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Just wanted to thank you for your advice :) it really helped calm me down (link)
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You're very welcome!
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My parents are divorced. I've learned to accept that years ago. They have been divorced for almost ten years. Both of them are remarried and I love my step parents. I am very close to my mom, I think every girl is. I am also close to ny dad. I see him Wednesdays, Thrsdays, and I live with him every other weekend. I like how things are. However something has come up. You guys seem to get that I am close to both parents. They don't talk much, but when they do they are very responsible, respectful and they don't fight. My step dad works at NCR and his busnuiness is moving to Georgia. In two days we will get a letter saying if he is asked to move to Georgia. He has been looking for a job for about two months now. Since of the economy it is really hard to find a good job. He can't take a bigpay cut and he gets paid good. My step sister has asked me what would happen if he gets asked to go. I wasn't about to lie so I told her the truth, that he would move down there and my mom and I would stay in Ohio intill the house gets sold. When I told her that she got defensive, she said that I was NOT allowed to move sincemy dad lives here. I told her that my step dad couldn't go unemplyed and he is trying all he can to provide for my mom and I. I do not want to movie, but I know that we have to do whatever we have to do. All of my family lives up here. But I am trying to stay strong in all of this. A few weeks ago I was listening to my step mom on the phone to my dad's mom and she said that there was nothing to worry about because I wasn't allowed to move. Based on the law, I technically don't have to go to my dad's anymore since I am passed 13 years old. I turn fifteen in four days, I think that I am almost depressed. I cry everyday just thinking about this. I'm going through a hard time by myself, let only the fact that they don't support me. It's hard to stay strong when people tear you down. I am a christian and my moto is to live by gods will. I know that everything happens for a reason, so why can't they support me. Im going through a really hard time and it's hard to think that I might be moving away from my dad. I don't know what to do. My mom has told me that we would drive up here a lot, and I would get a job to pay for a car to drive myself and plane tickets. We may not even have to move, we will find out in two days. Whenever I talk to my step mom or step sister about it I go to the bathroom and cry. What should I do? I know they don't want me to leave, but I am old enough to not to be selfish and I relize that my step dad would have to make sacrifices too. My mom told me that I have the option to stay with my dad, I love my dad, but I couldn't leave my mom. I really need help. How do I talk to my step family and dad about somethng that makes me cry, and I know it makes them sad too, but to face the truth I may move. It wouldn't even be intill late 2010. That is over a year. I really need to talk to someone. My friends don't understand, please help. I'm sorry that this is long. But I needed to tell my side of the story. (link)
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Its perfectly ok for you to shed some tears over this. You can be brave about it and still show your emotions!
Your step sister and step mom will miss you. They are acting upset because you are leaving and they have no control over that. They probably understand that it can't be helped, that just doesn't make the reality any easier to live with. Many people just don't like change.
Being depressed over it is normal. Being sad is normal. I doubt anyone in your entire family is really happy about this. But, people have to make a living where they can these days.
You just talk to your step family and don't worry about the tears.
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My boyfriend and i have been dating 9 months, we dated for 4 months about 2 years ago and then got back together. We only have problems when my boyfriend has these little "freak outs" he keeps everything inside until he just randomly ut of know where freaks out and goes off the wall, its horrible he always directs it at me, he would NEVER hit me or anything like that but he has put holes in the wall and he calls me names and stuff his last one was over the weekend and they usually last about an hour and then he brakes down and starts crying and says how he loves me more than anything and i don't deserve this and i can tell he really is sorry. He had a horrible child hood and life, he's 19 and his whole life has been horrible he has drug addict parents how fight and hit him and.. i don't want to leave him, i just want to know what i can do when he has these freak outs? like what can i say? i don't want to just leave him i want to fix the problem i want him not to think im going to leave him, when he freaks out he always says that i dont love him, nobody does and its just an act, when in reality i love him more than anything and i dont know how to prove that to him since everyone in his life has abandoned him pretty much. What can i do?
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I don't think you can fix him. The most important
thing on this list below is...Does not making him angry become an important part of your behavior?
Here is a list of things to ponder. Taken from
http://www.familysunshine.org/abuser.html
The following characteristics might help you identify a potential batterer. They are certainly not definitive signs that a man is a batterer, only that he has the potential to become one.
