There's all these things saying that everyone has a best friend and what not but I've never felt that comfort in my life, ever. I've had friends.. but I never was close with them enough that I'd truly be able to call them best friends, you know? I was very close with 3 or 4 people in 4th grade but so far that's the high in my lifetime friendships and I'm 17 now. It seems like most people I consider "friends" are just "school friends". So I don't feel like I can depend on people, cause they will let you down. All those fun friend experiences I've rarely had. I haven't been invited to a birthday party in years, I've never been invited to a sleepover, I haven't hung out at a friend's house in more than a year, etc. I don't know what I'm doing wrong but then it just hurts to go on sites like Facebook where everyone seems to be having so much fun with their friends. I mean I don't seek popularity or anything but I'd just like at least 1or 2 friends where I could feel totally comfortable with them and we'd totally gel and could hang out and almost be like sisters. But for now those sorts of relationships seem like a dream.. and its just very frusterating. Like what am I doing wrong? Even people I'd consider mean have a lot more friends than I do. With a lot of people I feel like they have ulterior motives.. like maybe they're embarassed by me or something.. I just pick up on when people are genuine to me or not. It's just hard to be a confident person when I don't even have anyone to text everyday and share problems with, you know and help each other. My sister and I are too different.. we've always been that way. It just makes me feel alone. Does it get better at college? I feel like I'm socially awkward with certain things since i haven't really experienced it with friends.. and self conscious over a few things too without friends to reassure me. like its always my fear in school when we have to partner up or do group work cause often I dont have a partner. its even harder in my new school (I moved here last year) and I feel even more alone and even though I prefer working by myself when everyone else is talking and laughing and I'm by myself working.. it just makes me feel sad and I don't like it. ughhh what is wrong with me. im a caring friend and what not.. maybe its because I'm not really a mainstream sort of person? I don't knowwwwwww how to fix this
Don't stress out about it. I went through the same thing. There are a few things you can do. First, recenter your life so you can draw more happiness from yourself. Find a hobby or sport you really enjoy or set a huge goal and work towards it. You won't even have time for friends and you might meet people who like the same things as you. Second, spend time with your parents. Gross, right? But when you really need them, they can be the best friends in the world. Lastly, though this will be extremely hard at first, put yourself out there. Say hi to people. Sign up for things. Don't try too hard, but go out of your way to compliment someone or help someone out. A little kindness goes a long way and the person won't forget it. Everyone can find people they are compatible with. It just takes a lot of patience sometimes. What you give is what you get, so try to be more outgoing, but don't change yourself. Recognize that friends won't come instantly and build the relationships slowly. I hope it all works out
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okay i dont mean to sound stuckup but seriously i attract strange people fast.
ok so my exs have been the rejects of the school ; druggos, try hards, and just plain jerks. im known as the bubbly innocent girl who gets on with everyone . but i just dont understand why im attracting such horrible guys
15/f
They might think that you are easy. Do you make yourself seem easy? Are you easy? If not, maybe you attract other guys, you just 1. go out with the wrong type of guys, making normal ones feel weird about asking you out or 2. are intimidating to sweet guys who really like you. Either way, it isn't your fault.
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I use to have a bestfriend we got really close cause of soccer and we have been unseperable since. Well My senior year i met this guy (which is my boyfriend now) he was already in a relationship with someone while we started talking, we both liked each other but he couldnt breakup with his girlfriend. My Best friend thought it was a bad idea and on soccer tournaments her and one of my other good friends would say rude things while i was on the phone with him, and they would constantly talk about him rude to me. We eventually got together and of course we went to lunch everyday together and my best friend didnt like that. As our relationship grew i would hardly talk to my friends about him or be around them as much, well during these 4 and a 1/2 months we've broken up 4 or 5xs and the 4th time i went to my friends for comfort but they hardly said or did anything to make me feel better.. I cried alot well he asked me for another chance and of course i said yes because i really do love him. I didnt tell my friends we got back together, the next day at school we were together and my best friend saw us and she yelled that i was stupid we got into a huggee argument and she said i only talk to them when we break up and he treats me like crap and he cheats on me etc, i was tired of hearing it so we both decided to not be friends anymore, later on i found out my "bestfriend" was talking to my boyfriends ex-which i dont like cause we fought. I havent tlked to my"bestfriend" since its been a few months if that. I neeedd adviceeee! Was she even really a friend? Did i just over react??
