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"Do not pity the dead, Harry. Pity the living, and, above all those who live without love" - Albus Dumbledore

Hi, I'm Laura. I'm a senior in college & I'm slowly deciding what I want to do with my life. I love Harry Potter, coffee, writing, and sleeping (amongst other things). I'll never claim to know everything, but I'm confident in my ability to help people with their problems. Feel free to send me an inbox question; I'll get back to you!




A few thoughts I've gathered from my teenage years (and being on this site for most of them!):
1. If you Google song lyrics, the song will come up 99% of the time.
2. Dress to fit your body type, and buy the size that fits. If you're a size 6, squeezing into a 4 won't make you look skinnier. It makes you look fat when you aren't.
3. You will never regret waiting to lose your virginity.
4. There is such a thing as a stupid question, but we're all allowed to ask them.




BU 2014 :)


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^my forum, liven it up a little?

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ok so i have a problem i went to this party the other day and it was both guys & gurls. most ppl left except for some ppl and they were pretty good friends so we were playing spin the bottle and it landed on me and the guy that spun it said to french kiss him in his room so we walked to his room and locked the door. THEN we just started making out, he put his hand in my shirt, i gave hime a lapdance, humping, all of that btw im 13F, and like he almost put his hand down my pants, we were rolling on the floor making out and all of that, we accidently thought we locked the door but we didnt and then we accidently opened the door and every1 saw us the saw everything we did and i feel it was wrong but i liked it all and so did he.


Then they spun the bottle again and they dared me and the same guy again, they dared me to do everything we did in front of every1 and we did. then my parents picked me up while we were doing everything.



HELLLLPPPPP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

It would have helped us a LOT if you included your parents reaction. I'd try explaining to them that you're growing up & won't be a little kid forever, and such.


If you didn't want people to find out you shouldn't have done it again. Accept this as a learning experiene and move on from it. And if you want to date this guy, that's another question altogether.


Of course, if PDA is your thing, by all means continue, just know that some people might be really offended/grossed out/get mad at you for it (i.e. parents). And humping each other at a party is going too far, in my opinion. Especially since you're only thirteen.


-LM
[16/f]

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okay so lets say youre on a medication for acne. it's called sotret. (thats not important)
and it says that you have to take "a 30mg pill twice daily" and your doctor told you the amount you have to take is 60mg per day, as it varies from patient to patient due to different height/weight..the package itself contains 30 mg pills.
okay so you're taking 60 mg per day...does it matter if you take 60 RIGHT away as in...2 30mg pills with water? ..or if you take 30 at daytime..and 30 at night, lets say? i never got to ask my doctor this..but i was hoping someone could answer it...or a wesbsite..anything would be fine. because im worried the medication might not be as effective..or even more dangerous. i've been taking it for 1 3/4 months...and i have to take it for 5 in all.
thank you so much in advance :)

Actually they have you spread out the doses like that so the levels remain more stable in your system.

You should follow the directions they give, but talk to your doctor [or the pharamacist] if spreading the doses out like that is a problem for you.

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do guys like long skinny legs, or girls that look like models? im not asking because im overwieght or jealous, but becuase my friend is not that pretty, but she has a model-like build and guys tend to be attracted to her...

Guys are attracted to a lot of different things. The general consensus among my guy friends is that disgustingly skinny girls aren't attractive, like see-their-bones, hug-them-and-they-snap-in-two thin.

Plus believe it or not, guys are attracted to things other than physical appearance. Case in point is me actually getting a boyfriend.

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My ex boyfriend kills me! my broke up because i was moving. we had one of the worst breakups EVER. we broke up 2 months before i moved and in that two months he avoided me and was just horrible all because he was trying to hide his pain and was afraid. we finally made up and said goodbye (including frenching a couple times) and then he texted me and i was so happy because i thought we could be friends but then when i responded (like a day later cause i wasnt allowed when i got the text) he wouldnt respond!! then i finally moved and when i moved i was OK. i moved on and didnt even think about him much or anything. i havent seen him for about 3 weeks now. then i got really sick and was in the hospital and i have to get surgery and stuff and my really good friend is dating his older brother (who im also friends with) and so his brother told him. he and i had truly loved each other so im assuming he cared and was worried. so he texted me. i texted him like 4 different times after but he didnt respond. AGAIN. and having contact with him again REEEALLY messed me up. after saying goodbye i was good but then with these random texts i get messed up again. idk just can you tell me what you think??

I'm adding to Jack's answer, adding a girl's perspective.


My recent-ex boyfriend of mine hated getting a lot of messages from me at once, without him responding. It was actually one reason we broke up. Stupid, I know.


Anyway, I'd give up texting him for awhile. He might be really busy. Or his phone might have gone for a swim.


Call him, on a house number if you can. Ask him what's up, and tell him that you're alright and such. He might be really worried, and not know what to say. Like you broke up, and he doesn't want to say anything too direct/weird/impersonal? I'm not a guy, so I don't know how they think, but I'm certain that you get where I'm going with this.


Maybe after a couple months you could all hang out [you, him, his brother, and your friend] and catch up on things. And I wish you a good recovery from whatever happened; worrying about this won't help a thing, so just relax for now.


