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Good or bad friends?
I often feel really lonely. Most of my friends have changed, and I don't know who are my real friends anymore. Some of my friends became really snobbish since they entered college.. And they act much differently towards me. It's like I annoy them, like i'm not cool enough. Also none of them ever have time for me.. Sometimes, I tell them to invite me when they do things together, yet they never even think of me.
Since two years, I also met a really nice guy named Kevin. He really is my best friend, but since a few months he's been completely ignoring me. He is always talking to his online girlfriend. When he can't talk to her he calls me and complains how boring things are without her. I feel like I'm a "last resort" thing to him.
How can I know who's my real friend and who isn't?
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Im afraid your friends have moved on. Its very sad I know, but you can oly move on too. Im thinking that Kevin does care about you, its just your second and his girlfriend is first which is no problem. Try to get to gether with him and your old friends and see whats up.
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Maybe it's about time to meet new people and make new friends since your old friends have drifted far away from you...including your best friend Kevin...but before you do this make sure you're not just suffering from depression. Sometimes when you're depressed you feel that the whole world is against you. Go to your doctor and check to see if you're clinically depressed...If you're not then go ahead and find ways to make new friends. People change as they grow older which explains why your old friends are kind of aloof with you - they've probably have different interest now than before. Don't make them the center of your life. Find ways or an outlet for yourself to enjoy.
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That sounds almost similar to what I'm going through also. Well seriously, if your "friends" keep forgetting you, then they're not your friends at all. People change, especially when there's a big change, like college. There's nothing much you can do with them because they don't seem to care, so why don't you just try making some new friends? Ones that actually care.
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Well if you need to tell then maybe you should see the ones who do pay attention to you. they are your real friends the ones who are ignoring you are snobbish, as you put it and you shouldn't bother with them.
;o) christen
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I guess when it comes down to it, you can't. But my opinion of a good friend is some one who is honest and loyal to you, who loves you with out condition and is not judgemental of things you do, and who expects no less from you. A true mate should be someone whom you are comfortable with. I.e. some one who you can gossip, and talk to about anything, who you can share a bed with [if the occasion demands] and not feel awckward, some one who wont mind if you turn up on their dorstep at 1am in tears, someone who you can walk around in your underwear in front of them and they won't be offened, and you feel comfortable.
True freinds are difficult to come by, so good luck, and don't be to dissapointed if not everyone you befreind isn't a true mate. *hug*
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As always, feel free to contact me if you need to talk.
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People do change. but unfortunately some do for the worst. these are obviously not your friends. people that really care about you will always be by your side. And besides what is the true definition of cool. i think its just being yourself. and if they don't appreciate you for who you are then move on.
Well...let me tell you that sometimes people become really concentrated on their personal relationships and dont realize that they might be hurting other people's feelings. He just doesnt realize that he is hurting you and that you feel like the second plate at the table. But you have to tell him how you feel. Communication is the key to success.
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Your real friends don't leave you behind. Its simple as that. But we do tend to change as we enter college, Like a year ago I was still a bit immature always partying instead of studying or having better things to do. Now in college its changed so have my friends, They tell me I left them behind and the truth is I did they like to party and not go to class. ANd they forget about me as well we don't call each other for events and we do feel very left out when we do that to each other. ITs the same for you. What im trying to say is talk to them dont make my mistake and make new friends because your college friends are the ones that do last a life time.. I hope that helped if you have anything else e-mail me at
Cspinoza1@aol.com
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It sounds like you are feeling bad about yourself and need to develop some self confidence. Start focusing on things that you are good at, that make you feel better about yourself. I know friends are very important, but if you have a little distance, are more aloof and cool, they will probably respect you more. I don't mean fake it. That is why I suggested trying to increase your self confidence by focusing on things instead of your friends and their opinions.
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