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I don't want it to be a date.....
Right. So I have this guy friend who's basically only sexually attracted to me. I mean he's cool and all and we're friends but he'll talk about how he wants to have sex with me and stuff. I've told him I'm not dating people right now because I'm just taking a break to focus on the more important aspects of my life. He knows I won't date him but we're really close so he invited me to this date thing the football players are having. They're projecting a movie onto the side of our school or something and it's supposed to be really cool and all the football players are gonna be there... well he asked me and I kinda want to go because I like meeting new people and I've been a hermit lately because of all our end of school testing and my needing to study. So it'd be a break from that and I think it'd be fun. However, I'm afraid if I go there, two things could possibly happen;
1) I could be leading this guy on because he thinks it'll be a date
2) The other guys wont talk to me because the guy that i'm going with will probably brag about bringing me or something and tell them that I like him :/ which I don't... and I really just want to go to meet some new people...
So... do yo think I should go or not? I don't want to lead this guy on but I want to meet other guys :) thanks in advance!
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Guys are stupid.
Not dumb, not slightly retarded, guys are absolutely effing STUPID when it comes to hoping after girls.
I'm a guy, and yes, when it comes to hoping after girls, I too am fucking stupid.
If you give us hope, we will chase it beyond the ends of the earth. Going to a "date" function will give him hope, even if it can't be said to be leading him on. You can be as clear as you want, and he'll tell himself you're lying to _yourself_ and that you're really interested.
I would be completely honest with him. Tell him that you want to go, but you don't want to go "with him" and would be wanting to meet new guys. Tell him that you don't want to make him uncomfortable, and if he'd prefer you won't go, but if he's OK with you going then you really could just show up.
I played football in high school. Any girl who felt like showing up was welcomed to our parties with open arms, especially if they had a genuine interest in meeting new people and were friendly and social butterfly-ish. If he isn't going to be a problem, you could just show up.
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Well, I definitely think you should go. That's what you WANT to do, right? Besides, there are football guys there.
Just sit down and talk to your friend that you're not interested in dating him, but make sure he gets that through his thick skull! Tell him that you will be attending the event as his friend, not date.
My advice to you, just talk to him about it and if he's a good guy, or more important, your friend, he'll understand.
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I think you should go and have fun, but specify to your guy friend that you are just going as friends.
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