I made this advice column to help kids and teens with their problems. I have personally had deal with siblings, friends, parents, school, and basically anything and everything else. I know what it feels like to be upset when life gives me crap. I assure you guys, the advice I give will not be like, "When life gives you lemons, make lemonade!" No. I don't believe in that bull. I'll give advice that will help guide you and maybe help you make the right choice. The advice I'll give would be realistic and straight forward. No nonsense. I remember hating it when adults told me to look on the positive side of things when I was upset, I mean, what the hell? It's so hard to look at some crappy situation positively. Like when my grandma died, how the hell am I supposed to look positively at that? Couldn't you guys just let me mourn and leave me alone? But a teacher who was just like am I now gave me some advice that actually helped. She told me some things that helped me cope with the loss. Unfortunately, I haven't seen her since grade five. Oh yeah, one more thing, I do not appreciate stupid questions because there ARE such things as stupid questions. So don't be asking for homework help or anything like that. kkthanx
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lately ive been feeling empty..useless and not good enough.
theres days when im like really happy and then just toally depressed
its mostly guy troubles i guess.
i havnt had a proper bf/gf relationship with a guy in ages everytime it gets near that stage with someone like something happens.
i was meeting up and hanging out with this one guy for a while and he seemed really nice at first then i found out after a while it was clear he was only interested in just sex and afterwards i found out he was a stoner.so i stopped texting and hanging out with him then i seen him with another really stunning girl and it bothered me although i know it shouldnt have.
then theres another guy that ive known for ages and reallyy like i kissed him once too and i thought it was gonna go somewhere cos he used to text me all the time but then all of a sudden he just stopped and got distant and it made me feel like crap.
I was on his bebo (like myspace) one day and there were so many comments from loadss of girls.
i hate feeling like a need a bf or guy to be happier but its just getting me down lately that i seem to attract all the wrong guys.
i keep asking myself whats wrong with me?
i just dont know what to do sometimes i just feel like im stuck in a rut and if i go out with my friends and we see couples and stuff i get jealous.
ive been trying to focus on other things in my life but it almost always finds someway to get me down.
has anyone any advice?..or has felt or does feel how i do right now?
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I know how it feels to be desperate for a boyfriend. I've been single so long... it's sad, really pathetic really. But then realized; I can have fun without a boy, I have fun and enjoy life without a guy. You can too. With the right attitude, you can feel happy and enjoy your life without a boyfriend.
You can find the right guy sooner or later, just be patient.
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hello, im 15 f, and im cuban.
my boyfriend is 18 black and mexican.
heres the thing, my parents just recently found out that me and him are dating, and they fliped out. they say im nasty for liking a black guy, and that im only putting myself down and that im too pretty and light skined for him and etc.. i really dont know what to do cause i like him alot and i dont want to loose him over something so dumb like his skin color. and he isnt even that dark! hes like chris brown dark. and he dresses very nice, and is a good kid. i have to talk to my parents today. how can i convince them to let me be with him? oh and my dad was saying things like what would people think? and how it looks bad for someone whos white to be with someone whos black. (link)
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That is the worst kind of situation. Tell your parents they're being racist. Just go and be head on about the situation. Tell it to their faces and say, "Why are you being racist? You don't like my boyfriend because he's black?" Your parents are probably concerned he's in a gang or something so tell them the truth, he's not. If your parents forbid you to see him, tell your boyfriend. Maybe he will confront them and tell them that they are behaving rudely. Your parents, like most, would probably try to deny that they dislike black people to save their faces, and they would give you some lame excuse. That's when you give your reasons to why he's a good guy. If you've had previous boyfriends, use them as examples to why they aren't being treated different and your boyfriend is. The key to this problem is to confront your parents.