I think truthfully that you are in the wrong. It seems like you do only talk to your friends when you need them, not when they need you. Its a two way street and you can't leave your friends for your boyfriend and come back when he dumps you.
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Plain and simple question: HOW DO I GET A FLAT STOMACH FAST?!?!?! i'm 13 years old 5'3 and weigh 146lbs. I'm not FAT but my stomach hangs about 1/2 inch over my hips. I hate it! I eat fairly well and axercise and dance all the time! i have a membership to the gym and do crunches but it doesn't burn! I won't do unhealthy crap like starve myself or whatever but i NEED to get a flat stomach!!! it makes me angry and upset and sometimes i just want to die (but i won't kill myself or anything) I just don't like my stomach! AHHH Please help me! anything that WORKS FOR SURE! within like a week or LESS. i know it doesn't happen over night but somebody has to have an idea on how to?! thanks for the advice i appreciate it :) -Becca
Truthfully, you are not at a healthy weight. You need to exercise more or eat less bad foods. The same amount of food, just better for you.
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I really need ideas for Youtube videos and tutorials!! help me!
What are you good at? You can literally make a tutorial for anything you know how to do. Teach people how to do a cartwheel, make a website, brush their teeth. Show of your skills or funniest moments with friends and family (make sure to ask them first)
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Well i got myself an a class loser who has wrecked my car stoled money from me lived off my disability check broke my finger threatens to burn my house down shoot me destroy my property hurt my family and what few friends i have left he has been in prison for most of his life and of course he was never guilty ha ha. the police wont help until he hurts me, my house and belongings are up for grabs unless they catch him in the act of destroying them, believe me i have known him for 9 yrs and he just dont give a damn, oh yea im in a wheelchair so running is kinda out of the picture. by the way i have 2 teens at home that adore the hell out of him, they have no clue. so let me hear something good guys please.
File for a restraining order. Then, find a family member who is willing to take you in and help you move and get the hell out of wherever you are. Tell your teens the story and explain the situation. Avoid him as much as possible.
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i have a photography competition i want to go in. mum says i should distract my self over the holidays with something like that. but i dont know how to take exelent shots and stuff. mum said what i do now is fine but im not sure. i have tought myself ive never ever been taught ive taught myself from the start in how to use one. any help of how to take good pictures of sunsets, portraits, farming and flowers?? i was just wondering if anyone had any advise.
this website helped me so much, just browse it
www.digital-photography-school.com
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I want to make a new YouTube video but I don't know what to do it about. Lots of people on YouTube just sit and talk about things so I thought maybe I should think of a good topic to talk about, right? I'm having problems coming up with something GOOD though! I mean, I don't want to talk about it for .2 seconds. haha
Does anyone have any good topics to talk about on YouTube? :)
What kind of video do you want? Funny, serious, crazy, informative, exciting, amazing?
Talk about what you are interested in. If you have nothing, try talking about something you saw on the news ('did you hear about that? in my opinion...)
add what kind of video you are aiming for if you want more in-depth answers
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I'm tired of having it. I'm starting to think it's a mental thing. If I think too hard about it, it gets worse. I don't know. I've tried tons of different soaps and face washes and moisturizes. I've tried sticking to a certain routine. I eat healthy and drink plenty of water. I try to get enough sleep. My mom acts like it's no big deal. All she says is 'you'll grow out of it.' I'm tired of waiting. Sometimes I just stay home instead of going out because my face is too bad. I CAN NOT go to the doctor. My mom thinks that is stupid. I've tried proactiv and all though high name things. I don't know what else to do.
