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Today in Life Skills, my school counselor told us girls "all 13-year-old boys care about is looks." (it's not a co-ed class) She also went on to say that 13-year-old boys only like girls with big boobs and a big ass. She said that they are very shallow, but the best thing for us to do is wait for them to grow up.
Is this really true? Do boys only notice boobs and butts on a girl and nothing else? It doesn't make me feel too good knowing that, because I certainly don't have a big butt and big boobs, and I'd like to have a boyfriend.
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to many boys that is an important thing, but ne ver the only thing. i cant speak for every guy obviously, but i dont care about looks at all. of course i notice the physical stuff, but it doesn't affect how much i like a person. and you don't want a person that likes you for what you look like anyway, so if you're a nice person with a really nice personality, then i'm sure you'll get a boyfriend eventually, but don't freak about it. hope this helps
Alan
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no thats usually not true unless if the guy is a big hornball. Because y would they put up w/ u if they didnt like you just for a peice of ass ya he might like big boobs and butts but that doesnt mean thats all he cares about.
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All guys are different. At the age of 13 some of them may be really immature and some of them may be really mature. It all depends on the guy.
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What your counselor said was way out of line, untrue, and stupid. Not all guys are like that. Sure, many are, but not all of them. Many of the smarter, more mature ones go for the personality. There aren't many 13-year-olds that do, but they're there.
Your counselor lied. I hate to be blunt, but she did. A more correct statement would be, "Because of puberty, young teenage boys tend to notice a girls' chest and butt more than they did before."
She shouldn't be making generalizations about a certain group of people. If she's a counselor, she should be teaching kids to do otherwise.
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders
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boys are macho pigs and your counselor is right they noeed to griw up. l am one of those girls with big boobs and big ass. guys ask me out a lot. but l blow them off because what they are doing is so wrong. So dont worry if you dont have those qualities some boys dont even like those qualities they like a personality. SO DON'T WORRY...
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Whoever this teacher is needs to be fired, because not only is that probably inappropropiate, and probably hurt a lot of peoples feelings, its a stereotype thats is basically retarded. I'm 14, but thats just about the same age. And most of the guys DONT care about looks at all. They care, but not enough to change how they look at people. And most guys dont like big boobs anymore.. trust me
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i think your guidance counselor was completely wrong in saying that! of course that's not all boys care about! if they did, the world would be a very SINGLE place. because, if that was all a guy cared about, then he is really not worth it. but don't worry, there's someone out there for you, and you've just got to find him:)
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Yup. It's true.
So, wait until you're older, because you won't have a meaningful relationship at 13 anyway. A complete waste of time and dissatisfaction.
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Although I don't think your teacher was right (and certainly not politically correct) to say what she said, I have to agree with her conclusion that 13-year-old boys are basically undate-able.
As a 13-year-old girl, I met cute guys, I met guys I liked and I met guy who were really sweet, but I NEVER did or have met a 13-year-old guy who is actually capable of being in the kind of relationship I wanted. Emotionally and socially, I've never met one who is quite there yet.
That isn't to say they don't exist, just that I have not yet seen it.
I think the important thing for every girl in your position to remember is that not every guy you like is worth turning into a boyfriend. Having a boyfriend just because you want a boyfriend, is asking for trouble and pain. If someone wonderful falls into your lap at thirteen, great, lucky you, but don't count on it. I honestly believe you'll save yourself a lot of angst and disappointment if you hold off on dating for a few years.
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I think basically its true.. even in highschool half the guys are like that. just give them time and ignore them, but just because you dont have a big butt or boobs doesn't mean they won't date you.. just if you do they will give you the wrong kind of attention
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Depends on the boy.
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I think that your counselor was trying to scare you so that you stay away from boys. Judging from some of the questions we get on here from 13 year old girls I can see why she would do something like that, but her actions are in no way justified. She is concerned for you girls and knows that you are young and could get hurt very easily because you don't know a lot about boys, relationships, or sex yet. She is going about helping you in the wrong way though. She's lying to you and keeping the truth from you in order to stop you from doing things, not educating you on what you don't know so that you aren't quite so naieve. Some boys, of course are very shallow and care only about looks, but some girls are that way too. There are plenty of guys your age that will look at your personality, not just your body. Think of it this way too, you're 13. Probably very few of your peers are very developed yet either. Once you go through puberty you'll get a figure. It can be a blessing and it can be a curse. You'll look good, but you can't always be sure of a guy's intentions. Try not to worry so much about getting a boyfriend. The more confident you are about the way you look and the way you carry yourself, the greater the chance of you getting a boyfriend. Confidence is one of the most desired traits when looking for a potential partner. I think that you should tell your principal what your school counselor told you. She shouldn't get away with giving you incorrect information. Good luck!
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No offense, but, I think your counsellor is an idiot. Not all guys are the same. They don't just like girls with big chests, and asses. They actually look for personality too. Some guys are really shallow dickheads who don't care, and all they want is sex. But, not all guys are this way. Cheer up hun, she lied to you. Not all guys are the same. Some love personality more than looks, some love both, and some love boobs/ass. Besides, boys are immature at 13, but some are really mature. You'll find a boyfriend. And besides, you're 13, your boobs will get bigger, you're still growing.
♥TiNA
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A lot of boys may be that way. They are immature at 13...that's not big news.
I do think the teacher was kind of out of line to lump ALL 13 year old boys into that category.
All boys, no matter what age they are seem to be fascinated with boobs. They don't have to be "big" either. Its probably because they don't have them themselves.
So, don't feel bad. You will get a boyfriend one of theses days. 13 is a little young for a big romance anyway, but they will mature before long. :)
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