Does he report having been physically or psychologically abused as a child?
Was the man's mother battered by his father?
Does he play with guns and use them to protect himself against other people?
Does he lose his temper frequently and more easily than seems necessary?
Does he commit acts of violence against objects and things rather than people?
Does he drink alcohol excessively?
Does he display an unusual amount of jealousy when you are with him?
Is he jealous of other significant people in your life?
Does he expect you to spend all of your free time with him or to keep him informed of your whereabouts?
Does he become enraged when you do not listen to his advice?
Does he appear to have a dual personality?
Is there a sense of overkill in his cruelty or in his kindness?
Do you get a sense of fear when he becomes angry with you?
Does not making him angry become an important part of your behavior?
Does he have rigid ideas of what people should do that are determined by male or female sex-role stereotypes?
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My boyfriend and I can't be together at the moment for many reasons. The situation won't change for sure until 2 years from now, when I'll be 18. We both love eachother though. I don't know what I should do until then. I don't want to date anyone because I still love him so much. And even if I didn't, it's much too complicated for me to date anyone right now. Should I try to get over him though? I don't want to, but is that healthy? Or should I just continue with my life with him in my heart? I don't know if this makes sense. I know I can't control what I feel, but I can TRY to get over him. I don't think I want to though. Thanks. (link)
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I don't know how long ago you stopped seeing him. I'm guessing not long. It will take some time to
heal.
2 years in a young life is a long time. I think it
would be very unhealthy for you to sit around pining for him.
The only way to truly "get over" him is to just move on with your life and date other guys.
I know right now that isn't something you want to do, but its important. Thats what your teen years are all about...socializing, especially with guys. He will not sit around and wait for you to turn 18 either, even if he has said he would. Neither of you should.
If you meet again after you turn 18 and decide you want to try again, that's OK. If it is meant to be, it will happen. Just don't sit around and wait on a maybe. Life is way to short.
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I heard on the radio that Amy Winehouse (sings "Rehab") died today sometime! I'm way shocked, if so because she looked fairly young to me. I mean, I guess it could be drugs, suicide, or murder but...still! Wow.
Is it really true? (link)
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Here's the news from yesterday. She is not dead yet but headed in that direction I'm afraid.
London - Amy Winehouse was too high on drugs to record a James Bond theme song.
The Back to Black singer - who teamed up with producer Mark Ronson for the proposed Quantum of Solace title track in 2008 - allegedly ruined the collaboration by partying too hard at the recording studio.
"It just turned into an excuse for a wild drink and drugs party. She wasn't concentrating on work," said Amy's estranged husband Blake Fielder-Civil.
Mark later scrapped plans to work with Amy, and reportedly halted the sessions because of her drug addiction problems.
Alicia Keys and Jack White's duet Another Way to Die was later chosen by Bond bosses.
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Hi, I'm not sure if you can help me with this or not, but it's been scaring me a lot lately and you said you were an EMT. For about 3 weeks now (maybe more) I've had a lump inside my vagina near my clitoris, I don't know if that helps describe where it is. But it seems to have grown longer rather than wider, and I don't know why. I've had pimples there before and they've gone away within 1-2 weeks. My friend said it might be herpes?? But I really don't know.
I've told my mom about this and told her I'm worried, of course she blows it off like it's nothing and my gyno appointment isn't until August 5th. I'm scared it could be a tumor? But everyone says they doubt it. Anything you can tell me? It's not very painful, but since I've been touching it it's a little sore. (link)
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It could be a boil. Its like a huge overgrown pimple. They can grow slowly but be very painful
if and when they get large.
Many break on their own, some have to be lanced by a doctor. Herpes is an open sore much like a cold sore. Sp don't worry about that. I doubt it is a tumor either.
So, unless it bothers you, discuss it with your doctor. Don't worry about it to much until then.
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I'm almost 16, and I'm a female.
I'm not sure, but I think I may have a mental illness. I feel like my emotions don't match the situation they are meant for - if someone gives me bad news, such as someone's sick, or someone close to them just died, I feel like laughing or smiling.
I don't cry at funerals, and I don't feel openly sad when someone dies. If the emotion I display is sadness, I can't cry in front of people; I always try to find a quiet place to cry by myself. I only cry around twice a year, give or take a few times.
