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Ok, my best friend is a guy. I heard from my friend that he has a girlfriend, but he told me he doesn't. I don't know who to believe, and I really wanna believe the guy because I really like him. Let's call him...*Jake* and let's call the girl...*Mary*. So Mary, Jake, and I are all best friends. Mary has been lying to me a lot lately. She's also been trying to steal my guys. Jake and I hang out all the time, and he and I always tell each other "I love you Jake!" and "I love you...*Anne*!" but we both know we're joking. And we're like "wow, you're so hot tonight" and all these random things as if we were going out, but we're not. He and I constantly flirt. When my friends ask him why they won't ask me out (i don't ask them to do this!!) he says he and I are just like the bestbestbestbestbestbest friends in the universe. I know that's true, (the best... friends part) but I don't know how to get it out of him whether he really does like me or not. What should I do? We have all these inside jokes about "loving each other" and "last night was great" (like i said...inside joke...i've never done it or anything) and all these other things. We always give each other hugs and sit on each others laps and I really want to be an item. We will go to the same school next year, but we don't now. WHAT SHOULD I DO????? Please help I rate! And sorry about the length.
signed
confused best friend!! (link)
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Here's what I think is happening based on what you said. *Mary* is telling you *Jake* has a girlfriend that way you do not go after him. Once *Mary* realizes you have no interest in him anymore, *Mary* will go after *Jake*, and maybe she'll even pull an excuse like "Oh, he and his girlfriend broke up". Don't let *Mary* get in the way of the guy you like, it's obvious with what you said that she's jealous and wants him too! So go for him! Hope this helped :)
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this guy and i are in all of the same classes and everyone says that we flirt and that we need to go out! lately he has always been hanging around me a lot! like there was a chair near some girl but i was sitting somewhere else so he was lying down on the table that was next to me! what should i do? and i was wondering how can i get him to give me a hug? (link)
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Haha! I had the same exact issue! Here's what I do to get random hugs, just say something like, "what's your favorite color?", and he'll say something like "blue", then respond with a "omg you're awesome! you deserve a hug!"! Or maybe stick with a different question, but you get the idea :) Then after that, randomly give him hugs every time you see him!
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Im already having problems with my life right now but this just makes it worst!
Everyone has a girl in their school who is pretty, smart, friendly, flirty, somewhat popular.
My problem that I need advice on is how do I become that girl?
This girl, her names megan, shes short, blonde hair, pretty, smart, friendly, sorta popular, has an annoying voice sometimes, really flirty, talks about sex` bi (likes chicks n guys) a stoner but you cant tell.
She can become friends with anyone and they love her, she can start a conversation with anyone adn they talk back
Im not jealous of her bc she told me Im pretty too but I just cant be like her, I wanna find a way to be like her and I need real advice -not just talk more or flirt more- but real advice
So if anyone can help me out Id love that so please help me out Im stuck with this girl till Im outta school so I really need this advice
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You shouldn't try to change yourself and become like someone else. Be yourself, people will like you for who you are. One thing you can work on is maybe at lunch, introduce yourself to someone you don't know and get to know them, and vice versa. That's what I did one time and I became friends with this one girl. But don't try to be someone you're not, some people don't respect that and will not like you for it.
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Im a 15 male.. and im gothic, is it wierd that i wear black nailpolish? give me some details and convince me if it is.. (link)
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It's your decision to wear it or not. So no it's not weird, its your way of expression yourself.
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m/16 Hi, ive been dating my girlfriend for 5 months and a few weeks and her parents are, sorry to say, PISSING ME THE **** OFF. They wont EVER let her see me but maybe 1 every two weeks or so, and it kills me cause i never get ANY alone time with her, and the time we do get to spend together is with friends cause her parents wont let her over to my house alone. Anyone know of anything I can do to get their parents to let her do somthing, or anything i can tell my girl to say? help please! (link)
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The best way to solve this would be to get to know her parents, and have them get to know you. Have your girlfriend ask her parents if you could have dinner at their house, where you can talk to them and get to know them. Let them know who you are so they learn to trust you!
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I have liked this guy for a LONG time now but not too much has happened between us. I want to be with him romantically and we've fooled around a few times but we act like it never happened the next time we're together. He does things that make me believe he likes me back but I can never be sure. What should I do? I really want to be with him.
16 years old
Female
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What I suggest is simply talking to him. Call him, or have him meet you somewhere. Then sit down and ask him to tell you the honest truth, whether he likes you or not. It's the only way to ever be certain on his emotions! Good luck!
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So, awhile back I was doing a project for health class where I needed to find the price of baby strollers and I went to google to look them up. One of the first links I clicked on was ebay, but I immediately clicked out of it because we weren't allowed to buy used items. Since then, words on Spacefem and Livejournal have been underlined, and upon clicking them I get sent to an ebay site for that particular item. (Ex: my friend got "New Shoes" and they were underlined in her livejournal, when I clicked on it, there was a section for shoes.) I'm also experiencing random popups that have to do wtih the site I'm browsing, but I have a popup-blocker, so this shouldn't happen, and they're on sites I've never had popups on before said popup-blocker was installed. Most of these sites lead back to ebay. So..has anyone experienced this before, and if so, how did you get rid of it? I think it's making my connection slower as well, so though I can live with it, I'd like to get it fixed.
