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i like my best friend
what do you do when u fall for you best friend? i know it sounds like the CLASSIC relationship question.. but i really dont know what to do! i have been best friends with this guy for 3 months.. that mite not sound like a long time... but we have grown really close in that time! i like him as more than a friend now and when he starts to talk about who i like... i dont know what to say! he says im shy.. and well i agree.. lol cause im not the foward type to just come out and tell someone that i like them... i dont want to ruin our friend ship by telling him how i feel, but what if he likes me 2 and he wants me to make the first move?? please someone help me..
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no problem, thats happened to me! i kept it asecret, but he eventually found out and it died away. DONT DO THAT!!!! tell him!
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Like you, I'm more of an introvert than an extrovert. It can be hard deciding whether to keep the friendship as is or to go and look for something more. I think you should just make the first move, the next time he asks you who you like, tell him.
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My best friend Dapney is always hanging out with this boy named Courtney (he's in the 7th grade) she acts like she's not with him.I know she is ,so I kind of know how you feel.No one makes fun of the thought that they might go toghether so why should people at your school think that.Trust me I'm not the only person who thought of that.
First you need to decide if your really like this guy as a friend and a more than friends.If you really like him as friend like a shoulder to lean on and as someone who'd reject you in a nice way.If he's a good friend than you shouldn't jeprodize that friendship unless you know that you can deal with not being his friend or girlfriend.Now the move that I tell everygirl is to ask a friend of you and him to say:do you want a girlfriend cause kendra [she] said that if you don't she doesn't want to be a royal pain in the ass!!!
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I would write him a note, patiently explaining your feelings, and asking what he feels for you. Or if you are even shyer than that, ask him hypotheticaly:
You: hey *name. Umm, I was wondering, what would you do if i said i really liked you? and I mean really *really* like, as in i would like to be *really* good freinds with you.
Hopefully he will get the message, but some boys can be quite dense, so you may end up having to beat him over the head with the notion :)
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This isn't easy. This has happened to me one time. You can tell him you like him. There are only two outcomes: he likes you too or he doesn't feel that way. If he likes you too, great that could be awesome. If he doesn't like you then as a friend he shouldn't dump you. Knowing the answer doesn't ruin a friendship, it may change a little, but it does let you dream of someone else if your current friend doesn't feel the same.
Having a friend of the opposite sex is invaluable.
Especially when you are banging your head against a wall.
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I would write him a note, patiently explaining your feelings, and asking what he feels for you. Or if you are even shyer than that, ask him hypotheticaly:
You: hey *name. Umm, I was wondering, what would you do if i said i really liked you? and I mean really *really* like, as in i would like to be *really* good freinds with you.
Hopefully he will get the message, but some boys can be quite dense, so you may end up having to beat him over the head with the notion :)
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I UNDERSTAND HOW YOU FEEL, ASK YOURSELF SOME QUESTIONS.HOW DOES HE LOOK AT U, HOW DOES HE ACT TOWARDS YOU.MAYBE WHEN HES ASKING YOU WHO YOU LIKE HES HOPING THAT YOU SAY HIS NAME. U NEVER KNOW.BUT DON'T RUSH IN RIGHT AWAY, STUDY HIM AND MAYBE YOU WILL COME TO FIND THAT HE FEELS THE SAME WAY. HES PROBABLY JUST AS SHY AS YOU. HIS ACTIONS TOWARDS U MAYBE SAYING MORE THAN HE IS. MAYBE IF YOU REALLY WANT TO GET AN ANSWER RIGHT AWAY. i KNOW THIS SOUNDS A LITTLE 1ST GRADE LIKE BUT SEND HIM AN anonymous LETTER SEE IF IT GETS HIS ATTENTION. OR ASK HIM WHO HE LIKES, ASK A FRIEND TO IM HIM AND ASK HIM FOR YOU. DO SOME RESEARCH, U MAY FIND SOME INTERESTING RESULTS. I ALSO WANT YOU TO KNOW IF HES FOR YOU THEN U WILL EVENTUALLY GET HIM, IF NOT THEN THERE IS SOMEONE BETTER. I HOPE THIS HELPS.
PRINCEZLADYD
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I have always thought that it is really hard for guys and girls to be just friends. One of them always wants something more, even if they keep it a secret. There might be one or two real guy/girl friendships out there, but they are rare.
I would ask someone who knows him well if he likes you or not. Hopefully that won't be as hard as asking your friend himself.
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my best guy friend of four years moved across the state to go to college. i know that that doesn't seem like far but IT IS. especially because of the fact that once he began living three hours away, i realized that i had feelings for him ( it took so long trying to figure out those feelings though, that i totally missed the train!) he has a girlfriend now and i am so mad at myself for not telling him how i really felt (regardless of the fact that i didn't really know how i felt)- all i could figure out was that i loved him ( really loved hime...whether or not i was IN love with him...eh...that's another story). my point is that you don't realize what you have with someone until it's gone. one day, he may im you with the news that he has a girlfriend. then what are you going to do? i cried! out of happiness for him perhaps because maybe he had found a girl that was worthy of him and i was happy that he was happy. or maybe it was because i knew that our relationship would never be the same because for once, we didn't have the "single" thing in common. tell the boy how you feel...worse comes to worse, he doesn't feel the same. then, you can just laugh it off and go on with your life and look back on that moment knowing that atleast you were true to yourself. don't spend the rest of your life or even a few sleepless nights asking yourself "what if?". GOOD LUCK!
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Give little signs that show you like him. Or better yet, the classic "lets watch a scary movie and at a scary part grab onto him" technique. Ask him who HE likes too, if he doesn't give you a straight answer then tell him exactly what he tells you when you don't give HIM a straight answer!
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Ask him who he likes. If he doesnt say anything hes doing the same thing you're doing. Or if he does tell you, you'll know if he likes you or not.
-shay :-)
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you should think really hard about whether you really want to take this to the next level. would it be better to stay great friends or would it be worth it to date but take the chance of having a terrible break-up that ruins your relationship forever?
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I think you should just sort of test him. Like when your walkin together just move closer and see how he reacts. If reaction is good you know he might like you. If reaction bad, he doesn't feel the same way.
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What OneMan said. There are a very limited number of reasons a guy will ask a girl who she likes. And the very best answer, if you're inclined that way in any case, is "you!". (Then you can grin and blush and go from there).
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Sweetheart, I do believe he has already made the first move by asking you who it is that you like. You say you have fallen for your best friend...guess what I say? CONGRATULATIONS :) You have found the relationship that people long for. I know you may be shy, but, if he IS truly your best friend, there should be no reason you can't tell him exactly how you feel. Honestly, I think he already knows. So tell him ( in whatever way is comfortable for you ) and enjoy every moment of it.
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Hey, what do you do? Well why don't you make the first move because let me tell you some guys are waiting for women to make either the first move or to show interest, because most guys like to have assurance on their side before they take a chance at a relationship. So my advice is gradually bring up the question, or ask him out
And hey be happy this is one of the best relationships you could have. And you should be able to tell him anything considering he is you best friend
Cspinoza1. If you need anything else my Aol SN/EMail address is Cspinoza1@aol.com
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when you ask him who he likes...what does he say?
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