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Being together as a COUPLE or stay FRIENDS?
I'm 17 years old, male and gay. I have this friend since 5th grade and we been very close and now we're seniors in High School. I have very deep feelings for him...I want to tell him that i want to be with him but i don't know what he's going to say or do?
what can i do...I love him and he knows that i like him but i want more than a friendship with him.
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If this friend knows your Gay and has not made any move to know you in that way then he is not interested in you in that way. Being gay and does not mean you cannot have straight friends. Being straight does not mean you cannot have gay friends. To my mind one has nothing to do with the other.
Medical science has finally come around to the thought that homosexuality is not a state of mind; it is how a person is born. Being gay or lesbian manifests itself more as puberty kicks in and you become more sexually aware. Though most gay and lesbians have said they have felt different all their lives that they just didn't wake up one morning and decide they were gay.
My advice is unless you know your friend is gay that you not come on to him unless you want to lose him as a friend. There is no reason why the two of you cannot be friends and do everything two guys do together. If you have not told him you are gay the only restriction on your friendship would be double dating. Once you come out to him you can even do that if you want.
My advice to you is when you are comfortable, if you have not already done so, is to tell him you are gay. Do not tell him how you feel about him though as it might scare him off. If he too is gay or bisexual then he will let you know his feeling otherwise consider him a straight friend that you might lust for but can't have.
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You should just talk to him. He already knows you like him so the ball in his court. If he has feelings for you, he needs to speak up about it because you're unsure of where to go with your feelings and your dating life. You don't know whether to wait around or to move on.
So you don't have to straight up tell you him that you want to be with him, but maybe ask him to hang out, just the two of you and see where things go from there. If he's giving you signs that he's interested in you, remind him that you have feelings for him and see what he says.
If he doesn't seem interested, then let the friendship stay and move on.
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If he likes you, Let him make the move.
If he is aware and likes you in return then when he is ready he will let you know. Perhaps he is aware and may not feel the same way about it. Generally, You can tell how someone feels by the way they act.
If you are unsure then you could ask him how he feels about being with a male rather then imply that you want to be in a relationship and see how he responds. If he doesn't seem interested, Then you know the answer to your question.
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