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My boyfriend cheated...
So me and my boyfriend are going through a difficult time. I just found out that he had kissed and had oral sex with another girl. I found this out from his best friend who I'm also close with. His excuse was that he didn't remember because he was so drunk. I decided to give him a second chance, although I am starting to wonder if it was the right choice or not. He hasn't made any effort with our relationship, but still insists to say that I am all he wants. He has no time to come and see me, he'll say he's coming to see me but then go out for a drink with his friends instead. A lot of the time he would not reply to my text messages. He tells me he would never hurt me again and I'm the only person he wants to be in a relationship with although I don't know if I still have the feelings I once had for him, what should I do?
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Well you forgave him for cheating, he should be working like crazy to fix the trust he broke.
He's only talking and not taking any action. You can't just trust his words if his actions are proving any differently.
So either sit down with him and straight up tell him that relationships take two and you don't just want to hear that you're all he wants but you want him to show you that you're all he wants.
It would make me really upset if a guy said he was coming to see me but then goes out with his friends instead. It's rude and it means he'd rather be with them than with you and you aren't at the top of his list.
If he doesn't make any changes, dump him. He's not worth it.
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It takes two to to make a relationship work not one, If he is not putting the effort into trying to make it work then you don't have a relationship with him. A cheater is a person who is dishonest, breaks ones trust and most of all he betrayed you.
There are a few things really wrong here, You found his actions through a friend. The guy didn't have the balls to tell you the truth himself, Even after he was aware that you knew of his cheating scandal he STILL isn't working on the relationship with you. Therefore, You don't have a relationship with him.
A lot of the time it IS a mistake to forgive someone who cheated. Once trust is broken in a relationship, It's almost impossible to repair it depending on the severity of what happened. Cheating, Is probably the worst kind of hurt you could experience and it takes a real shitty person to do so. I would also be questioning who the girl was, How does this friend know so much information?... I'm not saying it was but how do you know it wasn't her?
This relationship ended, Forgiving him isn't going to make the situation any better but tell him that it was okay to cheat. The guy isn't coming around, He is lying too you.
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Hi there. Forgive a rather frank opening, but really there must be quite a few guys who would find a girl who doesn't mind him having oral sex with another girl is indeed 'everything he wants'!!! And your face is rather in the frame, is it not? Really, it sounds like he 'talks a good relationship' but when it somes down to actions he's nowhere. Talk is cheap, always has been, always will be. I'd suggest you look closely at the 'relationship' (which appears to involve him doing much as he pleases while you forgive him, to my eye)and decide what you really want. Maybe you feel he's 'worth it'...? What I really would NOT suggest you do is EVER let it get to a Third Chance, unless you want to kiss goodbye to your self-esteem completely. Sorry if this sounds a little judgmental, harsh even. But really, don't you think you deserve and have aright to a little better than this? Best wishes, and choose wisely, as they say.
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