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there is a boy at my school and he is raping me, what should I do?
I am in middle school in 7th grade.I am 13. There is a boy named Ben, he really likes me. He started liking me when he saw my hair. Every time i try opening my locker, he just comes behind me and hugs me really tight. You know what I mean. I have told like 10 times. He got a lot of this and suspended. i tell the teachers i trust. i tell them cause sometimes they see me curse at that boy who likes me and if i don't tell them they have to write me up for cursing. he always tries to kiss me but i don't let him. one time he looked at me in a love look and i was scared he would do something and he did . he kissed me really fast from the mouth. everybody the hallway saw us. i ran to the restroom and i was crying. my teacher came and talked to me. and she said if you keep telling he will go to jail cause he might do something bad to you.. i really don't have that kind of that hard heart. my parents don't know because if i tell them they will not let me go to school anymore or they will just leave thr whole state. a lot of boys liked me but not as much as this boy does. i just can't describe how much he likes me. he says that he will do anything just for me. every day when he sees me he says "your hair is so cute". in the classroom ,sometimes my teacher steps out to talk with others, he tries to hug me and i just don't let i tell him to get off of me or let go of my hand, and when sometimes i stand up he just pulls me to the wall and tries to kiss me. but my friends save me from him.even if we have a party, i can't enjoy myself. yesterday in the after noon he hugged me from the back,putting his hand around my back and stomach,he said" where ever you go i will follow you. if anybody doesn't give you to me, i will just take from them. and that is a promise" i was crying in the bathroom:(, i am so scared. i really don't know what to do.please help :(
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You're not being RAPED. Rape is a very serious crime for which this boy even at his young age could be arrested and go to jail if found guilty of raping you. So to begin with lets make sure you know what rape is.
Rape is when a male, boy or man, forces his penis into your vagina. This is called having sexual intercourse or carnal knowledge in the biblical form of the words. since you are under the age of consent, meaning you are not old enough to consent to sexual relations having consensual sex with someone older than you is called statutory rape.
There are also laws on the books called sodomy laws. These laws are also can be considered rape in certain circumstances where force is used. These laws cover oral sex and anal sex and are just as the sound, mouth to penis penetration, mouth to vagina, penis penetration of the anus.
From the description of what you have written you are the victim of a sexual crime or crimes but not rape. These crimes are no less serious to you though in the eyes of the law actual Rape carries a very heavy penalty so please know what you accuse someone of if a crime of a sexual nature is ever committed upon you.
What you are enduring is called sexual harassment, sexual assault and possibly stalking. These are all serious crimes for which even a young teenager can be charged. You have in what you have written gone to a teacher and a principal to report him. He has been suspended. Still he continues. So I have the facts correct?
If so your next course of action is to either go directly to the police and report him or go to you parents and have them call the police. If the school is telling you they have done all they can do and there is nothing else they can do then they are wrong. The next course of action would be to expel him and for them to report him to the police.
Since they are hesitant to do what is right then you have every right to do so. I suggest you go to your parents and tell them what is going on in school and ask them to call the police for you. The reason for this is to protect your rights during the investigation the police will have to perform before they can make an arrest.
During police investigations they are going to want to talk to you. You should have your parents or a parent with when the police interview you. Both for support and to make sure the police stay on track with their questions.
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You are not being raped, You are being sexually assaulted.
You must tell your parents, If telling a teacher didn't work then you need to keep on telling someone who WILL listen to you. You have done nothing wrong, This kid is WAY out of line. No means no there is no excuse for his behavior at all and it is not okay.
Tell your parents, Explain to them exactly what has been happening at school and let them know you have talked to the teacher and tell your parents what the teacher had said too you.
Sometimes in certain situations, You have to keep on telling until something is done about it. Don't ignore it, That is not okay. Do not allow him to put his hands on you and most importantly NEVER EVER allow anyone to intimidate you.
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Well you're not being raped. Raping someone is when you're forced into having sex with someone. What he's doing is sexual harassment.
He doesn't like you. He's more along the lines of creepy obsessed. If he liked you, he would have respected your feelings instead of trying to force you to be with him.
Go talk to a counselor or teacher and let them know that he keeps touching you and grabbing you and it makes you really uncomfortable. Every time he does it, you go tell an adult.
I'm also going to tell you to tell your parents. You can ask them to talk to your principal or something and let them know that you don't want to move schools or anything, you just want this boy to stop.
You obviously have to tell someone about it. I mean if he decided to do more, you could actually end up being raped. If you let him get away with this, he'll do it to other girls too and it would be wrong of you to let that happen.
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Well, first, I should tell you that kissing someone is NOT by any means considered rape. Rape is forcing someone to have sex.
The best thing you can do is tell your parents. They won't take you out of school - that's illegal. They won't move out of state either. They're not going to go through a very long process which involves spending at LEAST $60,000, probably more than $100,000.
What your parents WILL do is go to the school and talk to the teachers. School administrators ALWAYS take things more seriously when parents get involved, because they want to avoid a law suit. They will even most likely get the boy's parents involved, who should then realize they need to discipline their son.
So, tell your parents, and let them take care of it. That's what parents are for.
I hope you take this advice and that this problem is resolved.
~Panda
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