So... I've been dating my boyfriend for a very long time (going on six years now), and our six year anniversary is coming up. I would like us to have sex for our anniversary. I have all the proper protection and am of proper age (late teens). I'm on the pill and have a secret stash of different kinds of condoms in my bedroom. I'm a virgin, but he's not, so he has been tested. He is clean (meaning no STD's). All good and well, yes?
No. I'm worried about what my friends will say if my boyfriend and I have sex. Should I be? I mean, of course I'm going to tell them. No way around that, because I just can't keep that kind of secret. They are the ONLY people I would ever tell, though, and I trust my boyfriend completely. But I'm just worried about what my friends will think of me. Again, should I be?
LATE TEENS is not necessarily mean you are mature enough to have sex. You need to make plans in case something goes wrong. Make a list of all of the things you would need to have a baby. Then go to the store and price it. If you cannot afford it, don't have sex.
I would really beg you not to have sex until you are married. Just because he isn't a virgin doesn't mean you can't wait. I know. My boyfriend is a virgin, and he's wonderful.
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here's the story. im a lesbian, but my family has yet to find out. they have no idea and i want to tell them, but i cant. i know theyll still love me, but i know how much of a disappointment that will be for them(my parents). ive made them happy so many ways, and they said theyre proud to have me as their daughter. and they keep talking about when im going to be a mother some day, and how excited they are because they know theyll be grandparents one day, but thats where i know im going to disappoint them. because theyre not going to get to see their grandchildren.. because.. there wont be any. i REALLY dont want to disappoint them, but i know i will once they find out that the family line ends with me (since i dont have brothers or sisters). so i dont know what to do, i dont want to force myself to be straight, but i dont want to let them down also. i really dont know what to do, ive cried over this situation so much because i can picture their disappointment once they find out.
Your parents will love you no matter what happens. They might have an idea that you might be a lesbian, or they wouldn't be pushing the issue. You cannot be someone you are not. Yes, you can have children, but not if you don't wish to have them.
It sounds to me like you do really need to talk to them if it is upsetting. If you hold things inside too long, you will become morose and angry and not fun to be around. It won't be easy, but you will have to tell them sometime.
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okay so here's the thing. I've been with jeremy for 3 years, and he's in jail right now. well he sent me a letter and said that he ran into this guy named travis who apparantly knows me, and this guy is claiming that I'm his girlfriend too. The thing is, I have NO IDEA who this guy is. I've never cheated on Jeremy in my life, and he thinks that I am really with this guy. I dont know what to do. We're supposed to be getting married, but I dont know how to prove to him that I really don't know who this guy is. What should I do????
Drop him like a hot potato. Why do you need to be in love with a jailbird when you are so smart and talented? He is playing with your mind so that he can assure himself that you still love him.
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I made really bad choices for my A levels- I took English Lit, History, Welsh and Chemistry. The first two are fine, Chemistry is really difficult and I can't stand Welsh anymore because the teacher is so horrible.
She is always really negative about everything I do which makes it really hard to motivate myself enough to hand stuff in on time. She says that I have an attitude problem and I suppose than in some ways I do- but she isn't helping. I have to pretend to be cheerful in her lessons otherwise it would ruin the atmosphere for the other members of the class.
She sent a letter home to my parents, they got it this morning so I don't know what's in it. I had to go off to school wondering what was in it.
Today we were supposed to go and watch a welsh TV program being filmed - not important for the course but just a bit of fun. I couldn't face the thought of being with her for 11 hours- from 1:30 pm to 12;30 am ( yep on a school night). I decided not to go. I told her that I had rehearsals because I couldn't say that I wasn't going because I hate her. She told me that I'm selfish, rude, lazy and underacheiving.
I had to go and talk to my form tutor and year head, my tutor was sympathetic but my head of year basically said that shit happens, it's my fault that we don't get on and that I just have to deal with it.
Anyone got any ideas on how to resolve this?
