I may be 15..but no one said that a 15 can't give wise ass advices :)
I believe that every person in this world..should be a leader of them self. They should not follow a path but make a new trail of their own to leave behind.
soooo..
the names serena i go by serenity. I guess i LOVE helping people out especially based on complications on love and friendships and family stuff...i can relate by far on those topics..as well as everyone else in this world can too i'm sure :D
I'm not your typical 15..year old.. i would probably be a freshman but i'm a junior right now :D and it's going to be helllllll
But excluding that fact..i'm not your typical girl because i think everything through a million times.. (it could be a bad thing who knows) I don't believe in the statement in which people try to act soo strong by saying oh you know people can lean on me and i can support them but no one can make me fall...well ahem* stupid person...if you can't fall then how the heck do you stand back up? in other words if you never fall then how do you become stronger??
People need to learn how to fix there own flaws before fixing everyone else's...
Mathew 7:1-5
read that bible verse. It's good.
i'm very social sadly i'm not afraid to speak my mind...sometimes not speaking your mind out causes half the drama in your life..and yet of course speaking too much of your mind...causes drama too.
ask me a question. i'll give you an advice thats probably not your normal advice..you'll see why if you just ask away ;)
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you knw what ill just type this as fast as i can i dont care about spelling errors bcuz i am sooo mad.
i am sick of my life
frst of all because of my sister
one sister is the problem child in the family and my parents dont know that she [lots of times] blackmails me
and ive had it
im usually the nice girl
and im DONE
my sister [olderrrr] she puts on a fake pesonality with other ppl but with me shes suck a bi*ch.. im so mad i dont even know what im typing
i forgot everything i wanted to say
my life sucks
im ONLY 14
BUT WQHY does this happen to me
i need a punching bag
where can i get one
i just cant wait for school because thats the only place i can hopefully find happinessi
im so pissed off my life sucks
this is not how a teenge lifeshud be like
whatsss w (link)
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HAHAHAH I FEEL YOU!! I COMPLETLY UNDERSTAND! :)
well..other than i'm the older sister and she's younger...
ahem* i'm 16 and she's 6...10 YEARS APART... woooo...
it's tough...just be glad your sister doesn't constantly poke you boob during church cause she finds it hillar... :P
Hmmm you know...it's best to not take revenge.(i'm not saying that you were planning to.) but thats the difference between you and your older sister...your true to your words and you have the bright and great personality when meanwhile your sister has to ACT out that great personality.
SOME DAY...someone else will see this different side of your sister...be granted her husband will. But when you think about it...your a younger sister...you should always support her...
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My vagina has a foul odor...it has been this way for a few years now. I've been to the doctor, however, each time I go, I scrub and scrub before going so that I dont disturb the doctor, therefore, she says she does not detect a smell. The smell always comes back within a half an hour though no matter what I do. I do not have any infections and shower on a daily basis. The doctor said I may be cleaning too much and my PH balance may be off, however, I've tried everything she says to do and it does not work. I know every girl has her own scent but this is very disturbing and is truly a foul bad odor. Any suggestions? (link)
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haha~
well if it's like something that you can smell just while sitting or walking around..i'd say that you should get a doctor to really inspect things.
But i also take a shower daily and i simply just clean with some soap (irish spring) and it helps.. irish spring might be really good for you because it has a strong odor of goodness so that might help. Dont scrub~~ that might leave scratches honestly use a cloth that would help.
GOOD LUCK
-serenity
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i love curling my hair with a curling iron. but everytime i do it, the curls only stay in for 2 hours or less.. i put hair spary in (loads of it) but it doesnt work. anyone know any kinds of hairspary or something? (link)
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OK legit i used to LOVE curling my hair to.
i have two tips to offer
1.Spray only while your hair is still placed in the curling iron..So in other words while your still curling your hair spray only a little sprtiz..TOO much will cause your hair to dampen and look..non volumized:P
2.At cvs i bought these soft plushie curlers that you can sleep in. i got two sets.One is soft waves/curlers.. i use these on the top of my hair. And then normal soft plushie curlers i mix around with the soft wave curlers in order to make my hair look even (warning after you put in the curlers you will look stupid and gay and not your best :P)
So you should apply the curlers with your hair split in half evenly.