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Latly my dad has been acting strange. My parents are fighting all the time. I just found out a few months ago that my dad has been marryed before my mom.I also found out that they got devorced because my dad cheated on her...and not with my mom. He has been "working" over time alot. He gets drunk alot too. I find condoms all over there room. I know they could have been from my mom but I really just have a strange feeling about it. I know for a fact that he still talks to his ex wife. I really dont like my dad. I have been wishing for years that they would get a divorce. But I dont want my dad to be cheating on my mom.What do you think is going on? (link)
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That's not for me to say... but from your conclusion, something fishy is going on. Maybe you should do some detective work and get to the bottom of it. It may be something totally different, or not. You can't judge before you know the facts.
What really confuses me if the fact that you don't like your own dad. That's just... wrong. I mean, he's your father. If he were a step-father I would understand. I can't seem to get the fact that you don't like him much. It's confusing, but I guess you can't choose family.
Ask your mom if they )(your mom and dad) have been having sex because you've seen condoms. I know it may be embarrassing but she's your mom, she has to answer, right? If it's not from her, then she'll know the truth about your dad and will get to the bottom of it by confronting him.
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I made a website using Weebly, but how can I get it popular? (link)
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You can try going on other sites and kind of advertise it. Go on a forum or another person's blog and give the link to your site.
Tell your friends about the website via email.
Mention your website in casual conversation.
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Hi. , I'm doing an article in our school magazine. I really need some battle of the sexes challenges! Can you please give me any ideas. The challenges are from physical, mental, psycological, and emotional (link)
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You can do a trivial challenge. Like 'How much do you know about guys/girls'. Ask the guys some questions concerning girls an ask the girls questions about guys. See how much each sex knows about the other one.
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my ex and i broke up a couple weeks ago. almost a month soon. but i want to be with him because i know we should be. his bday is coming up to, his 21st. he wants us to date other ppl and see where it leads us but i dont want to date anyone else because it doesnt seem right and he told me not to wait for him but i am. i guess i am just waiting because every other guy i see doesnt seem that great to be with. im picky! but i want him back and in a way win him over. i know it sounds dumb but i do. so any ideas? of maybe what i can do for his bday without being there or for him to keep showing him i am waiting for him and i care. he lives outta state but will be back next week and back in june for good. i already went down to where he lived and had dinner with him all dressed up and he loved it but still nothing was different. and i am willing to give him time because he does need it. (link)
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You can't get him back unless he WANTS to get back together. It's silly to try to win him over if he doesn't want to be won over. There are many other guys who are awesome and really nice, you should follow HIS advice and date other people. I'm sure you'll find someone who will love you guys will be happy together. Don't dwell in the past and move on with your life. Don't wait for him, cos if he doesn't want to be with you, it's probably not worth it.
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ok i have these to friends a and b there both guys there fighting over this 1 girl (c) and a)wants to fight b) a) drew this picture of himself and b) b was on the floor and a was up in the air with his fist up punching b then above a it said die he handed to 1 of his friends d and d showed me i took it from d and folded it up and put it in my pocket i then took it to the princeipl do u think that was a good idea (link)
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Whoa whoa whoa... that was hard for me to read. (I had to read it aloud to understand.)
I think it was an awesome idea, just get rid of that drawing and make sure B doesn't see it. It might hurt his feelings if he saw it and he might retaliate by doing something he might regret later on. Tell the guys to stop being so immature and foolish; throwing away their friendship for a girl. Let the girl decide who she wants (though she might not want either). Don't get involved unless it's totally necessary (as in them doing something they shouldn't be). You don't want them angry at you over some fight THEY had.
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Is it possible for a guy to cum from some sort of sexual stimulation, but not be mentally aroused/feeling what their penis is feeling?
I have been with my boyfriend of two years, and I ( a month or so ago) wanted to start experimenting in the handjob/ feeling each others' genitals department. Obviously I didn't want to do anything he didn't want to do. So I would ask him a lot if he was interested in that or whatnot, until at one point he said he would be okay with it. I always felt that it would be wrong to do something sexual he wasn't totally into, and would mention was that okay? That I want to do something you are not also really excited about doing? Too the point where maybe I was asking too much and should have just gone one way or another.
