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If she's bi...
Hey, I'm 15/m. There's this girl at my school that i've known for about a month now and I really like her, a lot. I want to ask her out, but today she told me that she was bisexual, and leans more towards girls because so far her guy relationships haven't been so well. I asked her if she still dates guys and she was like "Haha why?" and I just said "Hehe just wondering ;)" but yeah she seems like she wants to go out with me too and we seem to always be around each other during lunch or passing periods and such. We're going to a movie together on Friday, but we're getting there about two hours earlier so we can shop. I'm thinking about asking her out then, but I'm not sure if she'll say yes... any suggestions on what to do? How should I ask her out, what should I say to spark the convorsation? Any help please? Thanks.
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haha you seem like a total sweetheart lol. If shes bi, it means she still likes guys. And it seems like she likes you too. Just let her know you arent like all the jackass guys she went out with before and that you really like her. Then just ask her out. If she doenst say yes... at least you tried, and at least she knows you like her in case she changes her mind.
And when you go to do it, you'll know when the perfect time to ask her will be. It might seem like you dont know when it will be, but when you start talking to her itll make sense
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Being bi-sexual doesn't mean she is less likely to go out with you then any other girl. If she likes you she will, if she doesn't she wont. It's that simple. Chicks are usually that simple.
My advice is the same it would be with any other girl. Just talk to her, about anything, ask questions about things she says and things she is interested in, pay attention and enjoy yourself when you are with her.
If you are really worried about being turned down you could always ease your way into dating. I'm a huge fan of the pre-date. Invite her out just the two of you a few times (without using that scary 'date' word) and it will quickly become obvious if she is open to dating you.
One last word of advice, if you are going to ask a girl out do it closer to the end of a get together, not at the beginning. That way if the answer is no you don't have to keep hanging out feeling awkward. In this case I'd just say something like "Hey this was fun, we should do this again." and throw out an idea of something else you could do together.
Good luck.
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Devise a huge scheme to make her feel like a princess, or completely surprise her by asking at a completely random time. The two extremes, I think, are best. I could come up with ideas for you, but it would be better if you thought of something on your own. If it comes from you, it will mean more. I would suggest that you do it before the movie to get it over with. The movie may be awkward if you don't. Remember that it's okay if she says no. She has been hurt in the past and she may be very hesitant to date another guy. Her comment about leaning more towards girls because of past relationships with guys can work to your advantage. If she's hesitant at all about dating you, continue to reassure her that you won't hurt her like other guys have in the past. Give her lots of time to think about it if she needs it. Be super sweet to her the whole night. If she says no, she might not mean no and it's not your last chance so don't lose hope or feel bad. Sometimes putting someone on the spot can scare them enough into saying no when they really wanted to say yes. If you're rejected or put on hold, ask again a month or so later. That should be enough time for her to sort everything out and come up with her final decision. I wish you the best of luck and it seems to me that she really likes you so try not to worry!
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Well, when you're talking to her, ask her if she'd ever go out with you, if she says yes. Pop the question & ask her out. The worst thing she could do is say no, but I'm sure she won't. She sounds like she wants to date you. I understand the whole thing about leaning more towards girls because I'm bi also, and guys can be pricks, so they make you wanna date girls more. But, you could always prove her wrong. Be the one guy that shows her that they're not all the same.
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