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Getting back together
Hi I'm 15 and I recently just broke up with my boyfriend. Well he broke up with me. I know a lot of people will say I'm too young to be going out with someone but what I had with this guy was really special and we were so close, I knew everything about him and I had helped him through so much. Anyway.. I noticed that he was being really distant with me recently and I thought I had done something wrong. So, I texted him and asked if I had done anything wrong and he told me no that it was to do with certain personal problems I know are a touchy subject and affect him a lot. I tried to help him but he kept pushing me away saying there was nothing I could do to help. I started to get upset about something that had been bothering me for a whole and that was him not really making an effort in the relationship. This problem was killing me inside and I needed to get it off my chest to know if he really did care about me so I explained to him I knew he was upset and that he's going through things right now but I needed to get some things off my chest. So I told him. He got even more upset and ended our relationship instead of sorting out the problem. I really thought he would of been more understanding. At this point I obviously felt really bad for what I had done and was apologising to him like crazy, he knew I was sorry and said he forgives me and still cares about me so much but he can't be with someone who would 'kick him while he's down' I don't know what to do.. What we had was really special and I want him back. I feel like I've done so much already to try and make things better but things are still the same. Please, someone tell me it what I did was wrong? Should I do anything else? Will he eventually cool off and realise what I was trying to say?
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What you did wasn't wrong, it's the right thing to do instead of keeping things from him.
He pretty much lost interest in being with you. Everybody goes through hard times. Some worse than others but that doesn't mean you can use it as an excuse to be a bad boyfriend and not put effort into the relationship.
You didn't kick him while he was down. You brought up a problem that needed to be fixed. He just doesn't want to put in the effort anymore.
For the time being, don't go after him. You put in a lot of effort in this relationship. You were trying to be a supportive girlfriend by being there for him when he was going through a hard time but he wasn't there for you.
If you guys end up talking again, don't just get back together again or it'll just go back to what it was before. He needs to realize that you two are in a relationship and if there is a problem going on between you guys, he needs to step up and not break up with you for it. If he really cared for you, he wouldn't be breaking up with you because you have feelings.
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He lost interest in the relationship.
You being 15, I am assuming he is around the same age. This doesn't have anything to really do with personal problems, Many sometimes use this as a throw in to avoid the real problem. I am not saying he doesn't have anything going on but people in a relationship help, talk and support each other through good and bad times. Unfortunately, He didn't want to talk about it and didn't want to take your feelings into consideration which tells me that he likely ended it because he couldn't hide how he felt anymore. You can apologize but you can't make someone want to be in a relationship either. All you can really do at this point is try to move on from it. Bringing it up and wanting to give things a fresh start isn't going to make the situation any better then it is. Once you break a relationship, It's almost never the same again. You may just need to accept the heat, Go on and meet someone else.
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