I figured, a few weeks ago, that I might as well go ahead and maybe he would end up enjoying it. While we were feeling each other up (or down?) he got kindof flushed, and he said that he felt something. He wouldn't tell me if he liked it or not, though... he said he didn't totally know.
After that I would play this dance where I would say I was worried about taking advantage of him, but then he would roll his eyes (like "you're not taking advantage of me!") and I would end up touching his penis anyway. I don't know if he's felt something since that one time.
Just today there was no one home and we both have spare so we took our shirts off and were pretty much making out... Anyway I started to give him a handjob and his penis was... well it was getting aroused, and he was touching me, too. Out of the blue he makes this totally in pain/grossed out/disgusted face and I'm like, "what?" At first I thought my vagina may be super giving out discharge, or I had hurt him somehow, but when I put my glasses on I see that he's upset because he's cummed all over his pants. "The male body is pretty gross" Was the first thing he said. Then he told me it (me feeling him up) didn't feel like anything.
My question is - since he's pretty much usually grossed out by the male sex drive/ male objectification of women, is it possible he is mentally shutting out the pleasure he's getting from anything sexual? I do know that he has the ability to shut out emotions; he's told me this. If this is the case, what should I do (should I do anything)? Is it possible that this is a situation thing, or that he will become more sexual in the future? And if I in any way get him to do something sexual that he doesn't get anything out of - is this wrong?
-- background info: We have been dating for two years and totally love each other. Even though he seems to not be aroused by my boobs or vulva, he loves kissing me - like, addicted to it, as well as holding me, cuddling, ect. We are both in gr 12 (I'm 18, he's 17) and are both virgins. Our relationship is totally satisfying for me otherwise so while this is a concern it is not a dealbreaker. (link)
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You should ask him how he feels about this whole situation. Talk to him.
From my personal opinion, I think you should stop if this is uncomfortable for him, but if he's fine with it, go ahead.
The only way to find out if he enjoys doing that or not is by asking him. Don't try to force him into doing something he doesn't enjoy.
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16/f
this is a bit awkward but after i masturbate i have lots of creamy white discharge. is that normal?? (link)
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It's completely normal. Your white discharge is like a guy's cum. It comes as you get turned on, or after masturbation. Everything's fine.
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this weekend i am going to one of my best friend's party. alot of people from my old school are going that i havn't seen in a year or two. especially this guy anthony who i really liked and we flirted and stuff a while ago but we havn't spoken in about a year. when i see him i dont know how to act or say. i still really like him. any advice??? please let me know (link)
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Just act as you always would, be yourself. Try to catch up some news, talk casually. Become friends, real friends before doing anything rash. You have to learn how to comfortable around him, how to act yourself around him. It's not gonna be any fun if you don't know what to say or how to be when around him, therefore, being around would be no fun. Just try to be as normal as you usually are, be yourself.
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Im 13 and people come to me saying if i like tommy and i say no but they dont belive me what should i do?? (link)
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The question here is... Do you like Tommy? If you do, there's no shame in that. Be true to yourself.
If you don't like Tommy, simply tell them you don't.
Tell them to stop asking you if you like him or not.
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i wanna gett my belly pierced soooo badly you
don't even know, but idon'tknow how much does
it really hurt and if your skinny does it her
more? whats the chance of infection? and whats
the cost of getting it done? and i wanna convince
my mom to let me get it done but she keeps on
saying no, is there anyway to ensure to her
that its safe? please leave something (:
-toriii ;DD (link)
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Well, many say it doesn't hurt for long but you should get your facts straight about piercings. Be careful to not let your piercing get infected. Don't change your ring for six months.
My personal opinion, don't get it pierced. Your mom knows best.
