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Can't be together right now
My boyfriend and I can't be together at the moment for many reasons. The situation won't change for sure until 2 years from now, when I'll be 18. We both love eachother though. I don't know what I should do until then. I don't want to date anyone because I still love him so much. And even if I didn't, it's much too complicated for me to date anyone right now. Should I try to get over him though? I don't want to, but is that healthy? Or should I just continue with my life with him in my heart? I don't know if this makes sense. I know I can't control what I feel, but I can TRY to get over him. I don't think I want to though. Thanks.
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I don't know how long ago you stopped seeing him. I'm guessing not long. It will take some time to
heal.
2 years in a young life is a long time. I think it
would be very unhealthy for you to sit around pining for him.
The only way to truly "get over" him is to just move on with your life and date other guys.
I know right now that isn't something you want to do, but its important. Thats what your teen years are all about...socializing, especially with guys. He will not sit around and wait for you to turn 18 either, even if he has said he would. Neither of you should.
If you meet again after you turn 18 and decide you want to try again, that's OK. If it is meant to be, it will happen. Just don't sit around and wait on a maybe. Life is way to short.
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Honestly if you can't see him then what is the point in trying to hold onto him and hold yourself back from possibly meeting new people and devolping a healthier relationship? Honestly, It the reason is permanent and there is no way around it then I would move on. 2 years is a long time to wait for somebody and a lot can happen in those two years. Feelings can change, You could meet new people..etc. Yes, Right now you say you love him but hate to tell ya things always change even when you don't want them too as everything happens for a reason. I think it would be healthier for you to move on and be with someone you can see on a regular basis, As you are young and you should enjoy life and exsperience a relationship with more than just one individual. If you wait two years to see this guy what are you going to get out of the waiting part?...You only hold yourself back in the long run. Also, without seeing him you never know what is truely going to happen on his end as not all men are faithful. Right now you need to focus on you and what is best for you, As hard as the choice may be remember this is about you not him and you should know to always put yourself first. If you are not ready to date right now then take a break for awhile as nobody is forcing you to see someone.
-BahaiMa22
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