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My Husbands bull dyke best friend hates me
I'm about as butch as the next girl. I don't shave anything, I hate make up, I have a mean left hook, I don't take any crap on the street. My husband is a sweetheart, I found a rare gem in him, but his bull dyke best friend hates me. I have tried EVERYTHING to befriend her. I have tried ignoring her, I don't know what else to do. She HATES me. She tells total strangers what a seething bitch I am (well, I am) and she has tried to break us up many times. She has even threatened me with physical violence. I don't tell him who to be friends with or not, but she just won't let up. It's making him take a 2nd look at his friendship with her, and I'm afraid he's going to leave her behind. What can I do? I think she may be jealous of me. Does she want him, or me, or both of us. She has a history of sleeping with his other girlfriends, but I'm not bi. I'm letting him sort this one out for himself, but I feel kinda bad about it.
Violet
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ok you might not want to hear this well, first maybe she is jealious but not the way you think, evoryone has a past and did you look into your husbands past good enough? gays dont hang around straits unless they r related,maybe they were party buddies or just clubbed togeather and she picked up girls and him guys and now since you that has all changed that will definately wake a lot of waves believe me, she wants you gone so it can go back to the ols way you really need to check with your husbands past ill bt you find a lot of skelletons watch out... anissa
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I think you should be glad he is choosing you over his friend. That can't be easy. My (now ex) husband didn't make that choice. He chose friends at work over me.
Your husband loves you enough to lose a friend and keep his wife. Why not spend some quality time with him, just the two of you, without even mentioning her. If you bitch about her you become the bad guy. You're lucky, appreciate it.
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well i would just sit down with her and your husband and talk about it with everyone
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It's about time you speak up. May I remind you that you're the WIFE and she's just a friend... Tell your husband that she's harrassing you and that she's treatening you with physical violence. If he doesn't do anything about this and continues to be friends with her - there's something fishy going on. I would start looking for a divorce lawyer if I were you...I mean what kind of a man would favor somebody like her over his wife? The least he could do is to avoid this girl completely.
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Well Violet. First of all I really wonder if you're using the term" Bull Dyke " correctly. not that it matters, but, it helps for future reference. Nevertheless, I don't see any reason YOU should feel bad. Your husband's first commitment should be to you, not his friend. I'm glad you say that he's thinking of leaving her behind. That makes me feel alot better about your husband. SHE is being intrusive. SHE is being the abrasive. It sounds as if you have tried all within your power to accept her because she is your husband's friend, but to no avail. You've done your part. Let it go. The rest is up to him.
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if he is going to leave her behind I don't see a problem, she's a cow and not a good friend to him. A true best friend would be supportive of his marrige.
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Have you talked to him about how she makes you feel? His is correct in thinking about no longer associating with her. You must be a really interesting person if your husbands has other girlfriends. Or maybe you just mean friends that are girls.
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Umm, so what do you want? advice? support? I think you are right in letting him handle it, but let him know that you are there if he needs you. Some pairing of people are just impossible. If she refuses all your overtures of freindship and it is interferring with your marriage, then maybe you will have to leave her in the dust.
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I think you answered your own question. "I'm letting him sort this one out for himself." I can't imagine why he would want to be friends with someone who hated his wife. It would seem like a very difficult relationship.
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Aside from your mean left hook...
If she's as foaming at the mouth as she sounds, maybe your husband is right to take a second look at his friendship with her. You're just a catalyst for her very scary personality, it seems. Let your husband talk reason with her, and if he judges her to be not worth it, then you've both taken the high road and leaving her behind is for the best.
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Have your hustband talk to her. Have him ask her why she's treating you like that. There really is nothing you can do if you just want to let him sort this one out.
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She is very jealous of you and she wants your husband. You really should talk to your husband about her and what shes done. No matter what you need to talk to him about her.
-shay :-)
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