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Long Distance Relationship
Does long distance relationship can be conquered?
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Yes, if the effort is put in on both ends of the relationship.
If only one person is putting in all the effort, it won't work, like any other relationship.
It is ten times more difficult because you need more trust and more communication.
So it's not impossible, it's just more difficult.
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There are two types of LDR, long distance relationship. ONe is somebody you met on line but have never met in person. The other is someone you've known for a period of time in person but for some reason they had to move away whether for school or job or family reasons.
The one starting out a relationship in person and getting to know them well before you are separated by distance has the better chance than the other. This is the situation where as Zane said, it will take twice the amount of effort to make the relationship continue to work. And even then, if the time apart is stretched out too long, it can still fail.
The other LDR which seems to be the more common thing these days where two people meet on line and go for months if not 2 years or more of knowing each other on line, refusing to see any people in person to date for they believe that with all the time invested into the on line relationship, that they are in love. While a person can develop feelings for someone on line, when we are unable to meet face to face due to distance, our minds begin to imagine them to be a certain way, based on the little information we can gather on screen or on the phone. A person will present their best side on screen whether its someone met on screen, a dating site, a singles club or anywhere out and about in real life. It takes time spent in person to discover if there are personalities flaws, bad habits, what they are like at their worst and best, etc... and those are things that can not be experience and found out by spending years on line with someone long distance without meeting.
Even I when I used a dating site, when chatting on line and by phone with a guy I really enjoyed conversation with and met in person after 2 weeks, I found that he was nothing at all as I had imagined and I really didn't like anything about him at all once having met in person. This happened quite a few times. Over time, we can develop a lot of false assumptions about a person which once we meet in person, the whole deal falls apart. Or one or the other over time eventually begins to lose their interest because they are really missing having someone in person, they miss the companionship of going to the beach together, shopping together, washing dishes together, the touch and cuddling and level of intimacy you just can't achieve on line. So the near by live breathing human is going to look alot more appealing than the face you see on screen. Some people also develop distrust issues...imagining that their special someone is not staying faithful to them because there are people they come into contact every day that could easily draw them into a relationship.
If deciding to engage in an LDR, only chose those where there is a possibility of being together in person fairly soon.
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Generally, No
Long distant relationships but a strain on making a relationship work. Unless there is serious commitment to one moving closer or living arrangements are being made then a long distant relationship will drift in time.
A long distant takes 5x more work on trust and honesty. A relationship is about supporting one another and the distant makes it hard to work as two.
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