arranged.
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Hey, yea that's gotta be frustrating. Have you tried telling your mom about this, she DOES have authority to get you help?? But another possible option is to talk to a school counsilor.
Hope i helped!!!
Love Ya'll,
Vanessa
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well you can go talk it out with someone close to you that you trust or talk to someone in your school like the guidance councelor. if you get sick of him you could always go live with your mom or go out whenever he makes you stressed out and such.. try to do something that will calm you down whenever he hurts you or talk to a friend when you need a talk wiht someone.. good luck though!
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It's going to be hard for you to take advice in your situation. But talk to a counselor at school. Tell them what is occurring. Is your mother settled enough to take you? I hate to see you have trouble there as well. But it sounds as though you're going to have to take the 1st step in clearing this up. Expect bad and good times while going through this. But if you're bold enough to come this far you're bold enough to go the rest. I pray for only the best for you. Good luck
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You need to tell all this to your guidance counselor, he or she can help you best if your Dad won't get you medical help. You don't have to tell your Dan, just show your counselor this letter.
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Let me just say that you are strong for making it through the divorce. Any type of abuse is painful and leaves emotional, as well as subconcious scars. You need to talk to someone about it regularly...a close friend, religious leader, school counselor, family member, or even someone that you trust online at a sight like this one or elsewhere. Truse me when I say that wounds don't heal if they are constantly filled with lemon juice and hidden away. Talking with someone, the same someone is best, helps. It doesn't make the problem go away, but it gives you someone to help lift the load. (That does NOT make it a burden for them! It's just lightening your own!) I know cause I've been there. I had some problems and had to go through 3 years of counseling, even today it still hurts sometimes. And like you, my parents divorced when I was very young, 10 months old to be exact. Only it was my dad that left. It hurts, and it sucks. It seems that those of us that have divorced families have siblings and relatives with drug, alcohol, or other problems. It often comes as a result. It's good that you stick up for you mom though. Don't stop. You might stand alone, but at least there's someone standing up for her. I imagine that she has gone through a lot, and deserves some credit.
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I can understand why this upsets you. You seem to have an okay relationship with your mom and you're constantly being surrounded with nothing but negative words towards her when you're at your dad's. It does sound like you need some sort of help and the only solution I can think of is to either tell a parent or a teacher. Because even if he's hurting you emotionally, it can screw you up and its better if you have someone to talk to and their door is always open. If you have one teacher you feel really comfortable around, I suggest you going in during lunch, before school or after school and ask if you can talk about some personal problems. And seriously, just let it all out to them. I don't know about verbally, but I know if he's physically abusing you, the school HAS to report it. But if he's hurting you emotionally, I'm sure theres something they can do about that as well. No child should be put through that and this is your chance to speak up for yourself. Go to your teacher or school councelor. I know in the past if students are having problems they can meet once a week or something and discuss things with their councelor. Thats basically like a free psychiatrist session right there (only they can't prescribe medicine to you, ha--so more like a counceling session). Hopefully I helped, and seriously, do something.
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