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my boyfriend is getting meaner and meaner
15/f
okay, so me and my boyfriend have been going out for like .. 7 months now .. and i love him to death. but for some reason .. all we do is argue now. that`s all our conversations are. i try and prevent the arguements and everything but he just still argues. and he likes to hangout with his "homeboy" a lot more now .. witch his "homeboy" cheats on his girlfriend all the time . i`m starting to suspect he`s cheating on me or something. but i love him so much i don`t wanna loose him. what should i do.? or how can i make this work.?
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i know exactly what your going through and you might not like the idea of the thought of letting him go, but thats wat your going to have to do. me and my ex bf went through this and i asked the same thing. i sat there and thought of every way to make things work and then i finally realized, its not up to me to make things work. you can only do so much. a relationship takes two people and the fighting, in all honesty, probably isnt going to get any better. you need to talk to him and see whats going on and if he picks a fight, as hard as it will be, you need to be done with him. i know, trust me, its a lot easier said than done but if this is how hes ganna make yalls relationship, then in the long run, it will make u happy to let it go. may not seem like it now but it gets better :)
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You need to sit down with him and ask him why he wants to argue all the time.
If he is spending more time with friends than with you, its not really a good sign. Most of the time friends complain they aren't getting to spend much time with their friends once they start dating...which is normal.
Instincts are right a lot of the time. I'm not saying he is cheating, but you suspect he might be. At the very least he is losing your trust.
Talk to him. If you don't hear anything reassuring, or if he turns it into an argument, look for another boyfriend.
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I think you guys really need to sit down and get to the core of whatever the problem is here. Obviously it's that you guys argue a lot, but you really need to figure out why.
If you somehow get into an argument during this discussion, I would honestly just call it quits. Arguing is healthy for a relationship as everyone has to disagree with one another sooner or later, but when it comes to the point where you can't talk without having a fight, then that's unhealthy. And there's probably no fixing it either.
I would try and talk, but I'd rather you just call it quits. Besides, you're 15. Guys will come & go for a long time before you find the right one. I bet once you do lose this guy, you'll see how much better life is. Trust me. You can lose certain people, you just will have to be willing to drop them.
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