Your mother is clearly uninformed about the dangers of acne, how it can perminantly scar you, both physically and emotionally. I would ask her to go on www.acnemonth.com and show her that acne is a bigger deal than she thinks it is and it also follows some through adult hood. As for what you can do now, eating does not affect acne. Limit touching your face, use sunscreen (neutrogena usually is the least oily), use make-up that says non-comedogenic only (wont clog pores), and wash your face with a washcloth no more that twice a day, followed by moisturizing to keep dry skin away. good luck and if you have any more questions feel free to ask
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most of the photos have this 'misty' and not completely clear and sharp effect... please tell me what photo editing program i should use to get this misty and not completely clear or sharp effect.
i have photoshop cs2 and i use picnik sometimes..
http://bulletins.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=bulletin.read&authorID=137889000&messageID=6466721248
You can try the soften effect on picnik and adjust it so it isnt too blurry but not clear and sharp either
edit-also ortonish on picnik or maybe if your photoshop has a de-noise type thing
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Okay, so in GarageBand, whenever I record, it has a beat. When I am talking or singing, it's SUPERBLY annoying, so much so that I want to hurt the program because NOTHING THAT I DO makes the beat stop going! Can anyone tell me how to turn off the beat? Thanks!
Its the metronome you can turn it off under control just click metronome and the check goes away. it annoyed me for a while too before i figured it out
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15/f
this is a VERY long story, but im gonna try to lay this out as short as possible and please, im desperate here, you have NO clue what i've been through these past few months, and i need all the help i can get..
last year i met a REALLY sensative guy. he was 16, about to be 17, and i was 14.. he was soooo shy, hes VERY insecure. when we first started dating, all he said to me was how i saved him and pulled him out of his misery because he has had no luck with relationships and was treated like shit by girls his whole life. hes not even that cute and popular, and i have a waaay higher social status in my grade/ school then he does in his grade.. but ive been known to have wierd taste and i can look beyond looks and things like that very easily. i think when we first started dating him i was just excited over the fact that he had a car and he was a junior and i was only a freshmen.. but i actually did end up falling in love with him. and he was COMPLETELY in love with me. we lost our virginities to eachother and ill tell you, im smart, and not at all a bit naiive.. i knew this kid loved me. & we did NOT have a sex based relationship whatsoever.. we became eachothers best friends. both of us lost all of our other friends because we were only with eachother 24-7. he called my mom 'mom' and i did the same with his mom.. we were incredibly close.. and sense he was older, i felt so comftorbal and secure with him, and i went to him with all my problems, and he would help me.. ive been suffering from depression for years and me and my mother never had a good relationship, and my father left me, and i was molested as a baby.. but when i was with him, he made me feel so comftorbal. we told eachother EVERYTHING. and i was postive he was there to stay. he promised me forever every single day. we dated for a year. i messed it up, biggest mistake of my entire life.. he started getting very annoying and up my ass. you know when youre in a bad mood and you just want to be left alone? well he would never leave me alone. he'd be like 'its okay babe i love you' bla bla. all mushy, when i just want to be mad!. i tried talking to him about this many times and all he could say was im sorry i just love you soooo much i cant help it.. all my friends called him whipped cream and everything.. it was BAD. but anyways, one night i was out with my friends the day before a cheer competition, and my ex was there.. and somewhere along the lines, we kissed.. my boyfriends friend was there and told him that if i didnt tell him, he was going to.. i knew he wasnt going to break up with me or anything.. so i told him.. but the thing is.. i think i was looking for a fight with him because our relationship was so boring. when i told him, it pissed me off how he was crying instead of being mad, yelling at me. so i started saying things to make him mad.. i said TERRIBLE things. like i was gonna keep cheating on him because he basically lets me, and how i know