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I've had this same exact problem before. I'm almost certain it's adware. Try SpyBot or SpySweeper, it works well for deleting it!
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my friend has had this off and on relationship with this guy.hes fingered her and made out alot and stuff but he goes off and does stuff like that with other people.shes like my best friend EVER and she calls me crying sayin hes makin out with some girl.it breaks my heart and i think she should leave him.all he does is break her hearrt.she deserves so much better but she claims she loves him so much.other times she hates him.can someone help me?im afraid im in the middle.
Signed,
Concerned Friend (link)
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It's very sweet of you to care so much for your friend. You should ask her, "Why do you constantly want to be with someone who keeps breaking your heart? Do you like being hurt?". Make her think about that, and guide her to making the right choice.
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okay first of all i dont think im fat at all and i like the way my body looks. however im very health conscious and eat healthy food most of the time. i count calories too. if i didnt eat the daily number calories i think is efficient ill go eat until its exactly the number i want it to be, because i don't want to become too thin. i think about food a lot. i never thought i was fat and i know im not and i love my body. im a cheerleader (a flyer) so i try to remain small. oh yeah and i love cooking and food overall, mostly healthy food. i mean ill choose a grilled chicken sandwich over a big mac you know? could this possibly be anorexia? (link)
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Eating healthy isn't bad, although you may eat healty, eating too little isn't good for you. The truth is, when you eat less your metabolism slows down to prevent your body from eating yourself. So when you do eat something, your metabolism can't even digest it all which the rest turns into fat. So don't be too worried about staying skinny, because if you eat just UP to the point you're full and no more, you won't gain any wait :)
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I met this guy last summer at a resort, and I fell in love with him! Both of us had fun all week. We had a bond fire played basketball and alot more.At the end of the week we both had to go home, ( and he lives in a different state)so I figured I would see him again next year. I've talked to him all year on the internet and the phone and ect. When ever I talk to him it always sounds like he likes me and when we say good bye on the internet he types " Bye bye kiss kiss" Now I have had my friends ask him if he likes me and he wont answer them. I even asked him if he liked me. He did not answer me back. What does it meen when he didnt answer me back? Should I talk to him about it and tell him how I feel? and Do you think that he likes me?
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Well if he doesn't answer to the question, then most likely he does like you. If you feel the same way towards him, then maybe he'd feel more comfortable if you expressed your feelings for him first. So give it a shot!
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I really really like someone but i dont think that they would go out with me so .. what am i supposed to do ? i really wanna tell him but he likes other people..? (link)
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There's nothing much you can do if he doesn't like you back. But on the other hand, you just THINK he doesn't like you. Who knows, maybe he does! So I suggest you should go make your move on him, before he makes his move on someone else. Here's a quote i go by:
"You may regret what you do, but you'll regret what you DON'T do so much more"
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Hi my named Jenipher and I am haveing problems with my friends , they keep asking guys out for me that I dont even know, are they my true friends or not , i tell them to stop and that I dont like it, what do do???? Oh and I hardly know any one on here can we become friends??? Thanks Jenipher And I will Rate u (link)
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They may be doing this because they want you to socialize more, tell them you don't need their help. You can help yourself and would prefer it if they didn't constantly do you a favor in which you never asked for. Tell them you don't appreciate what they're doing at all and if they're your friends they listen to you. And sure to your last question.
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i belive my friend of 5 years is faking a pregnancy. she is 35 years old. she has nver had any ultrasound pics,she refuses to let me go to the docter with her she does not even know her docter's name. her due date was march7th 2004and it's now the middle of may. her excuse is that the docter has miscaulted her due date and she is now due june18th 2004. i gave her a baby shower at work when she should have been about 7 months pregnant and she recived alot of gifts now our coworkers are asking me where's her baby,she has not worked there since the end of feburary. how can i talk to her about this and tell her she should return the gifts to the people who gave them to her without hurting her feelings. she really is a nice person she wants a child very badley she has no children she has been with 4 differnant men in the last year wanting to become pregnant. please help (link)
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If she really is lying to you, then I don't think there's any other way then to actually talk to her. Simply ask her, in a polite way, if she actually is pregnant.
If she really is pregnant, her stomach area should be larger (assuming its been a couple months since her "day of conception"). If it isn't, then it's obvious she isn't.
Tell her you think, or know she's not pregnant and that is isnt right to do that just for presents, and being treated differently.
If this didn't help you at all, just write again!
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Okay, there's this guy I like. But, I'm not sure he likes me back. This will be long, but I would appreciate it if you could answer it. Thanks. Here, I'll explain.
Okay, I liked him (Let's call him Bob) since about December- January. Bob was a nice guy, and I liked him a lot. I started flirting with him. Then, an evil guy told him I liked him, and he said "ewww." My friend covered for me, and Bob believed my friend. Then, I told him I liked him, and that's where my problem starts.
