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She wants to "just be friends"?
I started dating one of my closest friends awhile ago. Well today she texted me "I kinda just want to be just friends".. Well I really really like her and I don't know how I can just move on..
The thing I'm scared of is losing her. Not exactly relationship wise, but friendship wise aswell. I'm just really confused at this point. Help?
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You can't make her want to be with you. So you're going to have to respect her decision as to just being friends. Don't beg her to be with you or anything. That would just be pressuring her into something she doesn't want.
It takes time to move on. So you won't see it happen overnight.
As for the whole scared of losing her friendship, that does happen once relationships end because they try to go back to how things used to be but there are still feelings there so it's just more heartbreaking.
So it's up to you to decide whether or not to just remain friends or to give yourself some time to get over her before you decide to be friends with her.
I'm going to suggest telling her that you need to some to move on before being just friends. Just because being friends does mean accepting that she could possibly start dating someone else and you'll have to be supportive as her friend and it doesn't seem like you're ready for that.
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You have to respect what she says to you.
If she says she only wants to be friends, you have two choices: You can be her friend, or you can not be her friend.
If you really think that you can't be 'just friends', that's fine, just be honest with her. Tell her that being 'just friends' is going to be really hard for you, and that you need some time apart to mourn the relationship before you will be (if you ever will be) able to be friends.
But you can't just pretend things are going to go on the same. She said she doesn't want to date anymore. As upsetting as that might be, you can't pretend that she didn't say that.
So cry it out, go ahead and be upset, but then decide whether you feel you can be a friend to her right now or not, and let her know what you decide.
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If you respect her as a person then respect her request to just remain friends. Sometimes in life people grow apart and move on. I am not saying it is headed down that road but if she doesn't want to be in a relationship then I would respect her choice. If she decides to go her separate ways down the line, Then it was never meant to be.
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