i take advantage of him because he trusts me so much but i shouldnt.. and he was like well maybe i have to break up with you then.. and he was like i really dont want to. and i was like fine just do it idont care! yelling at him and stuff.. and then he did. i was thinking we would get back together in a couple weeks.. so after we broke up, we still talked because we obv. still loved eachother and everything. we acted like we were going out, and we even 'hooked up' a few times.. but when he asked me back out, i kept saying no, i wasnt ready.. because the relationship was SOOO akward after we broke up.. he was acting so different. and i knew why. it was because i broke his heart. and i did, bad. so one day after we hooked up, my friend told me that her brother saw my 'boyfriend, x-boyfriend, whatever u wanna call him' at a store.. and he was saying how he was done with me and he was trying to get with this new girl 'leesh'.. i was FURIOUS. i called him up screaming at him asking for all my stuff back and it was over for good and everything. but really, i wanted an appology from him, not my stuff back. btw, i was very remorsful for cheating on him and saying what i said to him, i mustve appologized a million times.. but he didnt say anything, he justgave me all my stuff back and acted like it was nothing.. and then i kept trying to get him back, but he kept rejecting me. i was litterally down on my knees for this kid. until one day i found out he had a girlfriend. not just some girl.. the girl who dates ALL the boys that i date after me.. but thats a whole nother story.. anyways, i was devistated. i couldnt eat, i couldnt talk, i couldnt sleep, i couldnt go to school,, nothing. all i did was cry and cry and cry and cry. i tried talking to him seeing if we could be friends and stuff, but he hates me now. if i send him one text, he shuts his phone off. he goes all different ways in the halls so i dont have to see him in school, he wont even look my way. he saw me practically drown in my own tears and he didnt even care. i wrote him long long letters, i tried everything i could just to be able to talk to him when i need to, so i wouldnt be so hurt about the situation.. now, i have two weeks left of school and im failing 4 classes.. and im an honors student. i DONT fail. its not me. and im grounded because of it, so i cant even go out and try to forget it. its been sense thhe end of february... and still,all i can think about is killing myself.. people say they are heart broken.. but this gives heart broken a new definition. there is litterally a hole in my chest. and i keep getting maaaassive anxiety attacks in class, and i do go to counceling wich is sort of helpful but we mostly talk about my parents.. three days ago, she broke up with him. and he was very upset from what i heard.. he hasnt tried talking to me or anything but i dont know what to do, i want to talk to him but he'll just ignore me.. i love this kid and care about him with my life. today i thought i was going to DIE. it was the last day of school for the seniors. the last time ill EVER see him again. the last time ill ever get to look for him i the halls so i can walk by him.. that was the only time i ever got to see him, and today was my last day. and when i walked by him for the very last time of my life today, he didnt even look at me. it was so painful. he couldnt even have the heart to say bye to me considering im his first love and helll never see me again. i havent been able to stop crying sense i last saw him. i dont even know what to do with my life any more. someone PLEEEEEASE tell me what to do to get him back. ANNYTHING. I AM DESPERATE FOR HELP. we had such a good relationship till i cheated and we Never ever had one fight. but you dont even understand. this kid wouldnt even look at any other girls, deleted all the girls in his phone book, couldnt go an hour without texting me just saying he loved me, couldnt go a day withouth seeing me, brought me flowers randomly, did EVERYTHING for me. how can you love someone so much and go through everything we've been through together, and then just completely shut them out of your life?
Honestly, you blew it. He will most likely never take you back because you were selfish and hurt him and, in turn, yourself. Try to move on.
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My feet smell sometimes. What should I do?
Switch socks often, take of shoes in the house, put baby powder in your shoes, buy shoe freshener things
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18/F
hey. i don't smoke, i eat my vegetables by my lips are always chappy, and i just can't that pinkish glow. it's like the lips of a smoker.. what do i do about this??? need help!