I went to a sports game of his, and after it, he kept looking at me (Not a weird look, just a look with no emotion or anything)! It was like this:
Put equipment in bag. Look at me. Pick bag up. Look at me again. Or something like that.
Then I told him "good game" and he gave me this weird look. Now, it could be that I was out of place or whatever, but I'm not sure.
Sometimes, my friends or me catch him looking at me! Just today, my friend caught him staring at me! After my friend caught him, he looked away!
Now, is it possible that he likes me? Thanks for your time and advice, I really appreciate it! ~Sakura
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Actually, he might really like you! A lot of times when boys are too full of themselves to admit they like someone, they respond with a disgusted look or response to cover up. The constant looking might be himself subconsciencely telling you "hey, i like you!", Maybe you should talk to him again about yourself liking him, and maybe he'll do the same. Or have one of your friends talk to him for you! =)
If this wasn't helpful, just write again!
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Hey, Can I ask u something I have a nother problem
I met this guy and I really don't know what he looks like , I chat with him here and there ,but
I think he's really sweet and everything what should I do???
-JayJay-
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Well if you've never met him before, I really suggest you don't take it farther than a friendship. One in thousands of online relationships will work out [assuming you're talking about online], but almost all of them don't work out more then a couple months. One of my friends talked to a guy, he was really sweet, said he was 18, sent her a picture.. and in reality he turned out to be a 54 year old man. So you never know who's on the other end unless you actually meet him. So I suggest just keeping it on a friendship level.
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how do you know if you have a std or weather your partner has one ?
Is the only way to catch one if your partner has sex with you????
Pleeze help (link)
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The main way to find out if you have an STD or if your partner does is through a test. Try going to a doctor's office and being tested for one.
And yes, I'm 99% sure the only way to catch one naturally is to have sex. Hence SEXUALLY in the acronym STD (Sexually Transmitted Disease)
But some can also be spread through infected needles, organ transplants, and blood transplants.
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Hi , I have a very heart hurting Question, I met thi guy today and he's really sweet and every time hes around me he gets speachless. I feel kinda of a connection between us but he asked me out today and he's 16 and hes really nice , almost like u , but we just met and if I say yes , then what? i hardly know him and I feel that he's the right guy for me but he's a little to nice and he opens doors for me and protects me alittle to MUCH. What should I do? We have a lot in commin like Basketball , skateing and chating ,but my sister likes him but shes 12 years old and he 16, Should I go out with him?? I need some one very nice but can just be their selfs.Is he???
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Maybe answering with a "yes" isn't right yet if that's how you're feeling. He might be trying to act himself, but maybe is nervous of the fact that you may not like him. As you can see, he's doing a lot for you, so maybe he is right for you? Personally, I'd go ahead and take that risk! Love is a big risk! And this is just another step to help you along. If you're still not comfortable with going out with him, then tell him you'll "think about it", or something on a similar basis!
And also, don't worry about your sister.. if he liked HER he would have asked HER out! ;)
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My sister might not be who I wish she could be but I do ask them Why do they spend more time with her then me , and they always answer "Because I want to and I came over here for her" Always the same!!!! I wish that I had friends that were always Honest and kind to me. Why do they do this to me???!!!!
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They do this to you because they're not your real friends. That may be hard to swallow, but honestly, if the only reason they come to your house is to see your sister, are they really your friends? Are they really worth it? Personally I don't think so. Have you told them how you felt? You should tell them this is hurting you so much to know they only come there for your sister, how you care about them but they don't give you the same in return!! Just give them a little guilt there ;-)
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Hi my sister Thinks that I get all the attition and she's always yelling at me, When I get something really nice or something like that she yells at me and really blames everything on me but I don't get in trouble, And when ever I have a friend for a sleepover , they don't hang around with me but go around with my sis. She's only 12 years old and my friends never want to do what I do but do what she dose.... Please HELP!!! are they the right friends may I ask???
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It's very obvious why your sister yells at you so much. Jealousy! A lot of people get jealous of their other siblings because they seem to A) get more things, B) treated more, C) are 'better looking', etc. And your sister is obviously jealous of you, so instead of taking her yelling as hurt.. take it as a compliment!! When she yells at you she's basically saying 'YOU ARE SO LUCKY FOR I WISH I COULD BE YOU!'!
And about your friends, maybe they really aren't there for you.. but perhaps your sister? Try talking to them, ask.. no wait.. DEMAND a reason on why they'd rather be with your sister than yourself! Because you never know, they might be using you to get to spend time with your sister. So I suggest talking to them!
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Me and my Best friend do everything together. we are like family. She lives down the road from me. I just found out that she is going to be moving soon and I dont know if we are going to go to the same high school next year. Or if we are still going to be friends. What should I do? (link)
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It's very hard to lose a best friend. I know how you're feeling, I lost my best friend because of a fight. But anyway, the most you can do is just try to keep in touch. Just call eachother, E-Mail, write, instant message, etc. and try to keep as in touch as you can!
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