Your teacher seems to actually care that you do well. It is rare to find that teacher. You may hat it now, but you may actually learn from. Learning to cope with difficult people will help you later in life. Its really frustrating when a talented students don't live up to their full potential. It takes every thing you experience to make you what you are.
Ok so that is lame. I would suggest you do the work, and smile an empty smile until you are done with her courses. If she thinks you like her, then you will be the world's best diplomat. Which in my country, can park anywhere. Which doesn't count if you are getting shot at. Anyhow, grin and bear it and know in the end you will end up with the winning hand.
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My oldest daughter's biological father lives in a different country and we haven't spoken to each other since I was 19. I am now 30 years old. I let my daughter use my maiden name in her birth certificate but have indicated there who her real dad is. I've been married for 8 years now and my husband has been great to my oldest daughter. My dilema right now is should my husband legaly adopt my daughter so she could have his last name. My daughter sometimes says she is the only one in the family that has a different last name and that she doesn't look like her brother and sister. She already knows that her father is different from her brother and sister and I told her that it is not important that she uses a different name but what's important is how much her dad and her siblings loves her very much. I just wanted to get opinion if it would matter if she changes her last name or not.
Ask her if she wants it. It might make her feel better. If your husband is willing to officially adopt your daughter, that would be a nice way of saying that I love you and we are from the same family.
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Why do people who don't know shit about music insist on "answering" some of these questions, when they have absolutely nothing to offer?
I mean, if I were to ask the best way to resolve a chord progression, there would be at least 4 people who would answer by saying that they have no clue. Why? Why do these people feel compelled to answer on subjects they don't know jack-shit about?
p.s. - if you don't play guitar, don't answer guitar questions. If you don't play music, don't answer questions about how to play something or about music theory.
Thank you, that is all.
Dearest jerk,
There are some general music things that I know to be true even though I haven't played in years. This is not the be all end all of advice. This is supposed to be fun, and snobby people like you make musicians out to be self-centered fools, and I know that they are really interesting people. I promise not to answer stuff that is over my head, but there are a few "common sense" items that I have privy to.
So quit being so serious and go play your guitar.
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I HAVE A RABBIT BUT I HATE RABBITS. I LOVE DOGS, THOUGH. MY GRANDMA (WHOM I LIVE WITH) SAID I COULD HAVE A DOG IF I TOOK CARE OF A RABBIT FIRST. I DON'T WANT TO TAKE CARE OF IT BUT I KNOW I HAVE TO. WHAT DO I DO? I DON'T WANT TO TAKE CARE OF IT BUT I REALLY WANT A DOG.
Rabbits need friends too. Grandma just wants you to prove your responsibility. Dogs live much longer than rabbits. You might just fall in love with the rabbit. They are very smart and will get to know you better the more you play and take care of him. Go to the library and pick out some rabbit books. You might find a particular kind of rabbit that appeals to you. They come in lots of color and shapes. Rabbits generally don't live as long as dogs, and they can be litter box trained. Which makes it easier to care for them.
Try looking at some websites as well.
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What do boys REALLY like in a girl? All these magazines & stuff say that they love what's inside, not outside. Is this true or is it crap?
Personality is like cake. Icing is they see on the outside: dressing, confidence, and a smile is only a suggestion of what they may see inside. Real men are attracted by the confidence and how well you carry yourself, and they are hooked with how smart, caring, or fun you are.
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Ok...I want a guitar. Badly. I've wanted to buy one and learn how to play it for like 3 years now. But, I know absolutely nothing about it. So could someone please tell me what's a good guitar to start out with??? Ahhh, I feel stupid. ThankYOU.
Do you have friends that have guitars? Or maybe a neighbor? You could ask them if you could spend some time with them and their guitar. This way you have the advice of someone who is already playing, and you will be more comfortable with your purchase. There are numerous little store that sell used equipment: music stores and pawn shops. Some of the music stores let you play with the instruments with some restriction.