Then after don't freak if you hair is wicked curly .
Put some hair from your left side of your head more onto your right and then go to the sink and put water with moose and apply that in you hair (not a lot of water) And just kinda pull your hair down and it will soften the curls and waves.. Wait 5 mins or 7 and your hair will look longer because the curls have softened..If you want them to still look less curly then repeat the whole sink process.
Now place the curling iron under the TOP part of your hair (your not curling you hair) But then leave the curling iron under your top part of the hair for a bit and then remove and you hair will look like the curls come from legit the roots of you hair then do the same to the other side of you head.
HOPE THIS HELPED
whew that was long :P
-serenity
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My mom asked me a few weeks ago if I was having sex and wanted to go on birth control because of it. It all came up because I wanted birth control for my period (but also because I was having sex) and I asked her about it. I was afraid to tell her then because my mom is Christian and very against premarital sex but now it seems like she just wants to keep me safe and doesn't care if I have had sex (I was in a relationship for a year and she probably thought I had done it) Now I want to tell her that I have done it and I want birth control but I made both my parents lose alot of trust in me recently because they caught me drinking. I don't know if I should wait to tell her when I've gained more trust back or to just tell her now because who knows when I could end up in a relationship and it could lead to doing things. I really want to start on birth control soon because it's summer and I know I might end up doing something. I already know the risks of birth control and know I should still use condoms, so there's no need to worry about that. I just need to know whether to ask now or wait. I'm 16/f btw. (link)
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Well...you've got two options
1.(if you don't want to get into trouble)
sure..i guess lie and tell her that you haven't been having sex and that your period is just really bad.
2.(if you really just care about your relationship with your mom)
Tell her the truth..The truth being told now rather than getting caught about it later..is A LOT better..
like
imagines if she caught you having sex or u got pregnant or w.e :P i'm thinkin she would get 10 times more pissed about you lying to her as well..
SIGH* but it's gunna be hard to tell her the truth but just put in the fact that you really feel trusted by this boy and that you trust your mom and thats why your telling her this..And maybe say that your strong with actions
GOOD LUCK
-serenity
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I really want a Boyfriend, but I have a problemo talkin to them! I like have no effin clue wat to talk about I just feel really awkward when talking to them! I can talk to them fine when i'm with like one other friend with me! i need to know how to talk to them beacuse I am really boy crazy! hahahaha HELP! (link)
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Uhm well if it helps for your friend to be there..Then just for a while have her by your side until you get into the comfortable mode..it may take a while..but i'm sure it'll happen..hopefully?
Well truthfully i saw you question and i was interested in answering because i thought OHH i'm good with talking to boys!
So let me tell you a little secret...I guess one big way of talking to a guy through flirting :P
No really~
Approach a guy or if he's near you is a lot better. But just say ohh did u see that celtcis game they won the championship or the red sox..etc what ever sport and just entwine your self into a deeper convo.
Don't plan your convo...Because 1. You get too excited and you think about how great this convo is going to be with this boy..then once you have the convo it might not have filled your expectations so you'll be upset.
2. it's sometimes easier when you just see something happen while your near a guy and go free style from there and just let the words come out from what ever your thinkin about in your noggin.
Like i know that usually when i'm with my guy friends something funny happens and i just say like..."...wow.." And they start a convo themself :P
Ask questions it HELPS!
Like. oh your hair it's shorter? and they would maybe say no i didn't get a hair cut..and just kinda like blush and say ohh sorry i thought you did..well hmm something does look different...about you. and maybe he'll say Well i did get a bit tan from vaca or maybe he'll say huh i don't why.. then u just improvise from there
LOOK CUTE/GOOD
it def helps!!
Put some curlers into your hair
put a little make up on
New clothes
Shows your body curves
ETC!
i Hope this helped :( i don't think it really did..