I get angry at my family a lot to the point where I sit in my room for a large portion of the day during the summer unless I go to work or hang out with my friends. I feel very disconnected from my family; that they're all against me. My brother has Asperger's Syndrome, and I always feel I get the shorter end of the stick. I don't like talking to my family a whole lot.
I always feel anxious about past situations. I tend to linger on choices I made in the past, wondering what would have happened if I made the "right" choice to the point where I feel very depressed and it affects the rest of my day. Whilst doing so, I often get bad headaches and I have no motivation to do anything for the remainder of the day. This mostly has to do with relationships and such.
I get jealous often if someone becomes happy because of a wrong choice I made to the point where I can't stand the person. I apologize a lot because I have the tendency to get angry at those who are close to me, and I always look into things too closely (as I probably am right now).
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I think you are probably having perfectly normal teen emotional upheaval. Its certainly unpleasant, but it doesn't mean you have a mental problem.
You have hormonal changes happening. You have many changes going on in your life all at once. Ride it out as best as you can. It does stop eventually. If things get to be just to much for you, consult your doctor.
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UGH. So,i've always had mild/moderate acne. And on friday night my mom bought this stuff called "continuously clear" by "serious skin care". Well after i used it i found out i used WAY WAY WAY too much of it! And ever since friday night, my face has been PUFFY, BURNING,ITCHING,TIGHT AND RED. My eyes feel huge, every inch of my face Itches like crazy, and the puffyness of my face is unberable; haha. I've tried some things but nothing's been working ;;So far i've tried-
-Putting Ice ALLL over my face;which feels good but is only temporary.
-Putting Tea Bags on my face(hah my mom thought i should try this)-didnt help at all?
-Putting a crap load of moisturizer on my face-inefective.
My mom said i over-peeled my skin?
Honestly i really can't take this anymore, in four days i'm going on a cruise, and i just want this pain to go away so badly! Any methods?! Please help, i'm sorry i'm being really obnoxious right now XD! Thank you SO much,really, it'd help me so much! (link)
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You need to see a doctor. Seriously, you have some serious chemical burn on your face. A doctor can give you some burn cream & tips on healing. You may even need an antibiotic.
You don't want to be on a cruise and get sick. It will ruin your trip. See a doctor and get some professional advice. You face is one of those things you don't want to mess around experimenting on.
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Hey Advicenators! I've been having some issues lately and it seems like blood sugar maybe, I don't know! And, so, I was hoping somebody knew something about diabetes. Like, what are the signs and symptoms of diabetes? How do I know if I have diabetes? And, heck, how do people get diabetes anyway? I know it's a disease and messes with blood sugars and stuff so ... yeah :\ I don't want to have it but if I do I guess I have to see a doctor (link)
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If you have any of these symptoms, check with your doctor for blood work.
Frequent urination
Excessive thirst
Extreme hunger
Unusual weight loss
Increased fatigue
Irritability
Blurry vision
More information & and online diabetes risk test
can be found here...
http://www.diabetes.org/diabetes-symptoms.jsp
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Well i never took the pregnancy test because i thought maybe i am pregnant and now i will end up losing the people i care about im really disappointed in myself worst part of all the guy that did this to me will never know he live really far from me and i lost his number i would really like to confront him about this before i make any decisions..Well for this older guy thing i would like for us to come to an end cause im sensing his not that into me cause i phoned him last night when i was at the party so he was like really off i tried to cheer him up but seems like it didn't work so i feel like im done wasting my time on making him happy when his not even giving me that feeling in return so i want out but i got another problem i told his sister who is my friend about me and him and she was really happy about it but now that he lost intrest im starting to and i want him really to be apart of my life but he keeps pushing me away and im just trying to be the best girl i can be but if he keeps this up i rather lose a lover then love a loser cause what the use if im always trying to make it work but he never does..should i try harder or should i let it go i need help and advise on how should i control this or how to keep the relationship flowing cause i like him a lot and it's long time that i liked a guy and if he does this to me then i will completely lose interest in men cause this keeps happening to me in every relationship like a curse... (link)
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I will try to answer this but I have to say with no punctuation it is really hard to understand. It really should be deleted.