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what do you do when u fall for you best friend? i know it sounds like the CLASSIC relationship question.. but i really dont know what to do! i have been best friends with this guy for 3 months.. that mite not sound like a long time... but we have grown really close in that time! i like him as more than a friend now and when he starts to talk about who i like... i dont know what to say! he says im shy.. and well i agree.. lol cause im not the foward type to just come out and tell someone that i like them... i dont want to ruin our friend ship by telling him how i feel, but what if he likes me 2 and he wants me to make the first move?? please someone help me..
This isn't easy. This has happened to me one time. You can tell him you like him. There are only two outcomes: he likes you too or he doesn't feel that way. If he likes you too, great that could be awesome. If he doesn't like you then as a friend he shouldn't dump you. Knowing the answer doesn't ruin a friendship, it may change a little, but it does let you dream of someone else if your current friend doesn't feel the same.
Having a friend of the opposite sex is invaluable.
Especially when you are banging your head against a wall.
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ewwww.......I am constantly spitting out green mucus in a styrofoam cup as we speak...any thing that will get rid of it? Help! its so gross...
You are probably getting over a cold. The only thing that may help is if you go to the doctor for some antibiotics because it is probably an infection.
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My friend hasn't been doing her homework and she has 6 zeros in the grade book. I'm afraid she is going to fail. What to do?
Try asking her why she isn't doing her homework. Helping her helps you too. If you are comfortable doing so, maybe you should talk to her mom or dad about your concern. She might need more help than just with homework. Let her know that she can call you anytime to talk or help.
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I'm about as butch as the next girl. I don't shave anything, I hate make up, I have a mean left hook, I don't take any crap on the street. My husband is a sweetheart, I found a rare gem in him, but his bull dyke best friend hates me. I have tried EVERYTHING to befriend her. I have tried ignoring her, I don't know what else to do. She HATES me. She tells total strangers what a seething bitch I am (well, I am) and she has tried to break us up many times. She has even threatened me with physical violence. I don't tell him who to be friends with or not, but she just won't let up. It's making him take a 2nd look at his friendship with her, and I'm afraid he's going to leave her behind. What can I do? I think she may be jealous of me. Does she want him, or me, or both of us. She has a history of sleeping with his other girlfriends, but I'm not bi. I'm letting him sort this one out for himself, but I feel kinda bad about it.
Violet
Have you talked to him about how she makes you feel? His is correct in thinking about no longer associating with her. You must be a really interesting person if your husbands has other girlfriends. Or maybe you just mean friends that are girls.
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ok here i sit a 14 year old teenager crying cause my mom just came in telling me how disapointed i made her and dispointed was only a nice term for how i made her feel cuase to her i am acting like my step sister (lazy) and she said now me and my mom are going to have the same relationship they have - none - i dont know what to do cause 1st of all i love my mom to death and dont wanna heart her and i want to have a relation ship with her 2nd its hard for me to grasp when i need to do something untill its to late today after dinner i washed my dish and walked away from the sink and my step dad starts washing then after i say i was going to go up stairs and then i realized that i should clean up the kitchen after dinner so i asked should i and my mom answerewd no iun the most bone chilling cold voice and then she came up stair and said all the stuff about my sister does anyone no how to get my to like me as a person again and not just cause i am her daughter
Ok, that seemed totally unfair. And I am the first to say that life is never fair. Ok. So maybe you need to get your priorities in order: schoolwork, chores, and then fun. Sometimes parents go a little overboard. Maybe your mom is just frustrated in general. When she calms down, ask her what is going on. Surely one little thing isn't going to destroy everything.
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is it a bad thing to fall asleep while ur babysitting a 3 yearold in summer while thre in a pool?
~>confused
It can be a disastrous thing for any child to be left alone anywhere near a pool. A child can drown in two tablespoons of water. Even if they aren't swimming, you should not sleep. Get up and play with him or her.
A child can also sneak into a pool or other horrible things while you aren't looking. It's bad enough what they get into when you are paying close attention.
Try this: blow the yolk out of an egg (you may need help with this). Make a basket for the egg to stay in and see if you can keep it a week everywhere you go without breaking it.
