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I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.













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Thinking about baby names. WDYT of these?

Aaron Bennett
Joseph James "Joe"
Matthew David or Matthew Joseph "Matt"
Wesley Richard "Wes"
Calvin Clayton
Cole Brandon
Nicholas Andrew "Nick"
William Trent "Will"
Jacob Mitchell
Noah Daniel
Richard ? "Ritchie"


Alexia Ann
Addy Teresa (Teresa is after my mom)
Kennedy Rebekah (Rebekah is after my aunt)
Daisy Jane
Emily Gwendolyn
Jessica Elizabeth
Jane Elizabeth
Meagan Ann
Amy Lea (pronounced Lee)
Melissa Lea (pronounced Lee)



These names are nice if you like common names.

For the boy I'm not really fond of any of them but if I had to pick one I may go with Matthew.


The girl I am not fond of either lol but again, If I had to choose I may mix it up to Amy Rebekah.


I am more of an uncommon name type of person. I like these

Jarred
Benjamin
Jason


Vaniyah
Makiyah
Iris
Julianei (Julie-Ani)

It's about what you like, If you like common names then go with it. ;)

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I am in middle school in 7th grade.I am 13. There is a boy named Ben, he really likes me. He started liking me when he saw my hair. Every time i try opening my locker, he just comes behind me and hugs me really tight. You know what I mean. I have told like 10 times. He got a lot of this and suspended. i tell the teachers i trust. i tell them cause sometimes they see me curse at that boy who likes me and if i don't tell them they have to write me up for cursing. he always tries to kiss me but i don't let him. one time he looked at me in a love look and i was scared he would do something and he did . he kissed me really fast from the mouth. everybody the hallway saw us. i ran to the restroom and i was crying. my teacher came and talked to me. and she said if you keep telling he will go to jail cause he might do something bad to you.. i really don't have that kind of that hard heart. my parents don't know because if i tell them they will not let me go to school anymore or they will just leave thr whole state. a lot of boys liked me but not as much as this boy does. i just can't describe how much he likes me. he says that he will do anything just for me. every day when he sees me he says "your hair is so cute". in the classroom ,sometimes my teacher steps out to talk with others, he tries to hug me and i just don't let i tell him to get off of me or let go of my hand, and when sometimes i stand up he just pulls me to the wall and tries to kiss me. but my friends save me from him.even if we have a party, i can't enjoy myself. yesterday in the after noon he hugged me from the back,putting his hand around my back and stomach,he said" where ever you go i will follow you. if anybody doesn't give you to me, i will just take from them. and that is a promise" i was crying in the bathroom:(, i am so scared. i really don't know what to do.please help :(




You are not being raped, You are being sexually assaulted.

You must tell your parents, If telling a teacher didn't work then you need to keep on telling someone who WILL listen to you. You have done nothing wrong, This kid is WAY out of line. No means no there is no excuse for his behavior at all and it is not okay.

Tell your parents, Explain to them exactly what has been happening at school and let them know you have talked to the teacher and tell your parents what the teacher had said too you.

Sometimes in certain situations, You have to keep on telling until something is done about it. Don't ignore it, That is not okay. Do not allow him to put his hands on you and most importantly NEVER EVER allow anyone to intimidate you.

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Does long distance relationship can be conquered?




Generally, No


Long distant relationships but a strain on making a relationship work. Unless there is serious commitment to one moving closer or living arrangements are being made then a long distant relationship will drift in time.

A long distant takes 5x more work on trust and honesty. A relationship is about supporting one another and the distant makes it hard to work as two.

