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handjob
this guy i really care about and he cares for me
well. my boyfriend.
he lets me go at my own pace. he never pushes me to do things
but we've been talking about me giving him a handjob
and he wasnt being pushy really
he kept saying that i dont have to and that its up to me
so i finally agreed to give him one next week
and he was really really happy and kept saying how much it meant to him that id make a sacrifice for his happiness
well i dont do these things
and now i feel really uncomfortable about it
but i feel like if i tell him i changed me mind he'll be dissapointed in me
and i feel like i cant talk to my friends because theyre just going to say dont do it if he cares about you he'll understand
and he wont make me do anything he'll just be sooo dissapointed
he always does things for me
not physically, but to make sure im okay
i dont know what to do
please dont tell me that im not ready if im having second thoughts
i just
i need help
i think if i knew how to give one properly i wouldnt be as nervous
he offered to teach me (is that lame)
i researched some things online
but everything looks so complicated lol
any help would be appreciated!
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don't worry! its not complicated at all your thinking about it to much when your actually in the position where your doing it, it comes naturally but as for your guy offering to show you, thats not lame he just want to show you what he likes, if you think your ready and you love and trust this guy then go with your instinct on if you should do it or not.
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I was affraid too! No need 2 worry. I was so nervous he(my boyfriend) actually helped me out...but the important thing while doin it you have 2 focus on lyk 2inches under the penis head.. An especially underneath the penis it has this nerve under it an make sure you put your 4 fingers under there an grasp it firmly an jus do it... hope I helped. Gudluk it'll be fun tho!
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to be honest. i was in your shoes like a month ago with my boyfriend. and to be honest, i had second thoughts too BUT once you do it, you do it. obviously you're going to think youre not ready and all that. but at one moment, take a breath in an just go for it. he's probably nervous like you. everything takes time to do. like kissing, you dont try and rush into it especially if you like the guy, but finally you just do it. and it could be great and it could be bad. but at whatever point, you'll have to just breath in and do it. well you dont have to, when your ready you will =]
and my best tip for it is when you actually do it, dont think too much, and when moving your hand pull away from his body you know like ringing a wet towel or whatever. remember to be firm but not hurting him hahaha but the rest you'll learn on your own. promise =]] hope i helped!
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ive never done that 2 but heres wah i think...:]
keep in mind your in control here so if you dnt want 2 say not right now at this moment or tell him your not sure how to he cant tell or like you said show you how he likes it done...its not lame no girls born knowing how its something you do till you i guess know how....lol...but yeah and if thats wah is making you think twice then get past it and do it and let him know your kinda scared he sounds nice so hell understand so take ay sugestions he gives you...:]
and good luck (ps,be gentle...lol)
14 girl xuya....
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It's not lame if he tells you what he likes, and quite honestly no matter what you read you'll probably forget it anyway. It's another one of those things in life that you just sort of 'get' at some point.
If you really, truly, do not want to, then don't. Your boyfriend sounds like a really nice guy who'd understand, but he'd be justified in being disappointed if you said you didn't want to anymore. But if what's mostly holding you back is that you've never done it before, try to get past that. He knows that you haven't done it before and he'll know that you're a bit nervous. So only do it if you're ready.
Good luck =]
-LM
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