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how to tell my mom I want birth control
My mom asked me a few weeks ago if I was having sex and wanted to go on birth control because of it. It all came up because I wanted birth control for my period (but also because I was having sex) and I asked her about it. I was afraid to tell her then because my mom is Christian and very against premarital sex but now it seems like she just wants to keep me safe and doesn't care if I have had sex (I was in a relationship for a year and she probably thought I had done it) Now I want to tell her that I have done it and I want birth control but I made both my parents lose alot of trust in me recently because they caught me drinking. I don't know if I should wait to tell her when I've gained more trust back or to just tell her now because who knows when I could end up in a relationship and it could lead to doing things. I really want to start on birth control soon because it's summer and I know I might end up doing something. I already know the risks of birth control and know I should still use condoms, so there's no need to worry about that. I just need to know whether to ask now or wait. I'm 16/f btw.
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If she's already asked you if you want to be on it, and assumes that you've had sex, I think you'd be fine asking her directly.
Wait until their anger over you drinking has blown over, and then say something like, "Hey Mom, I think I'm ready to be put on birth control." Honesty is the best policy. If you start with "I want to regulate my period" as your reason, and she agrees, there's no need to say "Oh and also because I'm sexually active". But if she' ASKS you specifically if that's one of your reasons, it's better to be truthful than to lie and have her find out later [whether you let it slip or if you end up pregnant].
Good luck!
-LM
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Well...you've got two options
1.(if you don't want to get into trouble)
sure..i guess lie and tell her that you haven't been having sex and that your period is just really bad.
2.(if you really just care about your relationship with your mom)
Tell her the truth..The truth being told now rather than getting caught about it later..is A LOT better..
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imagines if she caught you having sex or u got pregnant or w.e :P i'm thinkin she would get 10 times more pissed about you lying to her as well..
SIGH* but it's gunna be hard to tell her the truth but just put in the fact that you really feel trusted by this boy and that you trust your mom and thats why your telling her this..And maybe say that your strong with actions
GOOD LUCK
-serenity
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Although your mother is very against premarital sex, I think you owe it to her to be honest with her. You say that it seems like she only wants to keep you safe at this point. I think you should just ask now because waiting could mean many things.
Daughter-Parent relationships need to be based on trust, and when you step up and be honest and ask your mother for birth control, that will, obviously upset her a little, since you didn't tell her before, but it will also show some maturity. If she asks why you didn't tell her a few weeks ago, just BE HONEST. There's nothing worse than lying to your parents. If you're honest with your parents, they tend to show you more respect.
--Jack
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