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Hi I'm 15 and I recently just broke up with my boyfriend. Well he broke up with me. I know a lot of people will say I'm too young to be going out with someone but what I had with this guy was really special and we were so close, I knew everything about him and I had helped him through so much. Anyway.. I noticed that he was being really distant with me recently and I thought I had done something wrong. So, I texted him and asked if I had done anything wrong and he told me no that it was to do with certain personal problems I know are a touchy subject and affect him a lot. I tried to help him but he kept pushing me away saying there was nothing I could do to help. I started to get upset about something that had been bothering me for a whole and that was him not really making an effort in the relationship. This problem was killing me inside and I needed to get it off my chest to know if he really did care about me so I explained to him I knew he was upset and that he's going through things right now but I needed to get some things off my chest. So I told him. He got even more upset and ended our relationship instead of sorting out the problem. I really thought he would of been more understanding. At this point I obviously felt really bad for what I had done and was apologising to him like crazy, he knew I was sorry and said he forgives me and still cares about me so much but he can't be with someone who would 'kick him while he's down' I don't know what to do.. What we had was really special and I want him back. I feel like I've done so much already to try and make things better but things are still the same. Please, someone tell me it what I did was wrong? Should I do anything else? Will he eventually cool off and realise what I was trying to say?



He lost interest in the relationship.


You being 15, I am assuming he is around the same age. This doesn't have anything to really do with personal problems, Many sometimes use this as a throw in to avoid the real problem. I am not saying he doesn't have anything going on but people in a relationship help, talk and support each other through good and bad times. Unfortunately, He didn't want to talk about it and didn't want to take your feelings into consideration which tells me that he likely ended it because he couldn't hide how he felt anymore. You can apologize but you can't make someone want to be in a relationship either. All you can really do at this point is try to move on from it. Bringing it up and wanting to give things a fresh start isn't going to make the situation any better then it is. Once you break a relationship, It's almost never the same again. You may just need to accept the heat, Go on and meet someone else.

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I have no idea how this works really but me and my boyfriend would like to buy a home ln September... Neither of us have any credit.. I hAve a car loan and credit card both in my moms name so I don't get credit for it maybe a little..I tried various credit card company's and no one will give me a card... My credit score is like 600, and my boyfriends is 0.. We both have been at our jobs for 5 years but only seasonal.. We would like to put 5% to 10% down on a house but I'm wondering if Anyone would even give us a loan being that we have no credit? Even if we could rent to own or something.. I don't want to pay rent for someone else's mortgage.. If anyone can help thank you :))




If you have no credit, It may be hard to get approved to put a down payment on a house yet alone buy one.

For starters, I would recommend looking into a home that has the option rent to own. This gives you the opportunity to rent and see how well you manage the house without owning it right off the bat. If you can manage, Then I would continue the method of renting until the house is paid off. A loan generally is given to people who are approved and have credit built up, If you have no credit history then you may be shot down. I moved into an apartment and had no credit at the time and was almost turned down cause of it.

Rent to own is probably your best option.

Good luck

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I'm 17 years old, male and gay. I have this friend since 5th grade and we been very close and now we're seniors in High School. I have very deep feelings for him...I want to tell him that i want to be with him but i don't know what he's going to say or do?
what can i do...I love him and he knows that i like him but i want more than a friendship with him.



If he likes you, Let him make the move.

If he is aware and likes you in return then when he is ready he will let you know. Perhaps he is aware and may not feel the same way about it. Generally, You can tell how someone feels by the way they act.

If you are unsure then you could ask him how he feels about being with a male rather then imply that you want to be in a relationship and see how he responds. If he doesn't seem interested, Then you know the answer to your question.

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Is it possible for a person to have both the disorganized and paranoid schizophrenia combined? And if so, what would that be called?



This is really something that can only be answered by a Psychiatrist.

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I want to make body building must I quit masterbation




I fail to see how masturbation can interfere with body building?

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I am an 18 year old female, I have been very close to my best friend for years. We have been like sisters and we know everything about each other. I have not for seen this as a problem until recently when I started dating a guy who is a mutual friend of ours we will call sam. Soon after my best friend started dating sam's best friend we will call matt. This didn't seem to be much of a problem until she started to interfere in mine and sam's relationship and getting upset with me when I was spending time with him or when I couldn't talk to her because sam and i were on the phone. She has recently told me that sam and I are getting to close and need to back off, while her and matt are allowed to do whatever and on the rare occasions I say anything I am told to butt out. Before dating sam I did not have much of a social life, as a result she was able to call me whenever. I would like her to stay out of mine and sam's relationship, I understand that she is just worried however I am also starting to wonder if its not just that she doesn't like the change that she can no longer just call me or ask me to do something that I might be busy.