First, if you suspect you are pregnant, you need a test. You will not lose those that love you. True, they may be disappointed. They may seem angry for a while, but they will quickly get over it. So, take a test and find out for sure.
If the babies father lives far away, then you are basically on your own anyway. If he has not been an ongoing part of your life, you don't need his input in making a decision. Wanting to "confront" him because he "did this to me" is silly. He did what you allowed him to do. He is no more guilty than you are. You need to face the fact that you made a bad decision and live with it.
I haven't a clue what this older guy has to do with anything. If you're pregnant you need to deal with that and stop the party girl thing. Not
good for unborn babies to be out partying. If you feel you and this guy are done, then end it. Sounds like he already has.
It sounds to me as if you need to do some growing up. You don't stay in a relationship that is going nowhere just to please a friend. Does he know you may be pregnant with another guys child? You may want to say something to him. It could be he wants nothing to do with raising another mans child. Better discuss your possible condition with him soon and go from there.
If you want a good relationship with a man, try getting to know them a little better before having sex with them. Time to grow up.
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okay, so me and my boyfriend have been going out for like .. 7 months now .. and i love him to death. but for some reason .. all we do is argue now. that`s all our conversations are. i try and prevent the arguements and everything but he just still argues. and he likes to hangout with his "homeboy" a lot more now .. witch his "homeboy" cheats on his girlfriend all the time . i`m starting to suspect he`s cheating on me or something. but i love him so much i don`t wanna loose him. what should i do.? or how can i make this work.? (link)
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You need to sit down with him and ask him why he wants to argue all the time.
If he is spending more time with friends than with you, its not really a good sign. Most of the time friends complain they aren't getting to spend much time with their friends once they start dating...which is normal.
Instincts are right a lot of the time. I'm not saying he is cheating, but you suspect he might be. At the very least he is losing your trust.
Talk to him. If you don't hear anything reassuring, or if he turns it into an argument, look for another boyfriend.
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Everyone says that perhaps he's being a fake and stringing me along, other's say that he was just being friendly.. I feel like I have to prove everyone wrong again, because on Thursday my boyfriend and I were discussing how we both know he still cares about me and yadda. I wish I wasn't with my mom or my grandma when I saw him, because now they are giving me a hard time over it and telling me not to fall for his games and crap. I just want to make my own decision for once. :( (link)
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Well of course you do! They just feel they are helping you. They don't want to see you get hurt again. I don't either! :)
Actually, you have matured quite a lot since we first started talking. I think you know to use caution where he is concerned.
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Today was the day... we ran into each other..
and when I say that.. I seriously mean, we walked right into each other basically. He was at work obviously, and the deli and the bakery are obviously right next to each other.. usually they are..correct? well.. so while waiting for our number, i turned to get some bread off the rack, and i saw him far to my left out from behind the counter, and as i was walking to the rack hoping to get there before he walked back.. he was walking back to behind the counter..and he passed by me..and i turned the corner to the rack, and he went to go move the other rack to get behind the counter, and as he did that i passed by..and he was like :O long time no see, and he put out his hand..and i shook it..and then he took his other hand and placed it on the other side..and wouldnt let go.. so i poked him hoping he would let go, then im like sure you'd shake my hand but i dont get a hug, and hes like no hugs hand shakes..and he used his hands to demostrate a handshake..and i had this weird look on my face.. and reached for the bread, then he told me to take one he made today..and he began to look, then realized i had taken one.. then im like anything else i need to take..and hes like buy one of each..im like >_>, then that was basically it, because the girl he was working with came back from what she was doing..and then he had customers to help..and yep.. but i was alright over the whole thing, but its like hes trying to be friendly with me..perhaps because i was RIGHT there, but i had like no emotion to me whatsoever. and its just weird, he leaves in a month...and this is the 2nd time i saw him in an year, and 2nd time within a month.. and today was the first face to face since that rice krispie thing i gave him.. what should i do.. its like hes trying so hard to be nice..yet also trying to make it look like he doesnt want to be friends..and i put no interest or emotion..i dont even recall smiling, now im confused :(, i had a dream 2 nights ago or so, that he had texted me that he was sorry. and man it sucked to wake up. and yeah, its as if things are slowly getting better, but i dont want to read too much into it. (link)
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Well at least he wasn't being an ass. There is hope for friendship one day I think. :)
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Is it possible to suck your own penis? (link)
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I suppose if you were a contortionist you could.