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im trying to lose about 7 pounds (have lost 5 already) been eating reallllllly good the last couple weeks and tonight im going out to eat with my family for my sisters birthday. i was wondering if its a big deal if i eat bad food? i was thinking ill probably get a hamburger and fries or something and ill try not to eat too much of it maybe half and let my family snack off mine. is this a terrible thing and is it going to set me backk very far? is it okay to do this once every few weeks? i dont want to wake up tomorrow a fat coww =\\ but ive got to have something delicious once in awhile right? (link)
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You can eat unhealthy foods every once in a while, nothing wrong with that, just don't eat until you're bloated. (Studies show that you should eat about 4-6 times a day but just to satisfy that hunger)
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does anyone know any songs that are about a break up under the category of:
1. The person cheated on you
2. Breaking up and being confident to find someone else
3. Breaking up and knowing your ex made the mistake and won't find someone else
thank you! (link)
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Lips of an Angel- about this guy who misses his ex and wishes his current gf were her.
Before He Cheats- well, the title says it all. This girl does stuff to her bf before he cheats.
You can also google some songs.
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13/f
I get really turned on when people sneeze. Is that weird? (link)
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Well, I can't say I've heard THAT before. But everyone is different, it doesn't make them weird. If everyone were the same, the Earth would be a pretty boring place.
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ok, so I made my friend email my crush and tell him that she has a friend that really likes him, she would forward the emails to me, but somehow my name got in there by mistake and i didn't want him to know i like him.
So i emailed him and told him i didn't like him, he said he was cool with it, but he said he didn't know who i was. He probably forgot my name, so last time i saw him one of my friends was shouting my name
then after that he started acting kind of hurt, did he like me? I like him and i really want to let him know now, what do you think I should do?
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I think you should get to know him better before doing anything. See if he's compatible with you, let him learn your name first. You guys should become friends and then, when you think the time's right, tell him you like him. He might even like you back, and if he doesn't, there are tons of other guys out there who are just as great. The worst he can do is reject you, right? You don't wanna spend your days wondering what could have happened.
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I have to admit. What you say is true. But the thing that bugs me the most is the fact that he's not mine. He's not anybody's. We're just friends right now. And that's what makes figuring out my feelings that much harder. (link)
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Then you should definitely confront him and tell him your feelings. Maybe he'd feel the same. You'll never know if you don't tell him. What's the worst that could happen? He's a nice guy, the worst he could say is he just wants to be friends. So, give it a shot.
It seems that you really like him. It's going to hurt more not knowing how he feels.
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and how does it help? (link)
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Well, it's true. Talking about your problems really does help sometimes. It's a way to vent, resolve conflicts, etc.
For example: My friend and I got into a HUGE argument last year and it would have never been resolved if we didn't talk things out. We would probably still be angry at each other and miss all the fun times we had from then til now.
So, talking about your problems really does help you. It just depends on who you talk to. It would help if you talked to someone who is full of advice and listens well. Someone who is also trustworthy.
It's really not good to keep things bottled up. You might explode one day.
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would there be any eggs in penutbutter oreos?? i know they say in white cream alot of eggs. i have egg allgery.. (link)
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I'm pretty sure they do have eggs. You can always check the ingredients but most baked goods (cookies, cupcakes, cakes) are made with eggs.
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[[Sorry so lond]] Well I moved to californa last month and stared school like 4 weeks ago so im new and i go to school with my cosuin and i like this kid a lot i've kinda been talking to him on myspace sometime when i lived in New mexico so we kinda new each other becuse my cousin .but he likes another girl a lot but she dosent like him should i tell him i like him or wait, tell him face to face or tell my firend to tell him....?? (link)
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Wow... that's a really confusing story.
I think you should get to know this kid better before telling him your feelings for him. You know, it may just be the light crush.
Then, when you guys are friends, tell him how you feel. Who knows, maybe he'll like you back? What's the worst that could happen? Rejection? It's not that bad. At least you won't spend your days wondering what could have happened if you told him the truth, but as I said before, get to know him better.
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