You need to sit down with your friend and tell her that if your friendship is going to continue then she must learn to respect your relationship. Friendships have boundaries, When it comes to relationships and personal life that is where it draws the line.

I have in the past had my fair share of mistakes, I have also stated my opinions on relationships. You know where it got me? I lost a friend I have known for 13 years.

I am now in my late 20's, I have just a few years ago learned what a true friendship is. A friendship is about you and that person, Not your personal life. It is none of her business what you do with your boyfriend and it is none of yours what she does with hers. I have a best friend and we have an awesome relationship but when it comes to her relationship, I do not get involved. I don't discuss my marriage, She don't discuss her relationship period. This is where the line is drawn, If your friend can't learn to accept that then she is going to need to find a new friend.

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19 - Female

My boyfriends moving in, in about 3 weeks.
I'm 5 months pregnant and we have been together for nearly 8 months.

What are the good and the bad things with him moving in...?





Well, This is one of those questions where I will be straight with you.


You are 19, Pregnant and have been with him for 8 months.


Financial stress and the stress of a child at a young age can put a strain on a relationship. 8 months is not that long to be dating someone, Have you lived on your own for awhile? Do you live with your parents? Does he have a job? Do you have a job, car? These are the good and bad of him moving in. Depending on the stability of your financial needs on both parties, This would be the answer to most of your question. If you are not financially stable and independent then you know likely where it will be headed.

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I got my tongue pierced 4 days ago and today I noticed it was bleeding - for almost 45 minutes now. Should I remove the bar and just let it heal?
Thanks!



If it is bleeding then you need to go back to where you got it pierced and have them remove it. Bleeding is not normal 4 days after it was done, Likely they didn't pierce it right.

Some people just can't have certain areas pierced. I have had my lip, ears, eyebrows and nose done and some worked out and some didn't.

You need to have the tongue piercing taken out

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I started dating one of my closest friends awhile ago. Well today she texted me "I kinda just want to be just friends".. Well I really really like her and I don't know how I can just move on..

The thing I'm scared of is losing her. Not exactly relationship wise, but friendship wise aswell. I'm just really confused at this point. Help?




If you respect her as a person then respect her request to just remain friends. Sometimes in life people grow apart and move on. I am not saying it is headed down that road but if she doesn't want to be in a relationship then I would respect her choice. If she decides to go her separate ways down the line, Then it was never meant to be.

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Hi there I'm 16/f and my boyfriend and I have been dating for three weeks now, and well I need your opinions. Let me start from the beginning. My best friend and I used to like obsess over my boyfriend last year before I even knew him. We both saw him at school we made a nickname for him for when we saw him we could talk about him without him knowing. Ok so my best friend she already knew him because they went to middle school together and when we started "stalking" him last year which was our 9th grade year, she told me how she thought he was cute and how they talked and liked each other in 8th grade, but never dated and stopped talking, and how she still thought he was cute and all that hence the reason we talked about him all the time. Well this year, I actually met him and we started talking and started dating. Well when we were about to start dating and I told my best friend, she was like its not a good idea hes mean and saying stuff like that and then if he would want to walk with me in the hallway she would get all mad and yell at me and a lot of the time be like "if your going to walk with him I'm not walking with you and him" and stuff like that. Well that was right before our Christmas break. Well after Christmas break which was last week our first week back, she was suddenly ok with him walking with me and even with him sitting with us at lunch. Then one night all of a sudden my boyfriend and I are snapchatting my boyfriend suddenly sends me these snaps saying "after you went to bed last night, Meghan and I snapchatted a lot. That was the first time ive talked to her in two years. I was upset and shocked especially that my own best friend didn't tell me she is snapchatting MY boyfriend. She tells me everything. Well a couple of days when by and he hasn't snapchatted me sense that night but then three nights ago, I look on his top snaps because you can tell who is your best friends and who you snapchat the most and she is his second top score and same with her!!! so that means hes even snapping her and not even me! plus she told my other two friends in our group and even made a comment where she laughed and mentioned how hes in her top snaps! that really set me off then finally today at lunch, I looked down at my boyfriends phone to notice that they were TEXTING! so now they text and on top of that right when im there they text secretly from across the table. Now I know what the secret little random looks they give to each other is which is the fact that theyre texting! One huge thing that sets me off about all of it is my "best friend" not even telling me. I don't like them doing this it makes me so mad but im scared to bring it up to her that she'll yell at me or something or say your over reacting or something and to him I don't want to say because were working out other issues. Heck I don't know I just want to know what do you guys think about all of this? do you think im over reacting or what? please help!! thank you!