-LM
[16/f]

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My mom asked me a few weeks ago if I was having sex and wanted to go on birth control because of it. It all came up because I wanted birth control for my period (but also because I was having sex) and I asked her about it. I was afraid to tell her then because my mom is Christian and very against premarital sex but now it seems like she just wants to keep me safe and doesn't care if I have had sex (I was in a relationship for a year and she probably thought I had done it) Now I want to tell her that I have done it and I want birth control but I made both my parents lose alot of trust in me recently because they caught me drinking. I don't know if I should wait to tell her when I've gained more trust back or to just tell her now because who knows when I could end up in a relationship and it could lead to doing things. I really want to start on birth control soon because it's summer and I know I might end up doing something. I already know the risks of birth control and know I should still use condoms, so there's no need to worry about that. I just need to know whether to ask now or wait. I'm 16/f btw.

If she's already asked you if you want to be on it, and assumes that you've had sex, I think you'd be fine asking her directly.

Wait until their anger over you drinking has blown over, and then say something like, "Hey Mom, I think I'm ready to be put on birth control." Honesty is the best policy. If you start with "I want to regulate my period" as your reason, and she agrees, there's no need to say "Oh and also because I'm sexually active". But if she' ASKS you specifically if that's one of your reasons, it's better to be truthful than to lie and have her find out later [whether you let it slip or if you end up pregnant].


Good luck!
-LM
[16/f]

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16/f
If you shop at Delias, you know about the logo t-shirts with all the different little designs like the cartoons and the cute sayings. They are really cute, but really expesive. Seriously, I can't shell out like 20-30 dollars or more for just a cheap t-shirt. Now, I'm sure that Delias is not the only company that sells these type of little witty expression t-shirts. Does anybody know of any other stores that sell similar shirts for a lower price? Because theres gotta be somthing out there thats making this kind of stuff for cheaper. Somthing like this shouldn't cost that much.

(I especially like the one that says "keep the battles on the dance floor" but come on, what teenager can be spending 30 bucks on a t-shirt?)

Delia's puts their shirts on clearance sometimes, check the website periodically.


Also, directly from LoyalArmy.com, you can get the shirts for a bit cheaper, and their sale section has a few for $12.
http://loyalarmy.com/index.php


Same with Alloy, they're really similar to Delia's and basically the same companies but different stuff.
http://store.alloy.com/browse.do?categoryID=586&page=2&size=&sort=


And lastly, breeze through a thrift store once in awhile. Not all that stuff is baggy old grandma clothes, I've gotten American Eagle stuff there for like, $4.


-LM
[16/f]

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what's that really big word for books that are written in document/diary/email form?

Memoirs?

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I want an ipod. I have a fair amount of money
I have about 5 gbs of music
I want at least 3 movies
I run and would take it with me
I am very clumsy and i need something to be practically indestructable, lol, or at least it cant break easily

Which do you think i should get?
Pros/cons please?
THANKS

Get an iPod video. 80GB should be enough for most people, and it's also lighter.
Then get a protective case like this one:
http://store.apple.com/1-800-MY-APPLE/WebObjects/AppleStore.woa/wa/RSLID?s=topRated&fnode=home/shop_ipod/ipod_accessories/cases&nplm=TQ767LL/A&mco=MTA4MjE1

And for extra shock protection get iPod socks like these and use them with the case. It might stretch out the socks over time, but the extra protection will give you peace of mind. (you can easily get cheaper brands than this at Target and the like):
http://store.apple.com/1-800-MY-APPLE/WebObjects/AppleStore?productLearnMore=M9720G/B

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How much is it generally do get hair dyed?

That's sort of like walking into a mall and asking how much a shirt is.


The salon at my school [during the school year obviously] is $20, $25 for highlighting.


Salons can range anywhere from $35 to a couple hundred dollars depending on the dye used, how long your hair is, and how many colors you use [such as highlights]

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Hey! I'm 16/f and I am looking into applying at a salon and/or day spa as a receptionist. I was just wondering...how old do you have to be to be one?

Thanks :D.

Ask at the place you want to apply to.
Every business is different.
Sixteen is probably old enough to answer phones, but health regulations in your state might restrict minors from being hired.

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I have a crush on 2 girls. I can't decide witch I should go with. How do I decide???

I'm going to be completely honest, this is a very unspecific answer. If you're looking for a detailed answer you simply won't get it.

Anyway. Crushes are normal; even if you're in a relationship or married, they're going to happen. Think, for example, of your mom or aunt thinking a movie star is attractive.

If I was in your shoes [obviously between two guys though, haha] I'd pick the person I'd rather be in a relationship with. In other words, is one of them just a pretty face, but you don't really have much in common? As an example, my [now ex, but that's irrelevant] boyfriend and I had a crazy amount of things in common, our conversations and time together were never boring and I really wanted to be with him. Plus he's wicked cute. And during that time, there were other people I thought were cute, but the thought of dating them bored me to death. What are you going to talk about, how cute you both are?