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ok im 13 8th grade 130lbs and feel weigh to over weight i want to look like a modle and im not doing this for the man of my dreams im doing this to look good. im pretty and got all the right looks but i feel to fat andi want to look good in a bikini aslo i want the man of my dreams to go woah!! when he sees me even thouhg he already thibnks that about me but he likes girlss like paris hilton and i kinda want her figure and everyones gonna say dont change you look for him im not im changing it so i feel good around him cuz right now i feel ot fat when im around even though everyone thinks im beautiful and skinny just help me do u think i could get liposection? or soemthing i have tried dieting but i just crave food to much but im trying to cut dwon on the fatining stuff im in a little bit of good shape i play soccer and lift sometimes but help me someone?
You are 13! You still have a bunch of growing to do. This is not the time for liposuction. This is the time for exercise and healthy eating habits. Vegetables are your friends. Do not ever change for some guy, and Paris Hilton has nothing better to do than starve herself to death. You may even get taller. I am glad you still feel pretty. Don't let anyone tell you any different.
You may want to see a nutritionist if you are confused as to how to eat healthy. Starving a growing body will really harm yourself in the long run. If you need a snack, try carrots, celery, apples or other easy to snack on food. Stay away from sodas and drink more water.
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my boyfriend and i had sex 3 days after i got off my period, he bust in me. i don't start until the 15th but do you think there's a chance i could be pregnant if he bust right after i got off my period?
Yes, you can be pregnant. Please see a doctor, and get tested for any STDS while you are there. Doctors are there to help, not make judgements.
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Okay, I have a boyfriend who goes to my church (on wednesday nights) but i never see him because he never goes anymore and he doesn't go to my school. i want to dump him because i have this other boyfriend who i want to dump because he never sees me or calls me and i don't have his number and he doesn't go to my school. Okay, I want to dump both of them because I like this other boy who DOES go to my school and i know he likes me. If i ask him out though then ill have 3 boyfriends. i consider myself as if i don't have a boyfriend but i know i have to and soon will have 3. What to do?
Are they really boyfriends or are you playing the field? If you are young, then its ok to have several guys to hang out with as long as you can keep them all straight. Eventually, there will be someone you like exclusively, but that will come in time.
It is very possible to be just friends with guys by the way. They can be very fun to talk to and use their advice on the male species.
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ok i have a really hot and awsome bf...i get good grades...i have tons of friends...and i am lots of fun clubs..(gifted and talented siging)..my family is awsome...for some reason i feel like i am missing something..like there is a big whole in my body tht is missing..can anyone explain?
Have you thought about volunteering? There are plenty of places that could use talented and outgoing people like yourself. For example, you could hold a sing along at a local nursing home. These people are bored, lonely and could use attention. And it looks good on a college applications.
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I have two beautiful Shih Tzu dogs who had puppies together. I adore my dogs and their puppies. I gave one of the little darling puppies to my friend and her daughter. Her daughter has health problems. I made it very clear if she was unable to keep the puppy, I prefer her to return the puppy to me. Less than a week after I gave her the puppy, she has given the puppy to her friend Heather, a woman I do not even know. She says that she gave her the puppy until it is housebroken because she does not want the puppy around her daughter. I gave her this puppy that I could have easily sold for over $500 and now she has given it away. How can I make myself clear that I want the puppy back? I made it a point to place these puppies with people I know because they are such important little animals to me. The parent dogs are like my children and the babies are like my grandchildren. I feel insulted, angry, and hurt that my friend went against the direct conditions of me giving her the dog and I want the puppy back so I can place him with someone I know.
I would definitely talk to my friend about attempting to get the puppy back, but there is a second solution. Why don't you ask to visit the puppy at this Heather person's place? I mean yes, you would lose money, but you seem more interested in the welfare of the animal. It is always better to ask about giving someone an animal to take care before the event. It is a hug responsibility to care for an animal, and it has to be budgeted for.
Please let her know exactly how you feel about the placement of your animals.
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