But i tried my best..( i'm a girl so it's a little harder for me to come from a boys perspective :)
-Serenity
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I think I have a problem with wanting attention. I texted this guy that I work with earlier last night and he knew that I was going to a party. And I did…but last night I had this dream where I was at the same party and I was closing my car door and the sharp part made a huge gash in my arm…and I didn’t notice it and went back inside and kept drinking. And then someone noticed it and made a big deal out of it and I was like “I didn’t even know that happened…” But then I was thinking…huh…I wonder what (the guy I work with) would say if I came into work and had that gash on my arm. I’m supposed to work with him today.
So without thinking about it I just took a razor blade and made a giant gash on my arm. I think I lack impulse control. Haha. But I think I have a problem with lying too. Cuz if he did say something I was literally planning on saying “I didn’t even know it happened” Like…I planned that out in the matter of seconds it took me to pick up the blade and cut my arm. I tend to do that a lot. Not cut my arm, but lie to get attention. And I don’t like preplan it. It’ll just happen in the middle of a conversation. But sometimes…when I don’t think before I say something…I end up saying something completely absurd. Like…not like it could never happen absurd…the stuff I say is completely believable…but like I’m thinking at the end of the conversation “I just BS’d my entire way through that conversation.” And it gets to the point that I have to filter myself when I’m telling the truth to certain people so that I don’t get caught in other lies.
How do I stop myself from lying on an impulse?
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Well i'm glad to hear that you don't preplan cutting yourself and such :P
Because that would be serious and bad.
So..my idea for you to stop lying on an impulse is to..before you say anything to a person always THINK about what you going to say.. Like take a min. and just re arrange your thoughts..then talk. I'm sure you would be able to do it :)
Uhm but..also think about your actions before you do them..I mean...don't you see yourself holding a blade in your arm and do you think "oh ...crap...i'm about to cut myself...well here goes!"
If you do try to once again slow down and think..."oh..crap what the heck am i doing..." and then place the dangerous object down :P
I hope this helped
-Serena
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my situation is difficult im fifteen
and sometimes i feel im treated unfair
i suffer with bad anxiety causing me to drop out of school
and go to a hospital school
ive suddenly made friends with a girl my family used to like she shoplift. lied . backstabbed but she was my best friend and i made friends with her again
i feel like my social life is bieng ruined because of my nerves
and i feel like everydays just the same tbh pleas e help! (link)
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well i'm not sure at all if you will be able to take this...but anxiety or no anxiety your a person just like everyone else honey. You have a nose a ear and brain a mouth etc just like me and a million other people in this country.
So i guess the point in which i'm trying to get across is that anxiety should be no reason to drop out of school. I've been through A LOT of shit my self.
My mother died last september...i'm 15 too i'm a junior and i'm still in school..I'm still trying to live up to the fullest. It's about being head on strong..People say i'm not strong..WELL THEN GET STRONG! :D
Being friends with a backstabber is allowed... i mean good for you maybe you can show her the RIGHT direction of being an honest friend. :P
I don't know if you believe in God or not. But my preacher always said that those who we think as our enemies or who are not our friends...is not the right to look at them..God never placed enemies on the earth.. That was our judgement in which we made our self. in other words a man made idea. So i'm glad that your friends with her again :D
I have a friend who hasn't been the best either but i don't just ditch her..that's almost in humane.
So stay strong! or GET strong~
Next time someone makes fun of you for having anxiety be like
Who are you to be telling me that i'm weak or yattah yattah yattah..i may have anxiety but beyond that i'm just like you.. i have to go through shit in my life too. And the fact that i have anxiety problems and can get through my life with people like you..and other drama that goes on in my life...ONly makes me stronger.