-LM
[16/f]

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this guy i really care about and he cares for me
well. my boyfriend.
he lets me go at my own pace. he never pushes me to do things
but we've been talking about me giving him a handjob
and he wasnt being pushy really
he kept saying that i dont have to and that its up to me
so i finally agreed to give him one next week
and he was really really happy and kept saying how much it meant to him that id make a sacrifice for his happiness
well i dont do these things
and now i feel really uncomfortable about it
but i feel like if i tell him i changed me mind he'll be dissapointed in me

and i feel like i cant talk to my friends because theyre just going to say dont do it if he cares about you he'll understand

and he wont make me do anything he'll just be sooo dissapointed
he always does things for me
not physically, but to make sure im okay

i dont know what to do
please dont tell me that im not ready if im having second thoughts

i just

i need help
i think if i knew how to give one properly i wouldnt be as nervous
he offered to teach me (is that lame)
i researched some things online
but everything looks so complicated lol

any help would be appreciated!

It's not lame if he tells you what he likes, and quite honestly no matter what you read you'll probably forget it anyway. It's another one of those things in life that you just sort of 'get' at some point.

If you really, truly, do not want to, then don't. Your boyfriend sounds like a really nice guy who'd understand, but he'd be justified in being disappointed if you said you didn't want to anymore. But if what's mostly holding you back is that you've never done it before, try to get past that. He knows that you haven't done it before and he'll know that you're a bit nervous. So only do it if you're ready.

Good luck =]
-LM
[16/f]

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i rented cloverfield the other day, and at the end, the guy was like oh were almost out of tape. so i dont get it, what happened with the monster and everything??

The monster started attacking other areas, it wasn't confined to the island anymore.

Basically everyone's screwed now.
Hopefully there won't be a Cloverfield 2!

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I am 14/f and i have a really irregular period and i want to get birth control and i want to know the one everyone would reccomend to have a normal, short period. I also need tips to convince my mom to get me it, so that would be helpful. THANK YOUU!

I'm on Yaz for that exact reason.
It gives you a four-day peroid instead of seven.
As for specific type, you could get twelve responses to this, with twelve different pills, that all worked for someone.
Your doctor [most likely a gynecologist] will give you samples of one or two kinds [one at a time] that he thinks would work best for you. Different pills have different hormones in them.


Convincing your mom? Have a good mother/daughter talk. Explain that your periods are irregular, and you'd like them evened out a bit more. Reassure her that you're not sexually active [but don't lie to her, either] but the other benefits of the pill would be very helpful to you. If you plan on BECOMING sexually active [and you're comfortable with your mom knowing] another point could be that you want to get on the pill now, so that you're protected in the future.
Best of luck.

-LM
[16/f]

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I was just wondering if I have verizon as my plan for my cell phone and if i live in massachusetts does it cost more to call someone in oregon? what if that person also has verizon? what if that person does? will the time difference matter? should i stay with calling after 9pm? thanks

It's your time zone, not theirs, that's important.
Verizon to Verizon is ALWAYS free though, no matter what time.

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where can i download free ringtones?

myxertones.com
phonezoo.com

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What age do you have to be in Massachusetts to get your permit? Then what age is it that you get your actual license?
I've heard that they're changing the driving age, and I'm just confused as to what it is now.
I've already tried Google by the way and I got a couple different ages so I was wondering if anybody knew for sure...

The day you turn sixteen, you can get your permit.
184 days after you get your permit, you can get your license IF:
- Your record is clean.
- You have done 12 hours of driving time with an instructor
- You've done 40 hours of supervised driving with your parents, or another adult 21 or over, license for at leasat a year.


There's a couple other things too.
Your best bet is to ask for a driving manual the day you go to get your permit. Actually you should have one already so you can study for the test! But all the information about permits and JOL's is in there.


-LM
[16/f]

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"no matter what"

like this person does this "no matter what".


- regardless
- despite everything else
- every time
- without fail
- religiously
- habitually
- regularly
- like clockwork
- like it's second nature
- through hell and high water
- without regard to
- notwithstanding
- in spite of everything

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How do you dye your hair with Kool-aid?

http://www.wikihow.com/Dye-Your-Hair-Using-Kool-Aid

only search advicenators.com

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im happy i guess with my body in general but i hate my stomach fat, its gross. i have a big belly and love handles, and thats what makes my body gross. im so determined to get rid of them. i've been doing situps, backwards sit ups (to loose the love handles) but i dont seem to be getting flatter, my fat is just getting harder (muslce i guess?) but it still looks like fat, not like a 4-pack muscles, i want 4 pack ab muscles instead of just a big blob of fatty muscle, does anyone know what im doing wrong?


oh and i dont really wanna loose weight i mean 10 pounds would be good but i dont think im that fat, just my stomach. thankss.

You can do crunches all you want, but to lose fat you have to change your eating habits or do some cardio.

Also, since you said you don't really want to lose weight, try cutting back on your salt intake and soda. Both can cause bloating, which might be causing your stomach to appear fatter than you want it. Otherwise, just start running more, ride a bike, or walk somewhere. Or get a workout video since it's so freaking hot out now.

Good luck =]
-LM
[16/f]

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