He is cheating, He has even dropped plenty of hints that he is no longer interested in you.

I hate to burst your bubble, but I would be rethinking the definition of what a "best" friend really is. Someone who is any kind of friend does not go out of their way to try and date boyfriends of friends vice versa. I noticed in your paragraph that you are putting more of the blame on the friend rather then acknowledging that it goes both ways. Nobody forced your boyfriend to snapchat with your friend, He choose to do so on his own. Sure, This would piss me off a bit also but on the other hand you should know that any friend that tries to steal away your boyfriend/girlfriend isn't a friend. Any guy who is willing to go behind his girls back is probably someone that I wouldn't want to be with anyway. If he cheated on you, He will indeed cheat on this "friend" of yours. The flags are there, They are obviously into one another. People don't just "stalk" people 's social networks because they were just curious to how much someone looks like someone. Your friend is interested in him and doesn't have the balls to tell you and same goes for the boyfriend. I would cut them both loose, Find a new friend and a new boyfriend that wants to be with YOU not your friends.

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Hai frnds am 23 years and penis is about 4 inch.( still virgin )
1. is it satisfactory or i may think about increase my penis?
2. i was used to masturbated 4 times a week it makes any prob in future
3. And 40+sec time taking to ejaculation.... In dis stage i can make my partner satisfy
4. Feeling tat my penis s small is good to increase in size... How to increase?? Pls suggest me a good idea frnds




Masturbation has no effect on having children or even put you in any sort of risk. Masturbation is known to be the safest way of self pleasure.


The only way to increase the size of penis is by having surgery which of course is very risky. No pill or penis enlarger is going to increase the size for you.

Everyone is different, Nobody has the same size penis just like some people are short and others are tall. There is nothing wrong with you or your penis size, Trust me.

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I used to get on with my bestfriend so well, now it's like shes turned into an evil bitch. I'm nearly 5 months pregnant, so I can see how that slightly affects her because i can't go out and drink or do the crazy shit we used to do. But when she comes over to hang out, shes honestly the biggest bitch ever. She always asks if she can HAVE my stuff, uses my laptop all the time (she brings her own to use so she doesnt have to annoy me for mine and still uses mine), and everythings always about HER. I told her that my boyfriend was moving in, in 3 weeks and she went all "we're never going to get to hang out because he will get angry".

First off she doesnt even know my boyfriend like that, so she can't even respond and say he will get angry - because I know hes not a controlling freak that will make me be with him 24/7.

I don't know if it's my fault shes like this because I'm pregnant and I am most certain that I am not being hormonal or bitchy towards her.

I feel as if shes just using me when she comes around for food and the use of my internet...




Reading your post, You sound like you may be blowing the entire thing a bit out of proportion.

I am sure she didn't mean that you're boyfriend was controlling, She may have meant it in a way where it may lessen the time she can spend with you which generally, When people are in a relationship and live together they don't always have quality time on their hands.