Chapstick and lipstick/lipgloss
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my husband (35) & i (34) have 2 sons. we talked about trying to get pregnant in the fall or early spring. well, i just found out that we're pregnant and it's a little earlier than we planned, but i'm ecstatic. well my husband is not so ecstatic. he asked me to consider POSTPONING the pregnancy; i'm outraged. i don't judge people who have abortions, but that's not even an option for me. we're both employed with good jobs & together we earn over $100,000 (i know that's not rich, but we do ok). he fears that our quality of life will change. we are at an impasse! HELP!
Its your baby, your body, your choice
If you feel you can take care of this baby and taking it's life goes against your values, keep it. your husband will learn to love the baby. and if hes mad, tell him he should have thought about that before you guys had unprotected fun.
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Well, my bf is 17 and i told him that since he's going to college and also becoming an adult, i was going to break up with him. Here's where it gets a little off: his best friend is already 18 and also going to college-the same one...
This is such a hard decision to make, when you like both people. Think about what you like about each person and think about who you like more. But the best way to break up with someone is to tell them exactly why you want to break up with them, not to make excuses. the other person will try to fix these problems and it will hurt more in the end. So both people are going to the same college? I think i would wait a while and make sure the feelings for your exs friend arent just a short-lived crush. and this sounds so cliche, but do what your heart tells you to do. In your mind you might not want to hurt your boyfriend or give up what you once had, but maybe in your heart you really like this other guy and want to be with him more. If you have any more questions feel free to ask.
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Right. So I have this guy friend who's basically only sexually attracted to me. I mean he's cool and all and we're friends but he'll talk about how he wants to have sex with me and stuff. I've told him I'm not dating people right now because I'm just taking a break to focus on the more important aspects of my life. He knows I won't date him but we're really close so he invited me to this date thing the football players are having. They're projecting a movie onto the side of our school or something and it's supposed to be really cool and all the football players are gonna be there... well he asked me and I kinda want to go because I like meeting new people and I've been a hermit lately because of all our end of school testing and my needing to study. So it'd be a break from that and I think it'd be fun. However, I'm afraid if I go there, two things could possibly happen;
1) I could be leading this guy on because he thinks it'll be a date
2) The other guys wont talk to me because the guy that i'm going with will probably brag about bringing me or something and tell them that I like him :/ which I don't... and I really just want to go to meet some new people...
So... do yo think I should go or not? I don't want to lead this guy on but I want to meet other guys :) thanks in advance!
I think you should go and have fun, but specify to your guy friend that you are just going as friends.
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but it's normal for married fathers to.. watch porn, right? i'm almost 15. i havent CAUGHT him, .. like confronted him, but ive seen it on his screen when he x's out of it (as i come into the room). its kind of obvious. but it's normal and okay, right?
I wouldnt worry about it but its normal for guys to do that, especailly if he and mom dont really have fun like they used to now that they have a child.
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ok...theres this boy in my class. his name is brandon. he is totally HOT. i went out with him once, but my best friend kept flirting with him and getting mad when i hung out with him. we stopped being friends for a while but it didn't last. anyway, brandon hated her to untill she was my friend again. then she started flirting with him again. it made me mad and brandon broke up with me. but get this, the next week he asked alicia out. she said yes. then she broke up with him. i really like him, but i think he still likes her. what do i do? should i ask him back out or get over him? how do i get over him? im so depressed! help me please!!!
He asked your best friend out? and she said yes? forget them both, neither of them are worth it. A jealous friend and bad boyfriend are not good things to have in your life. there are other, considerably hotter boys out there and definately better friends.
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is 115 a lot to weigh for a fifteen year old girl between 5'0-5'1 ?
I am the exact same weight and height and i have been told by my doctor and the wii fit it is normal. Your BMI is around 21, which is the thinner side of normal. You have nothing to worry about.
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