If you wanted to. Though don't know why you'd want to. I suppose it would make life a lot less complicated, eh?
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I'm a female, and 15 years old. should I forgive my boyfriend, if he thinks he got another girl pregnant? because this only happened one time, and he says he loves me, and it wasn't he's fault that this happened, because the girl forced him to do it with her. (link)
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You know, it is physically impossible for a girl to force a guy to get an erection. He either does or he doesn't. If he don't want to, he will not get one.
Forgive him if you want to. Just know right up front that he is lying to you.
If she is pregnant he is just as much at fault as the girl is. He is just as responsible for hospital bills and childcare as she is. SO, you are starting out with a guy who will be in debt for the next 18 plus years.
If he gets out of all that, he is still a shitheel for not taking the responsibility for his child. So you are getting a guy who is irresponsible.
One time is all it takes. One itty bitty sperm.
If he didn't know that already, you are also getting a guy who is irresponsible and ignorant.
You might also keep in mind that he probably told the possible mother of his child he loved her too.
This is an age old phrase that has gotten many a male into a females bloomers.
Just my opinion. :)
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What can i do to make my breast bigger naturally? (link)
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Nothing. Thats as natural as you can get. If large breasts are in your family, you will probably get them. If small is the norm, then you won't.
There is nothing naturally and there is nothing at all you can buy to make your breasts grow larger.
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i am 18+. i have small breast which makes me feel ambarase. plz help me. (link)
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Breasts come in all shapes & sizes. You have no need to be embarrassed at all.
As far as helping you goes, there isn't anything we can do about your breast size. Don't fall for any of those breast enlargement schemes. Those products do not work.
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As the long term girlfriend of 6 years and once engaged to this man, who's mother passed away. Tomorrow at the funneral he asked me to sit with them. Would it be proper if I also stood with him and his family to greet? (link)
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I think if he wants you there with him and his parents and other family don't mind, then its not a problem.
If you want to be proper though, here is a search to help you find an answer.
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my girlfriend and i had sex in her fourth day of menstrual period and i inject my semen inside her and we did it twice. and now we are afraid that her period didn't come on the expected date and she is 2 days delayed. and no signs of any discharges which she always experience before she has her period. and i am scared of getting her pregnant. is the fourth day of her menstruation is safe or not? what are the chances of getting her pregnant? or is it just her menstruation period is delayed? please help me. (link)
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If you are really and truly scared of getting a girl pregnant..do not have sex with her without protection. The time to be scared is BEFORE you have sex. Not after.
There are no SAFE days. None.Chances are very good that she is pregnant.
If she isn't, please do not have sex again without protection of some sort to lessen the odds of pregnancy.
Now that I have done the motherly ass chewing, I recommend that she get a home pregnancy test. Read the instructions carefully and see what it says. You can get them almost anywhere these days. Walmart, or any drugstore.
Look in the phone book or online and see if you have a planned parenthood office in your area. A
local health department or free clinic. Any of those places can also do a pregnancy test for you.
They are also a great resource for birth control information. They will not judge you. But you really, really must use some form of birth control if you want to avoid the high risk of pregnancy.
Good luck to you both. Being late a couple of days is not uncommon for any female. Get her a test though so you know whats going on.
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A few days after I had unprotected sex I got really sick and my throat was swollen. I was running a fever. I developed bad canker sores around my braces a few days after the sex and I started using Orajel antiseptic mouth rinse. I went to the doctor because the sorts hurt and she said that I had a high level of white blood cells. She seemed kind of concerned but prescribed an antibiotic for my mouth sores and sent me home. Was the thrush caused by the antibiotic, or can I possibly have HIV? HELP! (link)
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It is not an STD.
In adults thrush is commonly caused by antibiotics or corticosteroid inhalers used by those with severe asthma.
You may have read that people with HIV/AIDS can get it. That is because they have a weakened immune system. The HIV did not cause the thrush, it just made them more susceptible to getting it. Same is true of diabetics. They just have a weakened immune system.
If you have taken antibiotics recently, that is probably the culprit. White blood cells fight infections. So if you had sores, they were doing their job. Your doc gave you antibiotics because of that finding.
Honestly, you have nothing to worry about.
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