Anyone can be pregnant but sometimes it doesn't quite register to some that you are actually expecting a child. Your friend may not realize that you are stressed and busy, Although it may be obvious of course, Sometimes people just need a reminder. You should try to tell your friend that you are stressed and have a lot going on right now. If you need a break then just let her know that you aren't feeling up to handing out, If you need help with things then ask her for help. If she IS using you and doesn't seem to value your relationship then now may be the time to say something kindly instead of waiting until your baby arrives. I would talk to her about it first and see where it goes from there.


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any good ideas for a baby shower? I'm having mine in less than 4 weeks. I have been on google obviously but everyone has there own opinion and advice. My babyshower is going to be a little bit different, I am going to have my male and female friends there, and people are going to be drinking and I am going to have all sorts of snacks and stuff.

I wanna play some games that the males will be entertained by also.



Well,

I remember when my sister was pregnant and nobody was allowed to say the "baby" word. Whoever had collected more clothes pins at the end of the night that didn't say "baby" won the raffle prize.

Another one was, If you go too Iparty they have little plastic babies. (Looks like this) http://factorydirectcraft.com/catalog/products/1302_790_1648-19469-assorted_miniature_plastic_babies.html?utm_source=googlep&utm_medium=gpfeed&utm_campaign=gpfeed&gclid=CMqnprDG_LsCFag7OgodIx0AqQ

Everyone is to put ONE in a glass of water and whoever melts first must shout (My water broke) also won a prize.


Good luck

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I am a 32 year old wife and mother of 2. I have been married for 10 years and with my husband for 16 years total (since high school). My husband and I have always had a good relationship for the most part but has always lacked communication, affection and support from his side. I know I'm not perfect but always showed I loved him and tried to communicate with him. Over the past 2 years I have endured a lot of stress in my life. He has not been there for me. I ended up turning to another man approximately 14 months ago. We became intimate and fell in love. Problem is he is married as well and is 15 years older then me. For about 6 months we have vowed we would be together. I separated from my husband. He told me he would do the same with his wife because life is too short and he wanted to be happy. However, recently his wife found out about our affair. Now his 17 and 20 year old daughters know about it. They have told him if he ever talks to me again they will never have anything to do with him. This made him panic and he has since left me. He doesn't think his girls will ever forgive him if he doesn't stay with their mother. I have fallen apart. I love him so much but don't know how to get him back. Or if it's possible for his girls to be in his life again if he chose to be happy with me. Now I'm not sure what to do. Do I continue on and be separated from my husband? It's so scary to be on my own and as a single mother. My husband is a good person and a great father. However, I'm not attracted to him at all or feel I love him. Will I ever get over the man I cheated with? If I do is there a chance I can find the love with my husband again? Or do I start fresh. I'm so confused, heartbroken, and lost. I'm not sure where to turn or what to do. More then anything I want to be with the person I fell in love with a year ago. I thought he was everything I could ever want. But has in turn hurt me so bad, but he has been put into a bad situation. Where do I go from here?



Both of the relationships are over.


We will start with your husband

A marriage cannot work if two people are not willing to work together. If you still want to make things work then I suggest talking to him about marriage counseling and get your marriage some help. You both were together for a long time with lack of communication and affection which tells me that counseling may actually do you some good. If not, Then you need to do the right thing by telling your husband you are not happy in the marriage and want to file for divorce.

The married man

This man was married, Any man that is married and is having an affair obviously isn't really one I would want to be involved with personally. This man had lack of heart and was willing to risk his own marriage and his relationship with is children for another women. How is possible that you think it would have ever gone the way you wanted it too nor worked out in the long run? The man had an affair and already proved his is dishonest and cannot be fully trusted. A man that is married should be someone you stay away from, Of course he is going to rethink wanting to be with you if his daughters are not willing to speak with him. His actions were hurtful and wrong and as far as trying to proceed or look into getting him back, I would do right by moving on and leaving the man alone.

