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my friend and her b/f
my friend has had this off and on relationship with this guy.hes fingered her and made out alot and stuff but he goes off and does stuff like that with other people.shes like my best friend EVER and she calls me crying sayin hes makin out with some girl.it breaks my heart and i think she should leave him.all he does is break her hearrt.she deserves so much better but she claims she loves him so much.other times she hates him.can someone help me?im afraid im in the middle.
Signed,
Concerned Friend
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concerned friend,
i think you should go up to this guy and give him a piece of your mind tell him that he doesnt deserve a great girl like your bff!!! and if your best friend is stil loving him try to catch him in the act or him with another girl to show her its not worth. it or the best thing is just have your friend confrot him and have her give him a piece for her mind in front of this/these girls so they know that they are being used.
hope it works out
luv Britt
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tell her that he is not good enough for her
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Concerned friend my sister is the same way. you're right tellyour friend what you said. She deserves someone better than she has don't just blurt it out just talk calmly take her for a walk and tell her. you're agood friend.
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Try talking to her and tell exactly what you just told us. Tell her that she deserves better, and that it upsets you that she's so upset. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~
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If you feel like you are in the middle then take yourself out. Let your friend know that you are there for her and will always be there but you have already let her know how you feel and you think she should this loser. If she choses to be with someone who is going to keep hurting her then she needs to deal with it because she is the one putting herself in that situation. If she's gonna be crying about it then she needs to take herself out of the situation she is in because she can't handle it. This guy obviously doesn't give a shit about her or have any respect for her so there's no way she can truelly love him. He isn't showing her love he is just using her and she needs to stop thinking that just because he kisses her and touches her where it makes her feel good that it means he loves her cuz it doesn't. He is making her look a fool, and noone deserves to be treated like a fool.
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It's very sweet of you to care so much for your friend. You should ask her, "Why do you constantly want to be with someone who keeps breaking your heart? Do you like being hurt?". Make her think about that, and guide her to making the right choice.
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hmm..I think it is very kind of you that you are concerned about your friend and want to try and help her. Sadly, i think that this is a decision that she needs to make on her own when she is ready to accept that this guy is not treating her well and that she does deserve better. All you can do is be a supportive friend and try and convince her that this guy is no good and tell her what you have told us..that she deserves better. Hopefully she will dump ths guy and find one who treats her better.
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It's a vicious cycle. She's probably very vonerable so just remain a good friend but remind her that she desirves better. Dont be harsh because shell feel like your attacking her...tell the turth but in a caring way.
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Tell your friend to tell him that he needs to stop! That is bad! Or if she doesn't like that option...It's break-up time!
Happy Holidays!
Abby
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He is using her.. in my opinion and i think as a friend you and your friend should have a day out at the mall or go to a party or hang out somewhere and go boy hunting hehe or you can just let a boy come to you and find you i suggest your friend be single for a while b/c the faster you rush into a relationship you will be comparing the guy your with with the guy you were used by and sometimes the user seems better you should take time and heal up your heart and take her out and find a nice guy to hang out with! x0x0 Kay
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I think your friend should leave him. Obviously she is hurting herself by claiming that she "loves" this guy when I think she has been mistaken. Don't let her become something she is not, sit down and talk to her about how bad he is treating her and how something like this can turn into an abusive relationship if nothing is done about it. You would rahter the issue be solved now than later when it can turn into a bigger deal.
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Ask her why she really "loves" him. If they were to be in a relationship, would he still be making out and doing things with other girls? What would be different? Would he still be going off with other girls? Because if he was...he's definetely not worth it. Hope I helped.
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Your friend definitly needs to get away from this guy. She means nothing to him if he goes off and does stuff with other girls. She needs to leave him and find someone that does like her and will respect her. I would basically tell your friend that she is going to ruin her self-esteem and her self worth if she stays with this guy. Only sluts do it with guys that could care less about them, so dont let your friend become a slut.
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