Say that to those who are being mean :P
GAH i hope i didn't like insult you :P
Cuz having anxiety is not a big deal.It's honestly your decision of how your going to make life day by day be great or bad..for you
GOOD LUCK!
i hope this helped
-serena
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13/f
well you see...this might be confusing...sorry if it is. so yea mii best friend likesz me, lets call him Ryan. and he asked me out. i said no cuz it was complicated...mii other best friend who was also his bestest friend ever liked me, lets call this guy dave. and i didnt really like any of them. (by the way, just to clarify, im not transsexual or anything, im straight, the two are boiis who like me, and im a girl.)so yea, ryan asked me out. i said no and he was being so annoying. i guess i was too nice about it and stuff so he still thought he had a chance. he knew dave liked me too, but they were really good friends, so they wouldnt let a girl ruin their friendship. then ryan realized he wasnt going to get me, so he gave uo being really annoying and apologized on aim to me. so yes, i didn like dave before but now i like him. and so i told ryan dat, because he was my best friend and all, even when i knew he still liked me. damn i was being so stupid! he probably got mad cuz he all of a sudden yelled at me...i could tell...because he hardly uses exclamation points unless hes excited or hes mad in messages. i am really confused and i feel so stupid for telling ryan dat. wat should i do? (link)
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well..lets think through this :)
ok so..dave liked you but you didn't like him back at first. BUT NOW you do.
Honestly..i feel as if it just wouldn't really work out with either boys period..As tough as that sounds/seems it's kinda true
Because..i mean these two boys are best friends and even though they say oh you know were not gunna let you get between our friendship...well Ryan kinda proved that statement wrong because he got made at you and it's because you NOW like Dave... and meanwhile Ryan like you. get it:P
And honestly don't feel stupid for telling Ryan that..HONEY HE'S YOUR BEST FRIEND RIGHT? And he KNOWS that he pretty much doesn't have a chance with you so that ryan kid better shape up and start acting like that best friend that he is.
Now dave..having a relationship with this kid might be risky..Because you didn't like him before..so there is that small gap between you and him already. But now you do like him..So theres something about him that obviously doesn't fully turn you on like you think he does.I know this because..well you had that moment where you knew he liked you but you didn't like him.
But heck go for Dave if you really want. But it's not all about you..and i'm telling you that right now if you go after Dave i don't think things are going to turn any better than they would..if you DIDN'T go out with Dave.
Good Luck :D
And remember it's your decision. Never use our advices or suggestion to MAKE the decision for you. Because NO ONE knows you better than yourself.
Were just here to help :D
SO BEST OF LUCK;)
-Serenity
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17/f
Oh dear. That sums it up. I`m starting to like a guy, I`ve only ever talked to him once. He`s not living here right now but he moves back in two months. I`ve learned a lot about him from the newspaper, facebook, and my friends. I feel like I am learning as much as possible to get an idea what he`s really like. My friends have commented that I`m obsessed. Sometimes I do talk about him a lot - hey, I`m excited to see how this works out. Really, what does it take to be labelled as 'obsessed' and really, how bad is it anyways? Thanks!
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you said it yourself hun. your just REALLY REALLY excited to see this boy. :D
Like heres another example..
Your getting ready for a dance.. and it starts at 7:30 you start getting ready at 3. Are you obsessed with the dance?? NOOOO your just really excited, so your getting pre gamed for it :D
in other words you just getting ready for this to boy to arrive. and honestly your sort of being smart about getting to know him more. Yet for now lay off of trying to know what he's like through facebook and such. It's A LOT better and more interesting when you go on dates with the kid and learn how he is from there :D
BEST OF LUCK
-serenity
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okay ssooo i have a boyfriend, but i just would really like more from his side and i feel like im pulling all the wieght forward. i know that he likes me a lot, but he has a problem showing it and i just need to know how to talk to him about it. thanks (link)
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so..let me guess this fact straight..you know he likes you a lot.....yet.... he doesn't show it enough...
Honey..lets remember..it's a man. ALL men have different ways of truly showing there affection..some show it by..sadly violence and others jealousy or just talking sweetly to there lady etc. Your man def has a different form of showing how much he cares..But also think about this..if he didn't care..would he still be with you? Would he call you and kiss you and hug you..i mean he does kiss you and hug you right? If he does then BOOM thats another way of showing that he cares :)
maybe..your pulling the weight TOO much.. and it's not balanced.. Relax..try to not worry about how he should show more care for you..instead try to look through the ways of which he ALREADY has shown that he cares for you and STILL does.
I bet girl.. it's really hard to stay relaxed and just observing him without really talking to him :P but you gotta take chances.