Nobody ever said marriage would be easy nor the single life, but if you want to save your marriage you are going to have to try and work at it. Talk to your husband, Express how you feel and learn to work together to fix the problem. You can start fresh if you feel that it is fixable but remember it takes TWO to make it work not one.

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Hi, Im a 16 (almost 17) year old female with a maturity level that proceeds my age and I have a REAL big crush on this guy but he's 24. I know us girls mature much faster than males do so it's normal for me to have feelings for this man. We've been talking for quite a while now and not once has he said anything sexual to me or shown signs that he's interested in me sexually (which is a good thing because that's not what i want..yet.) BUT he has shown signs that he likes me more than just a friend. I'm considering getting into a relationship with him but I just need some opinions from others. ☺Thanks☺





NO


You are a minor, This man is 24 years old. It would be WRONG for him to be in a relationship with a 16 year old. In the eyes of the law, It does not matter how mature you are or say you are. This guy can get into a lot of trouble just being associated with you. If a man that is 24 is showing interest in a 16 year old there is something VERY wrong with him.

Do yourself a favor, Find someone who is your own age. Stay away from him because all someone has too do is report him or get the wrong assumption and boom, He could be hit with charges that could effect him. Leave him alone

You are too young, You are a minor not an adult.

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So me and my boyfriend are going through a difficult time. I just found out that he had kissed and had oral sex with another girl. I found this out from his best friend who I'm also close with. His excuse was that he didn't remember because he was so drunk. I decided to give him a second chance, although I am starting to wonder if it was the right choice or not. He hasn't made any effort with our relationship, but still insists to say that I am all he wants. He has no time to come and see me, he'll say he's coming to see me but then go out for a drink with his friends instead. A lot of the time he would not reply to my text messages. He tells me he would never hurt me again and I'm the only person he wants to be in a relationship with although I don't know if I still have the feelings I once had for him, what should I do?




Move on


It takes two to to make a relationship work not one, If he is not putting the effort into trying to make it work then you don't have a relationship with him. A cheater is a person who is dishonest, breaks ones trust and most of all he betrayed you.

There are a few things really wrong here, You found his actions through a friend. The guy didn't have the balls to tell you the truth himself, Even after he was aware that you knew of his cheating scandal he STILL isn't working on the relationship with you. Therefore, You don't have a relationship with him.

A lot of the time it IS a mistake to forgive someone who cheated. Once trust is broken in a relationship, It's almost impossible to repair it depending on the severity of what happened. Cheating, Is probably the worst kind of hurt you could experience and it takes a real shitty person to do so. I would also be questioning who the girl was, How does this friend know so much information?... I'm not saying it was but how do you know it wasn't her?

This relationship ended, Forgiving him isn't going to make the situation any better but tell him that it was okay to cheat. The guy isn't coming around, He is lying too you.

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I am a 15 year old girl and I am sexually active with my 17 year old boyfriend. I got my last period November 12. It lasted a week and after me and my boyfriend almost had sex. I decided not to because he didn't have a condom. But he did rub his penis on my vagina for a bit. I'm pretty sure his penis had pre cum on it. I read that you can still get pregnant even if you're a virgin (I'm a virgin btw) because you have a tiny hole in your hymen that allows your period to come out and sperm can also enter through there. I'm not sure if it's true, I just read it.  From there I haven't had my period. I'm irregular and if I'm stressing it can be even more late. I'm not sure if I am pregnant or it's cause I'm stressing? Can I be pregnant? I'm way too scared to get a test or see a doctor but is it possible for me to be pregnant? Yes I know I'm young but I felt ready & I at least didn't do it all the way. Thanks!



It's possible but unlikely


I am not going to go on a full ramp here about how the legal age to consent to sex is 16...

Anyway, Are you trying to get pregnant?...Sounds like you need to take precaution on how to prevent it. If he doesn't have a condom then tell him no. One time is all it takes and getting pregnant isn't something you want to do at 15 years old.

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