After taking a couple notes down on how he possibly shows that he DOES care. Talk to him after. Just tell him that you care.Then tell him how you sadly worrying that it's not that same case with him. and if because you already know that he likes you a lot then he should be surprised and should deny the fact of him not caring right away :D
GOOD LUCK
and remember never use these advices or suggestions to actually make you decision for you..No one knows you any better other than yourself. So only use these advices and suggestion to help you make the right decision for you :D
were only here to help
Best of luck
-serenity
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i mean me n my gf love eachother, n her friend whos a guy lovesmy gf too but my gf told him there only frds but hes still loves her anyways n were fighting for her love. she loves me , n hes starting to fall for me too n now i feel like im in a love triangle and i dont know whut to adivice him or myself or figure out who loves who when she says she loves me n she only sees him as a frd n he loves her n hes falling for me too n i dont love him just her (link)
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dude..so this guy is bisexual? there nothing wrong with being bisexual..but...consider this as a challenge..hunny you LOVE this woman don't you? In the factor of Love comes the factor of trust along with it..
You trust her..you know you do. Don't let this little challenge disturb your relationship with the woman you love!
Trust me..this is a small situation that your dealing with..Lets just thank the lord that you and you lady aren't fighting! and that it's just this man whose making everything chaotic..
And also i'm 99.9% positive that this woman would not bother wasting her time with a person that she doesn't love and would think of an excuse to run off with that man who loves her..so she does love you..and you just gotta trust her.. She only likes you because if she didn't ...then why would she still be wasting her time with you? :P
know what i mean?
She already did choose you! She's still with you as of today isn't she? you've already asked her if she liked him right?
FIGHTING FOR HER? LIKE I SAID YOU ALREADY HAVE HER! :p
you both need to work together.. tell this man how happy you both are with e.o and how if anything he should not waste he's time no longer and should leave both of your love lives alone..
SIGH*
good luck!!
And remember let this advice/suggestion only HELP you..Never choose a decision because someone said to. No one knows you best on this website but you.. Were here to only help..
Best of luck!
Sincerely
-Serenity
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ive had the boyfriend im going out with now for about 4 months and i realllly like him but its hard to see him because my family doesnt know about him and if they did find out about him they wouldnt like it because he is 18 and im younger. but when i do see him im always soo happy. and he aways makes me happy and hes really amazing. but hes going away to college about a couple hours away and hes still gonna come up here and i told him were still gonna stay together but i really dont know how thats gonna work. and right now im kinda cheating on him but i havent done anything and he doesnt know and i feel sooo quilty about it and he told me the only way he will ever break up with me is if i lie to him or cheat on him and yeah.
so there is this other guy but we dont live in the same state. he really likes me and i like him too. but i also like my boyfriend. i know this is horrible of me. but yeah. we see eachother on webcam and we talk on the phone for hours. and hes really cute and nice and stuff. and he tours alot so hes gonna come see me soon. and he doesnt know i have a boyfriend and hes been wanting to ask me out. but i told him lets wait. because if i did go out with him while id have my boyfriend id feel 849354x more quilty.
i really dont know what to do. i know it is probably better to stay with my boyfriend now but i honestly dont thnik we are going to last much longer. because he is going to college and college life is totally differnt, but hes not into partying so i dont htink he would do anything. but i really like the other guy too.
i just need some help on what to do or think.
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Honey...if this 18 yr old man..was truly making you so happy...then how can you be thinking about being happy with the other kid from the other state as well?
Trust me..if your with a man that you think your really happy with and in love with..but your also thinking of other men as well...then usually things aren't going to end out so well either way.
if you have a doubt in mind right now..it's better for things to end sooner than later.. it's a lot easier that way. Less painful, i mean the pain would be over faster.
It's REALLY hard to do..i agree to break up with a boy. but it's worth breaking up with a boy than damaging your own heart and turning into a complete wreck.
Good luck...Think wisely..
Only use these advices/suggestions to HELP you never use them to force you to make your own decision..it's your future..no matter what anyone says you know yourself best...
were just here to help :)
GOOD LUCK!
sincerely
-serenity.
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